At this “reception” I did not try to answer as I would like to be thought of, but as it really is. Everything was fair.
I especially wanted to say thank you to Maxim (aka dpmmax
) for the reception. I hope the diagnosis he makes based on the results of the appointment will also be objective and honest :) 
Here are my answers with very minor corrections to my spelling errors - the reception was carried out online and there was no time to adjust or correct anything. .
1. About heredity. Mikhail, you have pregnant women in your family... ugh, I meant - were there bosses?
Hi all!
I’ll warn you right away I will write without periods or commas Capital letter - the beginning of a new sentence
So the answer
There were always some activists and bosses on my father’s side. Not big in status, but always people with an active position.
Grandmother was the head of the village council.
And dad was the head of all social affairs of a large enterprise - he was responsible for ensuring that everything was fine for the employees :)
2. Mikhail, what did you want to become as a child?
Whoever didn’t want to In general, like everyone else
But the most unusual thing is that I became a neurosurgeon when I was 14-16 years old. It was so mysterious and unexplored, but at the same time so close and close.
Surprisingly, my daughter, who is 16, also now wants to become a brain scientist. It’s genes, although she and I practically didn’t talk about it.
3. Mikhail, did you grow up as a calm or hectic child? When was the last time you fought?
I was rather active I was involved in everything I was always doing something, reading I was doing everything very actively
I fought - if you don’t take my periodic boxing lessons (this is of course not a fight, but when a kumpol coach gives it - then of course you understand how hard it is for them in the ring) - then for a very long time. At 19 years old:)
We were standing at the bus stop on the night of January 1 (immediately after the New Year's party) and then a group of drunken ballers approached our university friends.
Well, word for word - we made the mistake of saying that we were from the university - and those guys decided that they could get away with us - we're kind of nerds.
Well, in short, they didn’t succeed - the swing was quite short. The guys ran and promised to return with their comrades. Well, we decided not to wait - and went on foot. It was on the outskirts of Yekaterinburg. Out of harm's way. But the feeling of victory was very inspiring
4. More about heredity and roots. In which country in the world would you like to be born?
I never thought about it. This is very hypothetical.
I started turning it over in my mind. Everywhere has its pros and cons.
But I like Russia. I'm not happy with a lot of things, of course. But I like. Although at short intervals sometimes you just want to leave :)
5. Previously, it was fashionable to “mow” from service. And now? Will you send your son to serve in the army?
Honestly, I wouldn’t want to be in our current state. There are other ways to educate the right qualities in young people.
Well, I’d rather pay taxes so that professionals can serve in the army
6. Everyone starts somewhere, including earning money. How did you earn your first money?
I earned my first money between 7th and 8th grade. On summer holidays. In the old days there was such a program for students - you work in real production and are paid a real salary. Everything is adult. The only thing is 4 hours a day no more.
He swept, painted, picked up trash, carried all sorts of rubbish - well, in general, as a auxiliary worker. Earned my first 40!!! rubles It was decent money back then.
And so then I worked every summer :) After a month and a half of work, I went on my own around the country. Alone or with a friend. It was safe then. As it seemed to me
7. Honest earnings - this is understandable. But. Have you ever stolen?
It would be more convenient for me to answer one question at a time
I'll answer the seventh
Honestly, we had to steal potatoes from the collective farm in the student detachment. It was a shame, but on the other hand, she still disappeared. And then they brought it to their dorm in bulk. And they lived for a whole year. With potato. The most offensive thing is that someone in my dorm also stole a bag of potatoes. In general - where you find it and where you lose it
8. I understand that there must be discipline at work. But. Will you justify an employee for absenteeism because of love?
I’ll probably justify it, of course - But only once. It will greatly reduce the degree of complaint if he also gives an honest warning and does not lie and explains the reason.
But if this happens regularly, then I’m afraid it will be a little difficult for him. After all, other employees and the Company as a whole depend on employees. Therefore, there is clearly no need to abuse it.
