If he doesn't make plans. A man makes plans for the future

If you're worried that the person you're dating doesn't see a future for your relationship, here's how to check.

In an ideal world, every person we want to be with also wants to be with us. But unfortunately, our desires do not always coincide with reality and the desires of other people. If you're worried that the person you're dating doesn't see a future for your relationship, here's how to check. The main signs that this is really the case (forgive me for being blunt):

1. He never makes concrete plans.

If he doesn't see a future with you, then he won't build one with you. And period.

This means that your dates will be sudden and irregular, never planned in advance. And this is not his spontaneity and unpredictability, but his indecision and uncertainty. He is not interested enough, he is waiting for something or someone more interesting to appear, and you are already the last option.

2. He doesn't introduce you to his family.

You’ve been dating for several months now, his parents live in the same city, and getting to know each other seems like the logical next step, especially since there’s a holiday coming up. But no, he didn’t say a word about your acquaintance. Maybe because he doesn’t see the point in it? Why endure the awkwardness and excitement of the first meeting if he has no intention of building a future with you and making you part of his family?

3. He doesn't call you his girlfriend.

He may say that he doesn’t like labeling, that it doesn’t matter to him, that he doesn’t want these difficulties. But in reality, the problem is not with the labels, but with you. How often do such guys say similar phrases to one girl, and then meet a new one and almost immediately marry her? And they are not afraid of any labels or stamps! It sounds harsh, but it's true - it's about you. If he liked you enough, he would build his future with you, he would call you his girlfriend, and then he would call you his wife.

4. He is ready to date you only on the condition that there will be sex.

Guys understand simple arithmetic. If he wants to have sex with you, then he should continue to take you on dates. If he is not interested in you for something more, he will never agree to just meet without continuing.

5. He doesn't meet your friends.

At some level he knows what he's doing is wrong. He knows he's taking advantage of you, not wanting to promise anything more. And so he avoids meeting people who truly care about you. Because they will see through him in an instant, and he doesn’t want to feel guilty.

6. He doesn't communicate.

He is emotionally closed, he doesn't want to get close to you except physically. Not to mention just answering your calls and messages on time.

7. He never talks about the future.

You are adults. You've been dating long enough that talking about the future seems logical and natural. But you can't talk about it. Because you know where this will lead. To nothing. But don't be afraid of this. It’s better to dot all the i’s right away.

Men are traditionally viewed as emotionally unavailable and difficult to read. However, a man often gives a subtle hint that tells a woman about his feelings. These clues can be easily overlooked if you don't know where to look or if you're not paying attention. Understanding these tips can help reduce the anxiety and stress that comes with relationships.

1. He calls often

When a man calls you frequently, he is indicating that he is interested in talking to you. Even if he is very busy, he will try to take a break to find out how you are doing and your mood.

2. He often plans

It is easier for a man to express his feelings through actions rather than words. Making plans with you is a way of expressing his interest and feelings for you.

By planning activities for the two of you to participate in together, a man shows that he wants a relationship with you. This theory is reinforced when he shows interest by doing things that interest you, such as shopping or going to your favorite cafe.

A man with serious intentions wants to spend his free time only on you. When a woman means nothing to a man, he will prefer to spend his free time on friends, sports, hobbies or the Internet. One caveat, in this case a stable trend should emerge; not coming to a friend’s game a couple of times doesn’t mean anything.

3. It introduces you to family and friends

Meeting his family and friends is often a key indicator of a man's intentions. Inviting you to meet his family and friends is often like an invitation to become a part of his life. A man lets you know he's interested in a relationship by introducing you to the people who matter most to him.

4. He argues with you

Yes exactly! A man will not waste his time and nerves on a quarrel with a woman he does not need! In a delicate situation, he will not argue with a woman who is not interesting to him for the future, but will simply turn around and leave. But it must be remembered that the seriousness of his intentions should be discussed if you have made peace after a strong quarrel.

