All women dream that their life would go according to a predetermined plan: completed studies, an established career, a successful marriage, the planned birth of children from a loved one... But sometimes circumstances make sudden adjustments to the life planned over the years.
An unplanned pregnancy can come as a surprise to a woman and her lover, especially if the couple is not legally married. This is a fairly common situation, so you shouldn’t renounce it. When a woman finds herself in such a difficult situation, the question naturally arises: how to inform your partner about pregnancy?
What worries a pregnant woman?
Let's assume that you have not yet discussed plans for a life together and have not talked about having children. The birth of a child is a huge responsibility for both parents, so often a man’s first reaction to the news of pregnancy is fear, and this is quite logical. The woman herself does not know how to cope with emotions - cry or rejoice, and then thoughts arise about how and when to inform her partner about pregnancy.
The news of an unplanned pregnancy must be communicated correctly
Doubts arise about the man’s reaction, as well as anxiety - will this news cause a breakup? Of course, the ideal situation is when a man wants to have a child and has long been ripe to become a father - but what to do if this is not the case? You should prepare for the fact that a conversation about an unplanned pregnancy will most likely be unexpected and shocking for a man. Try, as much as possible, to choose the right words and general tone for the conversation in advance.
How to tell a man about pregnancy?
The first and most important thing in this case is not to worry. If you suspect that you are pregnant, take a test, and after a positive result, make an appointment with a doctor, where you can be 100% sure of your situation. This will help to avoid unnecessary doubts and worries, which are quite natural in such a situation.
Remember: a man, like you, is afraid of new worries, a sudden change in his usual lifestyle and additional financial expenses. After all, you yourself didn’t get used to this idea in a couple of minutes - so give your partner as much time as he needs. Only if the decision about a future together is made consciously will a man become a caring husband and loving father.
The child is the most important thing for the expectant mother
Of course, the birth of a baby will radically change your life, but you need to remember that the joy of motherhood is the best thing that can happen in a woman’s life. Don't forget that there are women who are not given the opportunity to have children, and appreciate this opportunity. Do not under any circumstances expect your partner to make the decision to have a child for you - this is solely your decision. Even if a man theoretically wants a child, all the worries about him in the first years of his life will still fall on your shoulders.
A child needs a father, but it would be unwise to force this role on a man
Push the man to the fact that a child is happiness. Say that you can already imagine your baby’s first smile, the words “mom” and “dad,” and you want your baby to be like him. Let your partner's confusion be replaced by pride in fatherhood. Convince your chosen one that he will not be in the background for you, since many men are afraid of this kind of competition, so they are wary of children.
If a woman ends up left alone, she must remember that a stamp in her passport has never been a guarantee of further happiness. Women make a big mistake when trying to keep a man with the help of a child. This way you will simply ruin your life, and the child will not be happy in a family where quarrels and scandals constantly arise, and the father and mother do not stop mutual accusations of a ruined life.
If a man is not ready, let him go in peace. Perhaps in the future the relationship will improve, and he will prove himself to be a caring father. In the meantime, sign up for courses for pregnant women, where specialists will help you prepare for an important event and feel confident before the birth of your baby. Think in a positive way, because if you are constantly worried, your anxiety will be passed on to the child, and a happy mother means a joyful and healthy baby.
An unplanned pregnancy is a completely everyday situation. And not a single woman can confidently say that she will never find herself in such a difficult situation in her life. But you are interested in a delicate question: how to tell a guy about pregnancy if no one knew her at all and you are afraid of his reaction to this event? And in fact, how to do this - choose the right time, the right mood, cry, rejoice or try to understand his attitude?
Of course, you understand that pregnancy cannot be hidden. You will have to change your lifestyle, and a man who knows you well will quickly notice that you are in an interesting position. There is no need to wait for such a turn of events: it is fraught with additional complications in the relationship. The main thing you both need during a difficult conversation is honesty. You shouldn’t beat around the bush, hint, gradually approaching what worries you... Perhaps unexpected news will unsettle the guy, he will be confused, and will end up being offended by your reluctance to tell him the truth in the face.
You don't need such a result, do you? Do you expect him to react differently to your confession? Then try to follow the advice of women who have gone through a similar ordeal.
Decide everything for yourself
You must be prepared for the fact that it will not be possible without emotions on his part. Perhaps these will not be the emotions you expect. Therefore, first of all, you will need calmness and prudence.