9. About money again. How did you make your first million dollars?
Again about money :) You doctor have your own problems, I see
If it’s a one-time deal and in cash, then I earned it at IES, where I was the General Director from the moment of its founding and a shareholder - based on the results of the first three years from the start of the project, the first results appeared.
10. What movie are you ready to watch every day?
Every day - I'm afraid I don't have time, but I really like the movie Gladiator with Russell Crowe. Maximus had everything - fame, recognition and power, but he didn’t need it. Everything was taken away from him and even more - his freedom was taken away. And even in this state, he was great. And then he rose again, being a slave, he was taller than the emperor, and won this unequal duel. Strength of mind
I love.
I watch it often
11. What was the last thing you laughed at?
Yes, we’re all just laughing together here about the fact that it’s not clear who’s diagnosing who :)))
12. A separate question from my youngest daughter: what the hell with them, with princesses - where do they study to become big bosses?
Everywhere
Life teaches you if you look around and learn from your own, or even better, from other people’s mistakes - and at the same time not be afraid - then this school is everywhere
And it’s not a question of being a big boss - but being a leader, that’s cool!!!
13. Which book made the greatest impression on you as a child?
Probably not a book, but books - books by Jules Verne. It was so cool, unusual, scientific at the same time, about another life, about adventures, about heroes, about trials. Eh, I was always late for classes. I'll sit down for the next one. And that's it - it disappeared.
14. Now a little about forecasting ability. Who could be the next president in Russia?
This is where my analytical skills fail. I don't know. Honestly.
15. Well, in general: how does the “harsh” life of a top manager in Siberia differ from the “harsh” life of a top manager in Moscow?
In Moscow you spend more time on the road. When I worked in Irkutsk, it was a five-minute walk to work. Beauty. A different feeling of life. And here it’s at least an hour there and an hour back. Otherwise - nothing :)))
16. A little about the work itself. Do you like Beeline advertising yourself? Do you consider it “youth”?
I like the advertising. She is lively, with humor, with enthusiasm, maybe now she is not exactly a youth person, but our Clients are not only youth.
Svetlakov is great, we recently discussed the feeling of collaboration at the premiere of his latest film.
Now people in the regions ask him about mobile communications - people consider him a professional in this matter :)))
The only thing the guys from Chelyabinsk complain about is advertising. For some reason not from Tagil :)
17. How much has voice traffic in cellular networks decreased in recent years? For example, on average minutes per person? At what speed are you becoming more of a mobile ISP?
Voice traffic is not decreasing - people are not talking less, and there are countries where people talk many times more.
Data usage has increased 2.5 times over the past year - more and more people are using it and becoming more integrated with the Internet.
18. I will again use my official position to satisfy my personal curiosity. What kind of work and personal cars do you have?
I have a working Jaguar XJ, but I don’t need a personal one. I sold my Aston Martin a couple of years ago because it sat for six months and I didn’t approach it - I didn’t have time. But such a car should drive.
On weekends, I drive with my family in my wife’s car. And that's enough for me.
19. And again about work. Can you tell me why sometimes it seems that mobile operators are deceiving their clients over little things? They turn on the buzzer for him “for free”, and if he doesn’t turn it off within a month, he gets a haircut from the sucker for 30 rubles a month. Do you think this practice is hypocritical?
Well, the dial tone is from a different operator :)
But I consider this practice, to put it easier to say, wrong. When I came to telecom, it was one of the most unpleasant discoveries. And after rethinking these approaches, we have completely changed our approaches since January. With the loss of part of the income, of course.
But you can’t do business on this. But I want to say something else - people themselves accustom operators to this - after all, having found themselves in such a situation, in most cases they “forgive” him for it and stay with him. There is a feeling that you can do this all the time - there are no consequences. Therefore the temptation is very great. But we overcame this temptation within ourselves.
20. A bad hedgehog is one who does not dream of becoming an anti-tank. Do you have far-reaching plans yourself? Well, should we take over all cellular communications in Russia? In the world? The planet itself? Galaxy?