5. He talks about the future

The greatest indicator that a man is interested in a relationship with a woman is when he makes plans for the future. Even small comments about a wedding, children, or even vacation plans are a man's way of immersing himself in a serious relationship.

A man who wants a serious relationship with you will create plans for a common future and take joint steps to enrich your future. Plans for a future together differ from imaginary fantasies in that a man is ready to do something for a future together, and does everything possible, and thereby takes on some responsibility for you. For example, if a man paid for you in a cafe, this is just a courtesy, but if he found a rented apartment for living together, albeit with reservations, they say, “this is so that we will be closer to each other, and take a closer look at each other, and so on” , this is already a step in a serious direction.

Also, pay attention to your man's use of pronouns: if he uses "we" instead of "I", he is letting you know that you are a couple.

6. He shares his things

A man who wants a serious relationship can easily share his expensive things with his woman. For a man to entrust you with a car or a computer or anything else from his arsenal of favorite things is evidence of trust and special affection.

One wonderful day you met your ideal man. Cupid shot an arrow into the heart, and rose-colored glasses appeared in his eyes. You glow with happiness; it seems that your beloved is the most faithful, reliable and serious man. In your heart you are making plans for the future, dreaming of getting married soon, but that was not the case. Your chosen one remains stubbornly silent, avoiding this topic every time. Doubts arise in his soul as to whether his intentions are serious. If love has settled in your heart, it is difficult to objectively judge a man’s behavior and actions, but this must be done. Here are 6 signs men not treating you seriously.

1. He does not want to introduce you to relatives and friends.

This is a very important indicator of a man’s frivolous attitude. He does not want to let you into his life because he does not plan a long-term relationship with you. Believe me, when a man loves, he himself insists on meeting people close to him. It is important for him to show you to his friends and parents, declaring strong feelings and serious intentions.

It’s another matter if your chosen one has bad relationships with relatives or is embarrassed to show them to you. If, when talking about relatives, he avoids talking about his family, carefully find out what the reason is. Do not put pressure on a man if your guesses are confirmed. Over time, he himself will find a compromise option. The main thing is that your loved one is next to you, and the rest will work out.

2. Rarely calls and writes, disappears and appears again.

This sign is familiar to most girls. He clearly states that men's attitudes are not serious. At first, the young man calls almost every day and bombards her with love SMS. After a while, calls and messages become rare signs of attention. And then the game begins: he disappeared for a week, two, three and showed up again, while the man assures you that he loves you madly and misses you.

We are not talking about business trips and force majeure circumstances. We are talking about a man’s deliberate reluctance to maintain a close relationship with you. What is the reason? The fact is that the hormones of happiness and attraction have lost their strength, and there was no smell of love there. A man does not want to face routine in a relationship, but he also does not want to let you go, either because of the remnants of sympathy, or because of a possessive instinct.

3. You rarely see each other.

The rarity of meetings has a dual origin: either your loved one is really very busy, or his time is spent on another girl. A young man with a frivolous attitude will not find minutes to meet with you. It is enough for him to see you once a week, or even less often. Don’t flatter yourself with hopes - a loving man will always find time for his passion, but an indifferent man will arm himself with a bunch of excuses.

4. A man does not make plans for a future together.

When communicating with your loved one, you talk about the future, about how you will enter it together. A man with a non-serious attitude will talk about anything but plans for the future. He will avoid such conversations in every possible way.

But there is another type of frivolous young people. They enthusiastically tell you lies, telling you how you will get married and have children. The goal of such dreamers is simple - to get the most from you. Having achieved what they want, they quickly disappear from your life.

5. When you are having a hard time, your loved one does not help.

For men who are not serious about you, the most important thing is freedom, lack of responsibility and obligations, so it would be stupid to expect help from them in difficult times. If it seems that you are in a serious relationship, give your loved one a test. If the feelings are mutual, he will definitely help you out; if a man’s attitude is not serious, he will find any way to avoid providing help.

6. A man is not interested in your problems, worries, hobbies.

A loving young man will always know what you are interested in, what you love and what you think about. If you love, you want to know everything about your loved one? This is how men in love behave. If a man does not ask you about these points, rest assured that his attitude is not serious.

