We need to learn to ask. Learn to express your needs and discomfort. Talk about your feelings. Open your heart. This is a normal and healthy position. This is the instinct of self-preservation together with self-respect. And besides, it is also caring for another person. Because very often people harm us not because they are sadists or hate us. Most often, they simply do not know that we feel discomfort.
Ask and it will be given to you. That's exactly what the Bible says. This is how you should “achieve your goals.” Starting with a request. But we prefer to listen to another source: “Never ask for anything. They will come and give everything themselves.” It was not the Lord who said it, but we believed it. And they began to live like this.
Staying silent when you are in pain is an unhealthy position. When the masseuse puts oil in your eyes, and your eyes burn, to remain silent means to harm yourself. When the hairdresser makes the air too hot and you remain silent, you are harming yourself. And besides, you “curse” the hairdresser. When a person sits on your arm on the bus and you remain silent, this is causing harm to both of you. He just doesn't know that your hand is there. When someone stepped on your foot, said an offensive word, deceived you, harshly interrupted you, ridiculed you... All these situations are just a reason to learn how to talk about your feelings. Calmly and without scandals: “It hurts me” or “I feel unpleasant.”
When I was about 10 years old, I had bronchitis. The clinic prescribed ultraviolet heating. And one day the nurse left me and went away. For about 30 minutes. And I was silent and patient. As a result, I had a burn on my neck and chest. And the nurse was deprived of her bonus. Just because I was used to being silent. I followed the instructions and was patient. By hurting yourself.
When I was 12 years old, I had a tooth pulled out. They gave me an injection, but it didn’t work. But the tooth was still pulled out. Because I said that everything seemed to be frozen (I was afraid to say that I wasn’t ready yet). And she endured unbearable pain.
We are used to remaining silent when we are deceived or insulted. But we are even more conditioned to remain silent when we experience discomfort. It's just discomfort - maybe not even pain. And if there is pain, it is not so severe. It can be more painful.
I remember the maternity ward of the Irkutsk maternity hospital. Where a woman in labor without a husband is the weak link. You can be rude to her and ask her not to yell. Many of them really try to remain silent and just endure. They are absolutely helpless and defenseless - even our own instinct of self-preservation is poorly developed. Because you can’t walk down the corridor, you can’t walk up the stairs. You can only lie down and be silent. And you also need to give birth quickly. And silently.
It is not always – far from always – that those around us deliberately try to do nasty things to us. Most often, they simply do not know about our feelings and do not understand what is happening inside us. In India they do a lot to please you. But - like everywhere else - they do it to their own taste. If you ask to boil potatoes without spices, they will still put cumin in it. Because without spices it’s not tasty at all!
If you ask not to apply oil to your eyes during a massage, they will apply cream. It's not interesting without anything at all. And so I lie there and get angry with the masseuse, enduring the pain in my eyes - until the thought arises - I can say “No” right now. And ask to remove all the cream from your face. Then why lie there and be angry?
This is difficult for me. Tell the manicurist that it already hurts. Inform the cook that it is impossible to eat. Explain to your friends that sometimes you want to be alone with yourself. Let your husband understand at what point communication develops from pleasant to painful.
It's easier when you need to take care of others. Asking neighbors not to make noise because the children are sleeping is easy. Or ask for candy or cookies for your child. When your husband is tired, refuse to meet with friends. For others it is easy to do such things, but for yourself it is unbearable. Good girls don't ask for anything for themselves. And they don’t cause discomfort to anyone. And they don’t interfere or distract with their whims.
When we are in pain, inconvenient, uncomfortable, we need to learn to say: “It hurts me.” You need to give relationships a chance so as not to make the person opposite you a “monster” and a “sadist.” So as not to turn into a resigned victim or an unfortunate sufferer. After all, there is always a choice - you just need to open your heart. These shutters have been boarded up firmly and long ago. It's difficult to even open it right away. There is so much scary and unknown inside. You never know what will come out of there? And it seems that when we are open, it is easier for us to hurt...
But the easiest way to hurt us is when we are tightly closed from the whole world. And the people around, completely not understanding us, periodically step on our sore spots. Many times for the same thing. They may even think that we like it too...
In family life, the same rake often becomes a favorite. When your husband does things that make you feel pain, learn to be honest and sincere. It’s difficult and unusual to say “I’m hurt” instead of throwing your fists at him. This is a completely different reality - for that life where we try to seem strong and self-sufficient. But until we take this step, the chances of mutual understanding are zero.