I have a dream to make VimpelCom the most beloved cellular company by Customers - but at the same time also the most effective from an economic point of view. And this is a very difficult story.
21. We all have to make difficult decisions from time to time. The most difficult decision as CEO of Beeline - what was it?
The most difficult thing is to change the ideology and approach to the Client. That is, to designate and defend the direction of movement is much different than it was. And it was not an easy decision, maybe not from the point of view of making such a decision - the hardest thing is its implementation
22. Imagine that you opened a bottle of good wine, and a genie came out and offered you three wishes. What will you wish for? Or call us right away?
I'll call you right away :)
23. Many people have their own phobias. And you? Are you afraid of anything in particular?
I’m actually not afraid of anything. Maybe only for my children - if your child is sick, then you yourself cannot do anything. Nothing more than watching the doctor solve the problem. A terrible feeling of helplessness. Anyone who has experienced this knows. This is something I really wouldn’t want.
24. Work is work, but somehow you need to be distracted and relax, and I will never believe that you are not stressed. So how do you relax and unwind?
I have a hobby - I am a trainer. And so - time with family and children. The best there is. Really. I don’t go to parties much - the only place I’ve been in a couple of years is to see Svetlakov. I watched its premiere. After all, our main advertising hero :)
I love to travel with my family. It's cool. I read a lot on vacation.
25. Do you often get annoyed by friends who claim that a nearby cellular antenna is harmfully affecting them with its rays?
Not often yet. I live in a deserted area :)
26. Again I am curious under the guise of professional interest. What is your salary?
27. Provocative question from a psychiatrist. Do you believe in God?
I don't go to church. But I believe in a guardian angel. It happened several times - as if something was stopping you. And several times it saved lives. After stories like this you start to believe
28. What do you not know how to do, but would like to know how to do?
Hello everyone, I'm on my way home from work. I use a Beeline modem, so I can write in the car. I’ll take this opportunity to get the answers as promised.
I can't sing, but I would really like to. Very. But the bear stepped on my ear several times. Therefore, the best thing I can sing is the song I will kill you boatman... :)
29. What leisure places do you like in Moscow?
I really like the Luzhniki area - it’s green, good, cultural and very calm. There are always few people. You can take a walk, roller skate, breathe some air. This is one of my favorite places in Moscow.
30. What would you do if you didn't have to earn money?
It would work :) This is interesting. This inserts. New tasks, new people, problems and their solutions.
And I would probably teach others what I know. This is an exciting process - when you need to explain to another person so that he understands, accepts and definitely uses it. My mother is a math teacher - apparently she has it in her...
31. Are you ready to make Beeline the first cellular company in Russia from which its users do not expect tricks?
This is where we are heading...
32. What track or CD will you put on if you feel bad?
Good question.. Got me thinking... Something romantic - Celine Dion probably or Adele
I wrote it just now and thought - I’ll include it like this for myself now. Not because it sucks - I just wanted it
33. Again a provocative question from the psychiatrist: with whom did you last have a drink?
And I don't drink at all...
This is where the doctor begins to have doubts.
I never drank alcohol at all.
So, here the doctor begins to have serious suspicions about the adequacy and honesty of the patient
No, indeed, those who know me well will confirm this...
That's why they drank - it's not with me. Who I was with when the person was drinking was my wife. She and I were on vacation in Rome - she had a glass of wine. Well, not just one - a couple...
34. Here the nice nurses asked me to ask: how much does your suit and your watch cost?
I don't wear a watch - it doesn't last me long. I don’t know why, but everyone doesn’t go.
The phone replaces my watch very well. And it costs much less - and it can do something else.
The suit costs about four thousand dollars. Sorry - but this is an expensive work uniform. We have to conform. On other days I dress much more modestly.
35. Again about your work. Name 5 improvements that occurred in Beeline after your arrival.
Changed ideology and attitude towards the Client
Deep cultural changes have begun within the Company - first of all, we ourselves must change
We formed a new serious and result-oriented team
Raised morale and mood in the team - this is important, nothing can be done without it
We did a lot of good things for our Clients in the first quarter - and this is just the beginning. It will be more interesting later...