Try to recall conversations with your boyfriend about family and children. Maybe in his heart he has long been ready for fatherhood and the birth of a child will make him happy.
Before you challenge your loved one to be frank, understand yourself. Do you want the child to be born yourself? Can you decide to get married for the sake of your unborn child? What will you do if your boyfriend doesn't want to stay with you after the news of your pregnancy? You will understand that it will not be easy even for yourself to answer all these questions. Therefore, do not rush things, talk with loved ones whom you trust as much as yourself. Maybe it's a mother, a friend or a psychologist. But their opinion is secondary, because you will make the final decision. And only after such preparation, when you have gained some confidence, is it worth starting a conversation with a guy.
How to tell a guy about pregnancy? Not via SMS!
Keep in mind that, unlike you, he is not expecting such news. Therefore, the first reaction may not be entirely adequate. This means that you need to somehow prepare your partner for such a conversation. Maybe start by letting him know about the delay. And after a day or two, tell me what the pregnancy test showed. It is possible that after such news you will go to see a doctor as a friendly couple. This way you will give the guy the opportunity to be mentally prepared for the final diagnosis.
Some women make an unforgivable mistake: fearing an undesirable reaction, they bombard a man with a phone message or send an SMS. Don't you dare do this. Firstly, you will deprive yourself of the great joy of seeing a man’s happy eyes, if this is a desired event for him. Although it is possible that in the first minutes he will be afraid of responsibility for the unborn child and for the changes that will soon occur in his life.
That is why it is advisable to still prepare him for this, so that he also has time to comprehend such an important event.
How should the conversation take place?
The guy must understand in advance that you will have a serious conversation. And if you ask him to turn off the TV and stereo that will disturb you, he will obediently do it.
- You have already decided how to tell your boyfriend about your pregnancy. And, of course, you will refuse an aggressive tone, you will not express accusations and insults against him. Both of you must understand that everything is to blame - your mutual frivolity and reluctance to use contraceptives. The topic is “Who is to blame?” must be nipped in the bud.
- If your pregnancy is already several weeks old, explain that first you wanted to analyze the current situation yourself.
- So, you managed to overcome fear and uncertainty and told your boyfriend about your unplanned pregnancy. Do not overreact to his state of shock; you will find out the final result later. But today you must introduce him to your decision. Don't expect him to propose to you immediately. But you have to understand whether you should expect it. The time of vague promises and hints is over. So now you have to ask him directly what he thinks about the situation and what his plans are?
Yes, this whole story will probably bring you a lot of worries. But you have to go through this. And remember that motherhood is the best thing that happens to us women. And not everyone gets such a chance.
You are confident that you have made the right decisions, you are not afraid of change, and this attitude will help you behave correctly in a conversation with a guy when you both make a choice. In addition, the news that a woman is pregnant is a kind of litmus test that will show how he really feels about you. So what you should be afraid of is not how to tell your boyfriend about pregnancy and how to calmly treat his reaction to this news.
If you become pregnant from your boyfriend and are 100% sure of it, be sure to notify him. After all, different situations occur: either a breakup or a wedding may follow, which happens quite often in such situations. But first, prepare yourself not for a rosy reaction, but for a silent or dissatisfied one. This will make it easier for you to understand the answer. And anyone.
You can “please” your boyfriend without unnecessary hints. Say so, looking into your eyes: “I’m pregnant.” Don’t look away for a minute so that he doesn’t take your words as a trick or deception. And then say what first comes to mind: tell everything as if in spirit.
Shy
Approach him, looking down and head down, and then say that you are about to learn something very important. Then break the news about your situation with just one phrase: “You know, I’m pregnant.” Or you can completely cut it down to two words.
Romantic
If you are used to romantic relationships and confessions in the same vein, then invite your lover to a cafe, to the embankment, to the park, having previously chosen a route. Or invite you to your home, having prepared dinner for two in advance. And then just tell us about your delicate situation.
Daring
You get into a taxi and go straight to his apartment. You get up and ring the doorbell. If it opens, immediately talk about your pregnancy, without waiting for an invitation to come in. Then you turn around and leave.
Unsure
Impatient
Gourmand
Are you or he a food lover? Then please your loved one with fresh baked goods with a fateful note. In it, write everything as it is about your pregnancy. Try to make the treat extraordinarily tasty and beautifully decorated. You can even bake a cake. If not the note, then the taste will definitely please him, because men love to eat.