To understand a person, you need an adequate feedback reaction. When he clearly communicates what he feels at the moment. But relying on telepathy here is wrong. All these dreams of ours that he would guess and understand everything himself will forever remain dreams. Because very often we feel one way, but look different.
It seems that our face already speaks for itself. It is gloomy and dissatisfied in difficult moments. Or there must be an imprint of pain on it. It's impossible not to notice! You cannot remain indifferent without noticing the obvious!
I thought so before when my husband joked with me. I was very offended by this, but he continued to joke. One day, when I plucked up the courage to say that I didn’t like it, I saw surprise. He said I always laugh! When he jokes with me, and inside there is an ocean of pain, there is a smile on my face. And so it turned out (I looked in the mirror). And then I began to change the external manifestation of my pain. One day I burst into tears after another joke. In the company of friends. The husband understood everything. And he hasn’t joked with me for five years now.
To say: “It hurts me” is always a fall. Fall from the pedestal of an invincible and invulnerable super-lady. She's perfect, she's a good girl. True, no one knows what is going on inside her. Even she herself doesn’t understand what’s going on there. And is there in this dark windfall the light of the sun and the singing of birds? And it is there. Just in order to see them, you must first launch this light into your open heart.
Olga ValyaevaWe don’t always know how to do this - we are shy, don’t trust, are afraid, and then we simply get used to accumulating everything in our hearts - both joy and pain.
Meanwhile, it is important to learn to open your heart, and to do it correctly, and not dump all your problems in front of a stranger.
This will help us develop in spiritual science and gain a real treasure - friendship with Vaishnavas.
Bhakti Vijnana Goswami says that opening your heart to someone means sharing something intimate. But we should reveal something secret only to that person who will not abuse it, and if it will benefit him. Even about Krishna in Vrndavana one should not always talk about it, because it may be an offense to preach the glories of the holy name to unbelievers who will not be able to properly perceive our story. The Bible says the same thing: “Do not throw pearls before swine.” That is, we should not give something expensive to someone who does not appreciate it, just as a pig cannot appreciate pearls.
Opening our heart correctly means giving a person something that we value and that he can also appreciate.
We opened our hearts, gave something important, but the person did not appreciate it, laughed at it and that’s it. What is so good about it? It's bad for him, and it's bad for me. So we need to be very careful with what we say.
What can a person evaluate? You need to understand very well: a person can appreciate something that he has experienced to some extent, maybe not completely, not to the end, but he has some kind of his own experience. We must say something that does not go too far beyond the experience of man.
If a person has experienced love, then we can tell him about love, about how we love. If a person has not experienced this experience, then he will listen and say: “Oh, all this is nonsense. Better drink tea with raspberries - it will pass.” In other words, here we need to very clearly understand what level a person is at and whether he can understand what we tell him or not.
It is also important to know that you should not reveal your heart to those who are just beginning their steps in spiritual life.
We can share some experience, something that we have understood, some lessons that we ourselves have learned, something that we really have in our hearts, something that we ourselves have realized and, above all, are trying to practice In my life. But telling younger people about your problems and difficulties is wrong; this should be done in front of your elders. We share our difficulties with them, we talk openly with them about what we can’t do.
With equals, with friends, we should also be open, but we need to be careful: we can open our hearts to those whom we trust and who will not let us down. If we don’t yet have trust, there is no understanding that a person will keep everything secret, then we shouldn’t do this.
According to the ancient teachings of Hinduism and Buddhism, chakra- psychoenergetic center in the subtle body of a person. Central, heart chakra - Anahata. From Sanskrit “anahata” is translated as “undefeated”, “unsurpassed” (meaning the chakra unaffected by passions).
Anahata- the connecting link between the upper and lower three chakras, between the divine and the animal in man.
The Anahata chakra expresses the very essence of human nature, explaining what humanity- ability be in love.
When the energy center of love is blocked or there is disharmony, a person loses the ability to experience the most beautiful feeling - love.
How to comprehend love? How does the heart chakra open? Are there special techniques?
When love lives in the heart
From time immemorial, the ability to love has been associated with the heart for a reason. Anahata chakra is located in the heart area, in the middle of the chest.