36. And another question about work. Have you set a beautiful, measurable development goal for VimpelCom for yourself or the shareholders, what is this goal?
We've already decided on a beautiful one. With what is being measured, we are now further defining it. Here you have to think through everything and calculate it...
We'll tell you as soon as we're ready...
37. My wife (she’s also a bookworm) asks: what book are you reading now?
I will have a boring answer.
I’ll tell you which one I just finished: The First 90 days (Michael Watkins) - I was preparing for my own training for our employees (conducted on Saturday). A book about what to do and what not to do in the first 90 days in a new position :)
There is a catastrophic lack of time for fiction.
38. The eldest daughter also decided to be curious. Who would you like to apologize to and for what?
Personal question if not answered formally
I would ask the older children for forgiveness. Now their son is 20 and his daughter is 16. I spent little time with them, worked a lot and worked away from home. I have a very good relationship with them, but only now I understand how much they missed me. Especially during certain periods of their lives.
That's it
39. I don’t remember who asked me to ask this question, but oh well. Is sexuality education required in school?
It may be necessary. But I wouldn't introduce it. There is no one to teach it. Knowing firsthand the average age of teachers, it is unclear who will teach it to children who already have access to the Internet and can teach the teachers themselves a lot. At least they have a lot of theoretical preparation for the time when they need to teach it. Moreover, they are much more interested in this from the point of view of the subject itself than from the teacher himself.
So it will be more funny and inconvenient for the teacher than useful for the children.
40. And one last question to complete my list. Did I bother you too much with questions?))
Good questions. These are not usually asked in regular interviews. I liked the process of answering - it makes you think about something, remember something, smile somewhere, be sad somewhere :)
Thank you Maxim for the format and for your time
As I understand, between asking questions, you also saw patients :)
Have a nice evening already
Hello, dear readers! I wonder what happens in a psychologist's office behind closed doors? Today you will learn some questions that psychologists ask their patients. I hope this article will help you get rid of discomfort and confidently go to your first appointment or send your child or teenager to him with peace of mind.
What does a psychologist do?
If you are going to an appointment with a psychologist or it is taking place at school, and you want to prepare your child in advance, then there is no need to worry. First of all, the doctor will try to win over the visitor, find out what brought him or what problems he encountered, what he.
Don't be afraid of judgement. Most situations that seem out of the ordinary to the average person are actually widespread. In psychology there are no concepts of “right” or not, there is a subtle one, and it is on this that the doctor will focus his attention. You will understand that your situation is quite natural and is not worth the extra effort.
The task of a psychotherapist is to help a person and in most cases, his internal resources are quite enough to do this. But the psyche is such a complex mechanism that, along with the possibilities, there is an incredible amount that does not allow a person to cope on his own.
Do not deceive or insist on seeing your psychologist. The specialist will try to help; he has no right to judge anyone, but he will be able to open up new opportunities, as well as find new ways to solve long-standing problems that the person did not even suspect about.
With questions, the psychologist clarifies the situation for himself, and therefore answers to them cannot be prepared in advance. Although, I am convinced that if you have a meeting soon, you will try to figure it out on your own and think through several options for dialogue. It's good anyway. You will be able to identify all the episodes that bother you and may find new answers to old questions that concern you personally.
There are no special, standard questions that a psychologist usually asks all his visitors. Each situation is individual. They also help the person to look at the problem from a different angle and find unexpected solutions, as well as notice points that he had not paid attention to before.
What to ask
Some clients themselves prepare a wide list, family and work. If you have any questions, you can feel free to ask them, but you don’t have to try to come up with anything in advance. In the process of dialogue they will arise by themselves. If this does not happen, there is nothing to worry about. This is an optional part.
You yourself will be able to take a fresh look at familiar things and this is very useful. Often at the reception, clients begin their true attitude towards their partner, their work, and much more.