Having studied all these signs of a frivolous male attitude, apply them to the behavior of your chosen one. If something matches, you should be wary. If he behaves exactly the opposite, be prepared for the fact that you will soon receive a long-awaited marriage proposal.

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First you say that married men are taboo for you and condemn your friends who date them. And then... then there are a thousand excuses for the fact that you found yourself in the arms of a married man, and why you fell in love with him without memory... And now you live in the hope that he will definitely divorce his wife and build a family with you. Our regular consultant, family psychologist Tatyana Mayor, says: there are at least 8 sure signs that will help you understand that your married man is not going to leave the family for you.

He is of little interest to your life and your family.

His behavior before and after the date is very different.

Before your date, he is caring and helpful, but after that he disappears into his affairs and worries, as if you don’t exist. Then, when a new date becomes possible, the phase of care and consideration is repeated.

What does this mean? First of all, that by and large he doesn’t care about you. Having satisfied some of his needs with your help (most often sexual), he continues his life, in which there are many things that are much more important to him than you. How did you get home? What's your mood? What did you cook for dinner? Does your married lover ask such questions?

He does not make joint long-term plans.

He does not talk about an apartment or house where you will live together, he does not dream of cities where you will go together. There is no talk about the future in your communication. And if they arise, you always initiate them.

What does this mean? There is no place for you in his plans and dreams. Otherwise, his plans for the future would necessarily include such pleasant moments as setting up a home and traveling together. And think twice about his true intentions if, instead of joint plans, he shares his personal plans with you. For example: next winter go to Austria, visit Lake Baikal in the summer, and start renovating your house in the fall. He doesn't ask if you agree? Can you take a vacation? Therefore, we must admit: you are not included in his plans, unlike his wife, with whom he planned all this.

He is in a bad mood after sex.

The main reason why married men often have a bad mood after sex with their mistress is an increased sense of guilt towards their family. This happens to those men whose relationship with their wife has not yet exhausted itself and whose family ties are still quite strong.

What does this mean? It is unpleasant for a man to realize his infidelity, his self-esteem decreases. And after sex, this infidelity is especially obvious. If his family is actually very close to collapse, then the feeling of guilt does not haunt the man every time after intimacy with his mistress. Moreover, if he has made a choice in favor of a new relationship, he most often ends intimate relationships with his wife. His mood after sex will help you distinguish lies from the truth.

He doesn't speak words of love.

Another sign is the absence of tender words and declarations of love. A lot of tenderness and a declaration of love are signs of serious passion, a kind of guarantee of the presence of feelings on the part of a man.

What does this mean? And the man is subconsciously afraid to give his mistress such a guarantee. Because she, confident in the feelings of her married lover, may begin to make demands: leave her wife, “legalize the relationship,” start living together, etc. Fearing such behavior on the part of a woman, a married lover, whose plans do not include leaving his family, is careful with tender words.

He doesn't introduce you to anyone.

A man planning to change his marital status, as a rule, involves his best friend or even two or three friends in this. He introduces the woman to them, it is important for him not so much to demonstrate his success with the opposite sex, it is important for him to hear the opinion of his best friends, to get their “okay”. A married man is unlikely to take his mistress to his parents, but if a man has a sister with whom he has a trusting relationship, he introduces the woman to her too.

What does this mean? If a man doesn’t introduce you to anyone, this is a bad sign. This means he doesn't need you to be "approved" because it's not his intention to bring you into his inner circle.

Everything revolves around intimate encounters.

Try to remember where you go with your married lover? And if such places are difficult to remember, then make an honest conclusion: he does not want to spend as much of his free time with you as possible. Walking together in the park at lunchtime, going to the movies, visiting exhibitions, concerts...

What does this mean? The intimate sphere is, of course, also very important, but if all your meetings are devoted only to this, then you should seriously think about why he doesn’t share other aspects of his life with you? Believe me, this is not at all a matter of fear of being “caught”, meeting mutual friends, etc.