When the energy flow in the heart is open (the chakra is not blocked), a person filled with the energy of love:
- pure and unconditional
- comprehensive and omnipresent,
- giving birth and creating life.
An open heart is filled with the love that exists the basis of all existence. This great energy balances the physical and spiritual in a person.
Here, in the heart chakra, they concentrate All other human emotions and feelings.
A person with an open heart chakra builds harmonious relationships with himself and others, can:
- Be altruistic, show kindness And tenderness, care, compassion, but don’t take other people’s sorrows too personally.
- Forgive, follow the principle of forgiveness.
- Respect and accept yourself without judgment, accordingly, remain confident in yourself, boldly reveal your potential and self-actualize.
- Be in love:
- myself,
- neighbor (husband/wife, father and mother, children, brothers and sisters),
- all people,
- the whole world.
It is not difficult to guess that such a person is mentally balanced and calm. He is not tormented by excessive emotionality, hot temper, ardor or, on the contrary, coldness and unemotionality.
The ability to accept your emotions and maintain their balance is the key to mental health.
A person who knows how to truly love is loved in return by close people and just acquaintances, the entire environment, life itself is love for him.
What blocks the heart chakra
Signs that the Anahata chakra blocked, quite a lot:
- tearfulness,
- increased fatigue,
- difficulty breathing (chest tightness),
- irritability,
- touchiness,
- anger,
- conflict,
- "victim" complex
- dissatisfaction with oneself,
- anxiety,
- loneliness (may be accompanied by unrequited love),
- excessive desire to be liked by others.
The flow of energy in the heart area can be not only insufficient, but also excessive.
Serious disharmony of the love energy center in the body manifests itself as a series of diseases:
- all cardiovascular diseases (including the most common cause of death today - heart attack),
- depression,
- skin diseases,
- weakened immunity,
- problems with the thoracic spine,
- breast disease (breast cancer in women),
- pulmonary diseases,
- diseases of the thymus gland (thymus),
- problems with the hands.
The heart chakra is blocked all negative emotions experienced by a person in relation to himself or other people:
- anger,
- hatred,
- resentment,
- guilt,
- shame,
- fear,
- envy.
All these and other similar negative emotions contradict the nature of love, they - Not Love.
Simple methods for opening the Anahata chakra
Colors heart chakra:
- The main one is emerald green.
- Additional - pink, gold, purple.
Hence the first tip for opening the heart chakra is to wear clothes and surround yourself with objects of the above colors.
- Emerald (makes love more thorough, wider and deeper, rejuvenates the heart).
- Jadeite (helps you see your beauty and the beauty of the world, makes your heart wise).
- Tourmaline (teaches generosity in love, the ability to give it).
- Rose quartz (heals heart and soul wounds, makes you sensitive to beauty, develops imagination).
Sounds The Anahata chakra is like a flute, and in vibration it coincides with the mantra YAM (“Yam”).
Therefore, it is useful to sing the sound of YAM, listen to the flute in classical works, oriental, sacred melodies.
Element heart chakra - air. You need to be in the fresh air more often, breathe it in deeply, and practice breathing exercises. Light, airy textures and fabrics (especially silk) in your interiors and wardrobe will also help reveal your heart.
A healthy person will also help you unblock Anahata. food Green colour:
- parsley,
- dill,
- green onions,
- cucumbers,
- cabbage (all types),
- spinach,
- green radish,
- kiwi,
- pears,
- avocado,
- green apples.
Smells essential oils used to open the heart chakra:
- sandalwood,
- cedar,
- pink.
Sports exercises and dancing, which involve the pectoral muscles and shoulder girdle of the limbs, also help remove blocks from Anahata. Useful yoga asanas- poses:
- cats,
- cobras,
- camel,
- wheels, others.
Techniques for opening the heart chakra
There are many techniques for opening the Anahata chakra.
On one's own it's easy to do this:
- Prepare the space. You can turn on meditative music, light candles, an aroma lamp, but the most important thing is to ensure peace and safety.
- Sit on a soft chair or floor covering.
- Relax: remove tension from the body, let go of thoughts and emotions.
- Straighten your back, move your shoulders back, place the palm of your left hand on your right, and connect the pads of your thumbs.
- Bring your hands closer to your heart, at chest level.
- Concentrate on the junction of your thumbs and feel the pulse there.
- Remain in position for 5 minutes.