If you are already interested, I can recommend the book Barbara Sher "What to dream about. How to understand what you really want". It contains a lot of interesting information not only by definition, but also several strategies for achieving them.
How to prepare for a meeting correctly
If you're going to have a crisis very soon, then the most important thing for you is to calm down. You understand perfectly well that you are healthy, and problems, troubles and misunderstandings are a very common phenomenon for which you should not be ashamed.
If you don't want to talk or are afraid that you won't be able to be open, that's okay. Each person needs time to make sure of the opponent’s reliability and feel safe.
If by the end of the meeting you feel that there is no contact or that you didn’t like the psychologist in some way, then this is simply not your specialist. Look for someone else and don’t be disappointed in everyone else, it happens.
Well, that's all in general. Don't forget to subscribe to the newsletter. See you again and have a good day.
Many people want to take advantage of psychological help, consultation, coaching, but are stopped by the internal fear that they will look stupid or be obtuse on literally every question - say the wrong thing, or something like that.
Others are stopped because they do not understand the procedure and its expediency. And they prefer the ears of friends with a glass of tea.
Let's look at the main thing - why is he doing this?
Those who have known me for a long time know that I am not a fanatic of classical counseling by psychologists, nor of popular psychology, trainings, or webinars.
It doesn't really help improve your quality of life.
Find out something interesting, hang out - yes.
But nothing more.
Let's return to the topic, consider the classic question-answer approach, and for the patient at the end of the article, at the end of the article, a million-dollar question from a psychoTECHNOLOGIST, not a psychologist))) namely a question from me.
Regardless of which psychological school or direction belongs to a psychologist working on a helpline, or in the office of a certain social institution, and even private practices (which is very rare in Russia), the questions are the same.
Their goal is to get to know you.
Note - no help! The issues you came with cannot be resolved.
For example, you can go to a psychoanalyst endlessly and vent for hours. As part of my studies at the university, I paid my own money for the sake of interest, and not just took a course on psychoanalysis or personality theory.
What does this give?
The psychoanalyst will, within the framework of the theory that he has been hammering out for years and which he himself has been going through for many years (and if you call a person a pig 100 times, then he will grunt 101 times - you know, yes) look for hidden sexual desires, suppressed arousal, fears and other heresy from moms and dads and then explain to them why things are the way they are now.
At least figure it out.
And you can understand them - how can you help without knowing the person?
But here's the catch:
No matter how a person talks about himself (even without sincerely hiding more than one fact in his biography and his attitude towards him, which is sometimes difficult), something will be distorted and forgotten.
You don’t have to go far - everyone has had events in their life in the past that, when they happened, frightened them and tormented their nerves, but now they remember them with a smile or calmly.
If you are still getting worked up (freaking out, being afraid) – then this is a big problem!
Psychologists love to look for this, since it promises a lot of consultations ahead.
And the second catch: well, any super-professional is not objective.
Or the framework of his school greatly limits his perception.
Or the elementary ability to concentrate, personal condition, state of affairs, and so on, all this can affect the quality of the listener.
Just remember the game broken phone.
And in life it’s the same - the same story, passing through each ear, changes.
We are all people, not machines, and this is natural, like breathing.
Therefore, and precisely for this reason, I do not undertake any professional assistance to a person without OBJECTIVE acquaintance with him. And the only way to do this is to go through (click on the underlined word to find out what it is).
You can do this today!
And it will already be clear why something happens in life, what a person complains about and what he wants to change, which means the level of help will be as different as heaven and earth from any psychologist - no matter what school (from arrangements, vectors, trainings, role-playing games on a chair, fairytale therapy, and so on).
Remember: that what questions does a psychologist ask? doesn't matter!
The most important thing is why he asks them. We've looked into this.
But the most valuable thing is a question for yourself and my question for YOU! As I say, the million dollar question.
When a person voices that, for example, he wants to get married, lose weight, get rich, quit smoking, sort out relationships with children, climb the career ladder, buy a car, effectively manage people, I have only one question.
An answer that, if you know, you can achieve what you declare to yourself as a goal.