A woman's hand is felt everywhere.

Among his things that he comes to you with after work are trays and food containers? Have no doubt - it’s not he himself who packs lunches for work, it’s his wife, she’s the one who makes sure that he doesn’t ruin his stomach with fast food.

Ask him where he bought his jumper, boots, coat. What guided your choice? Three or four questions like this and you will be sure with whom he made purchases and under whose leadership.

What does this mean? This is a sign that his family is strong, and his wife is caring, protective, and most likely quite domineering. However, the man accepts this care and guardianship because he values the stability that his family gives him. A mistress for him is most often entertainment and a way to try on a different role. If his family were on the verge of collapse (which he may be trying to convince you of), there would no longer be such concern on the part of his wife, and the man himself would reject her.

By the way, keep in mind that a caring woman is unlikely to easily let go of a man; she will fight for him.

And finally...

Not all eight signs need to be present. For example, your married lover may be quite caring - regularly text you, take an interest in your mood and support you in difficult moments. He can invite you to the cinema and to exhibitions. But if you find at least half of the 8 signs given, this is a reason to seriously think about it, turn off the heart that pushes you into his arms, and turn on the mind that offers to flee.

Are you ready to spend years of your life on this man? Are you sure it's ? According to statistics, if a man is really planning a divorce, then, having met a new love, he leaves the family within three to four months. This happens in cases where in a family for a long time, a man had the status of being married rather formally, so the emergence of a new love was a catalyst. The maximum period that psychologists talk about is a year. If after a year of your relationship with a married man, he still hasn’t left the family, you have every chance of waiting another ten years, or a quarter of a century... but you still won’t.

A dream in which you undertake to build your own house foreshadows a strong financial situation. If you see a foundation that has already been built, it means that in reality you will avoid some tedious work. Build walls - you will encounter many obstacles on your path to success. Building a porch means that you will soon receive a new assignment and a higher salary.

If you build a roof in a dream, this is a sign of incredible luck and success. Building a home out of ice suggests that your family existence, alas, will not be cloudless. Building a shed, garage or just a shed means receiving money from debtors.

Interpretation of dreams from the Dream Interpretation alphabetically

Dream Interpretation - Man

If you dreamed of a man, it means that you are in for some kind of pleasure. If you see an unfamiliar man in a dream, this foreshadows the commission of some kind of adventure. Seeing yourself as a man in a dream means getting into some spicy situation with far-reaching consequences.

If the man you saw in a dream is in prison, then this promises you the implementation of plans you have long nurtured.

Seeing a male actor in a dream means an upcoming quarrel with friends or the loss of someone close to you. Resentment, tears and grief are possible. Annoyance, trouble.

If the man you saw in your dream was an obstetrician, this means an imminent illness.

Seeing the man of your dreams in a dream and enjoying communicating with him means that you will have to cry a lot and worry about trifles.

If in a dream a small man tries to start a quarrel or fight with a person superior to him in strength, this means that you are wasting your time over trifles. The dream also promises an unexpected acquaintance, thanks to which many joys will appear in your life.

By the way, various historical sources provide numerous examples of dreams that predicted events that actually happened later. Such facts are cited in his “Comparative Lives” by the ancient Greek writer and historian Plutarch (c. 45 – c. 127), the Roman historian and writer Gaius Suetonius Tranquillus (c. 70 – c. 140) and many other ancient authors talk about prophetic dreams.

Plutarch’s story from his famous “Biographies” has been preserved about one prophetic dream that predicted misfortune. One night before the assassination of the Roman dictator and commander Gaius Julius Caesar, his wife Calpurnia woke up sobbing: she dreamed that she was holding her murdered husband in her arms. Her experiences were so convincing that Julius Caesar intended to cancel the Senate meeting scheduled for that day. If he had attached importance to this warning from above given to his wife, he would have remained alive (he was stabbed twenty-three times in the Senate, in which all the senators took part) and the subsequent history of the Roman Empire would have turned out differently.

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