- Closing your eyes, press your palms (without opening them) to your heart.
- Feel the heartbeat, imagine its warmth.
- Imagine a luminous green ball in the area of the heart, the energy from which passes through the body and returns back.
- Remain in this position and condition for as long as possible.
- At the moment when the energy from the heart reaches the very tips of the fingers and seems to begin to come out through them, spread your arms wide to the sides. With this gesture, you should try to spread your energy of love into the world and accept love from the world into your heart.
Opening the heart chakra requires diligence. It is easier to do this kind of work on yourself under someone else’s guidance.
You have a great opportunity fast open the Anahata chakra - " .
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- conduct a joint meditation,
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- learn the secret practice of making wishes come true,
- create talismans, amulets and much more.
Immersed in the magic of love, You easily attract this beautiful energy into your life and learn to preserve it in your heart!
Learn to manage the energy of love for your own good! Fill with love and open your heart!
Think with the Heart.
An important step in self-improvement is Opening the Heart.
Being in 3:D consciousness, we spend most of our efforts on intellectual development - achieving efficiency in our work. In this case, our consciousness is concentrated in the mind.
Thinking takes over us so much that the work of the mind blocks the flow of Clarity - Absolute Knowledge, which a spiritually developed person feels well. This flow comes from space and is constantly present in our lives, passing through the crown, through the crown chakra.
Spiritual awakening involves the development not of the mind, but of the feeling. In this case, consciousness moves from the head to the heart center.
The mind gives way to the heart the right to choose—the right to choose your own path in life.
We begin Think with your heart, trusting the flow of life, accepting everything as it is.
It is at this moment that Miracles begin to happen in life - “lucky coincidences” happen, meeting a loved one, entering the path of Destination.
Why think not with your mind, but with your heart?
"Think with your heart"- means living according to the Laws of the multidimensional Universe, constantly being in a successful coincidence of fate, finding your purpose, harmony, and happiness.
“Thinking with your mind” means living according to the human laws of the three-dimensional world, constantly stumbling upon troubles, constantly receiving “lessons from the Universe,” showing that it is time to Open the Heart.
An open Heart is forgiveness, it is gratitude.
An open Heart is love for yourself and love for people and the world.
An Open Heart is compassion, empathy, altruism.
With an open heart, there is no room for criticism and condemnation of either yourself or people.
At the level of physical health, opening the heart affects the health of the immune system.
A man with an open heart looks younger than his years.
An open heart radiates warmth and kindness.
An open heart radiates Love and Light.
An open Heart is the ability to love UNCONDITIONALLY!
How open is your heart?
I offer you a kind of test of how open your heart is.
Imagine that the sun is shining in your chest right now.
And now start breathing with your heart: mentally inhale and exhale through your heart.
And watch the light this sun emits.
Answer the question: “What kind of light is this?”
Alive and warm? Or white and cold?
If the light is cold, it means your consciousness is still in the mind, where there is a constant need to compare, fear, condemn.
If the light is warm and a pleasant vibration wave spreads throughout your body, it means your heart is open to the world. This means you are in a flow of unconditional love.
Risk.
Opening your heart is a risk!
Because opening your heart does not mean opening the hearts of other people.
Therefore, an open heart means wounds, it means pain.
But such a paradox! The only recipe to heal these heart wounds is to open the heart again!
Opening the Heart is allowing yourself to take risks and be vulnerable.
An open heart can easily heal itself through accepting its own pain, through allowing itself to feel pain.
Illusion.
Many spiritually developed individuals are in the illusion that: “My heart is so wide open!”
Unfortunately, many of them do not suspect that Opening the Heart is also a recognition of their shadow aspects, i.e. accepting your shortcomings.
In order to open your heart you need to have remarkable courage and honesty towards yourself.
The hearts of those who cannot be hooked by anything at all are wide open, who have realized and accepted all the negative aspects in themselves, and therefore “evil” does not exist in their reality.
Perhaps only the enlightened have their hearts wide open.
Therefore, among the techniques for opening the heart, I recommend working with your shadow hidden aspects in order to accept the worst that is in yourself.
Loving yourself and being perfect means loving your imperfection!
Techniques for Opening the Heart
1. Any practice of Forgiveness, Positive Thinking techniques, Gratitude helps to open the Heart.
2. Any meditation, spiritual and tantric practices help open the Heart.