I ask myself more harshly, but then we don’t swear.
For example: why do you need a relationship?
Why earn so much money? What will you spend it on?
You will be surprised - but most of the wishes that do not work out, without this answer.
And also, check whether the answers are generally consistent with the goal?
And one more thing: the answer to the only point is not accepted. Because this answer is not the final goal.
But when the ultimate goal of the question is revealed (and this is the strength and scale of the question - what for?) - then the person cannot be stopped: he describes in all colors a completely different life than he has now.
Tragicomedy - that we ourselves do not know these answers for our own purposes, which we set either before the NG, or rewrite over and over again.
Even if you intend to go to a psychologist, ask yourself this question?
For what? What do you want from him?
Having received the answers, you will manage the process and you will be able to ask him questions, and understand from his questions whether the specialist in front of you will help you or not.
I’ve heard from reviews that I’m a tough, laconic girl, and I’m not the one to cry or complain for compassion. Contact me only to resolve issues and if there is a specific goal.
If your answer is not about this, what did I write about myself to the question of Why? - look for your specialist. This is normal and smart.
To sum it up:
A useful thing is to be able to ask questions.
Not all of my colleagues know how to do this, or rather, they are experts, but their questions work for their own purposes, not for you.
If you eat grated kalach, you will get your portion of the benefits.
The very formulation of the question, the very fact of its origin within you, suggests that a psychotherapist is most likely needed. We all carry unlived conflicts within us, and when they escalate, we begin to experience vague anxiety, expressed, among other things, in such matters.
However, this is philosophy. If you take it out of the equation, you can identify several very specific signs that will help you understand that the help of a psychotherapist would at least not hurt.
Let me immediately note that we are not talking about clinical cases - people diagnosed with depression or some kind of disorder - but about the urban neurotics glorified by Woody Allen, about those who seem to be “fine”, but still “something... it’s disturbing.” It’s not that I turn a blind eye to the former, it’s just that there can be no doubt about them: face-to-face work with a psychotherapist (and often also medicinal intervention) is necessary for them without any answers to the question. The latter has the luxury of doubt. They need a psychotherapist not in order to survive, but rather in order to live well. And unlike the first ones, they can work with it remotely -
1. Constant feeling of guilt
Imagine a simple situation: your boss calls you. You don’t know why or on what issue, but everything shrinks inside you, and you begin to frantically think about what exactly you did wrong.
Or, let’s put it this way – you sort things out with your partner, but are immediately lost, because in literally two or three sentences he convinces you that your position has no right to exist and that it’s all your fault (again).
If these situations are familiar to you, then a therapist can be very helpful, because this means that you have a strong feeling of guilt and inadequacy ingrained inside you. Agree, it would be interesting to figure out where you got it from.
2. Feeling like you're doing the wrong thing
...And also that your partner is not the same, the job is not the same, the apartment is not the same, and that in general you are living someone else’s rented life.
All this is a symptom of the age-old situation in which parents impose many of their expectations on the child, and he then feels obligated to fulfill them.
These expectations are ingrained so deeply that they become part of the personality, and a person cannot always understand exactly why he works as a lawyer, despite the fact that he has had a strong inclination towards graphic design all his life.
3. Constant procrastination
Much has been said about this over the past few years, but no one has said the most important thing: procrastination is not a problem, but a symptom of it. This is not a flu virus that you can catch on public transport and then recover from, but some more or less permanent condition caused by a malfunction in the mental structure. Making to-do lists, time management, or simply exerting your will will not help here. Procrastination means that you either do not see the point in what you are doing (see the previous paragraph), or carry within yourself a ban on successful activity.
But what does ban mean?
I assume you know that there is a special and very strong bond between parents and children. I also assume that you understand that breaking this connection could be very painful for them. Remember how your mother told you when you were a child, “don’t go too far” or “put it down, it’s too hard” or “it’s too difficult for you”?
This was caused not only by the desire to ensure your safety, but also by the fear of allowing you to show independence, letting you go, losing you forever.
This fear is placed in you and leads to the fact that any action that could lead to separation from your parents (read: any manifestation of independence) is perceived as something undesirable or even dangerous. And, roughly speaking, when you once again sit down to write a marketing plan or are about to get a car license, the same cry is heard in your unconscious - “don’t go too far.”
4. Feelings of anxiety and fear
Let's leave aside extreme cases expressed in panic attacks (we definitely need a psychotherapist) and focus on ordinary anxiety. For example, before an important meeting. Or before a date. Or before going to a party. It would seem - what’s wrong, well, I’m worried, yes. I can’t put two words together in a conversation with a stranger. Well, I'm just shy, it's kind of cute to some extent.
All this is true. However, try asking yourself a simple question. What exactly is causing you anxiety? Perhaps you are afraid of not seeming as cool as you would like? Why is it important to you to be cool - so important that your hands are shaking? And why does this desire haunt you always and everywhere? Why did it become a part of your life?
Do not know.
And with a psychotherapist you will find out.
5. Relationship problems
You fall in love, but lose interest as soon as you realize that the feelings are mutual. You tend to choose emotionally unavailable partners. Your sympathies are always directed towards those who are already in a relationship. It seems to you that if you fall in love, then there should be no secrets, boundaries between you and the object of love, and that, in general, you should immediately merge into one shining whole and then live happily and forever.
There may be many options, but the meaning is always the same - an unresolved childhood conflict that you are trying to reproduce in adulthood. If a boy had an emotionally unavailable mother, then he will choose the same women - and if by a lucky mistake he happens to meet someone who is ready to truly love him, he will run away from her in two weeks, since he has absolutely no experience of life in love and emotional contact.
If a girl grew up in a family from which her father left, then relationships with men may be associated with pain and rejection for her, and in order to insure herself against them, she will choose only those men who are initially incapable of them - married, immature or foreigners .
I repeat, there are a million options. But, you see, it’s terribly interesting to understand which one is yours.
6. Pathological dissatisfaction with one’s appearance
No, no, it’s completely normal to look in the mirror from time to time and think, “I’m getting fat.” However, if this thought haunts you relentlessly, if, as often happens, it diverges from reality (and we all know people who look great, but at the same time have many complexes), then this means that someone has planted a strong dissatisfaction with oneself. Who exactly? For what? Why?
To a psychotherapist.
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“I want to ask a question, but I’m afraid to seem strange and stupid” - a similar thought probably occurred to every shy person.
website I have compiled for you a small list of questions that people most often do not ask on their first visit to a psychologist, although they really want to do so.
1. How can I tell if I’m starting to go crazy?
Every person at least once thought that he was starting to go crazy. Only 5% of cases of serious mental disorders suspected by patients during self-diagnosis are confirmed. If you like a variety of tests and you are alarmed by the results, then the wisest decision would be to visit a psychologist’s office. If everything is serious, he will refer you to a psychotherapist.
2. What is the difference between a psychologist and a psychiatrist?
3. Do psychologists have psychological problems?
Psychologists are the same people as their patients, and they experience the same crises, conflicts, and nervous breakdowns. But there is one big difference. A psychologist can recognize his problem, find its origins and solve it. And if necessary, he will resort to professional help without postponing the problem.
4. Do you tell your friends about your patients?
It is impossible to insure against the leakage of private information outside the office, since in any profession there are unscrupulous people. But such cases are the exception. To be sure, discuss the boundaries of confidentiality with your therapist before starting therapy.
5. You worked with the same cases. Why don't you just give advice right away?
The work of a psychologist is not to advise, but to help a person independently reach the true reasons and the right decisions. It is impossible to give advice even in similar situations. All people are different, there cannot be a universal way to solve a problem that will suit everyone.
6. You are younger than me, how can you help me?
There is an opinion that a good psychologist uses his own life experience. And if he is 32 years old, then what kind of experience can we talk about? In fact, the psychologist relies on extensive theoretical knowledge about the functioning of the human psyche.