Extreme girl
Invite your guy to rides or give him a skydive. And when he descends from heaven to earth, immediately talk about his interesting position - just like that, while he is all in parachute straps.
Sexy
Choose a revealing peignoir, put on bright makeup and spend a great night with him, telling him, between pauses, that you are expecting a child from him.
Ostrozhnaya
Wait for the right mood and the right moment. And when all the “stars” come together, admit that you are pregnant. But if you are not confident in yourself, it is better to remain silent so as not to accidentally ruin the situation. But don't delay too long.
Cheerful
If you are a cheerful laugher, then just say everything straight away, as soon as the guy crosses the threshold of the apartment. Add with an undisguised happy smile that he will soon become a dad. 
Several ways to announce your pregnancy
It is not safe for some representatives of the stronger sex to be “amazed” right away: they can run away from excess joy. No, in reality it is better not to traumatize them, but to prepare them gradually so that the thought of pregnancy comes to them on their own.
Situation one
Every day at the meeting, inform that you are already 5 days late, 6, and then 7, and so on. At the same time, ask him to buy something tasty - for example, pickles, saying that there is nothing tastier than them in the world. Then the guy himself will ask you to take a pregnancy test.
Situation two
You can call him and tell him to come on a date today not with flowers, but with a jar of salted olives or any other delicacy that comes into your head (preferably even a non-seasonal one - like, for example, watermelon in the midst of cold weather). Naturally, he will guess everything himself or ask about it directly and you won’t have to dodge.
Situation three
When you call your lover, say something like this: “Daddy, bring me tomato juice and mom a bouquet of flowers.” The effect will be stunning, but understandable.
Situation four
Invite the guy to a nice restaurant on the embankment or to a park, where in a calm atmosphere tell him your secret. If he’s happy, fine, if not, he’ll be left to finish his coffee alone.
Situation five
For his birthday (if it's close to him), bake a cake and write on it that you are pregnant. The reaction will be twofold, but in any case, the festive mood will prevail with such a chic “gift”.
Situation six
Tell him that you have a surprise for him and hand him a large box with a mysterious look. Having opened it, he will see the next one with the same chic bow. And this will happen until the guy gets to the treasured box with a note saying that you are in an interesting position.
Situation seven
Continuing the theme of holidays and gifts, you can present your boyfriend with a souvenir for the New Year with a card in which you congratulate him on the fact that he will soon become a daddy.
Situation eight
Order a T-shirt for him with the words “Young Dad” or for yourself with a picture of a pregnancy test and the words “Guess who I have?”
Situation nine
Order delivery of a postcard with a corresponding message. And not trivial, and direct, and quite civilized. 
Prepare for his reaction
In order not to get shocked, you should be prepared for any reaction, because for a man such news is a bolt from the blue. Therefore, do not be afraid, but tune in to all expected situations.
How to talk about pregnancy?
You should immediately make it clear that the conversation will be serious. If you are in a park or a cafe, ask him to turn down the volume on his headphones; if at home, tell him to turn off the TV.
Do not express insults or insults towards him - both are to blame. Therefore, this topic should be excluded. Everything has already happened – and it doesn’t matter whose fault it is.
If several weeks have passed, say: I was silent because I wasn’t sure and wanted to be completely sure.
Don't overreact to his state of shock. It will pass, but it can harm the unborn baby, so be careful. 
It is known that not every representative of the stronger sex begins to dance with happiness at the news that he will soon become a dad. After all, it is so important for men to first receive a quality education and find a well-paid job, and in simple Russian language, to get on their feet. But often circumstances develop in such a way that the appearance of a baby can ruin all plans. So what should an expectant mother do and how can she tell her boyfriend that she’s pregnant with a “surprise”?
When two lovers decide to live under the same roof, having determined for themselves that a stamp in the passport is an unnecessary formality, then the question of the possibility of having a child is discussed in advance from all sides. But what if the situation gets out of control and the hCG test turns out to be positive? Moreover, as luck would have it, the guy too often mentions that he himself is still a child and is not ripe for fatherhood.
Don’t despair, because it’s time to think about how to tell your guy that you’re pregnant. Moreover, warmth, love and affection, provided the situation is properly organized, can create a small miracle for the sake of great happiness called a baby. The main task is to choose the tactics that are suitable for your chosen one.
A kind word pleases the cat too
Surely, when communicating with each other, you use various pleasant and affectionate nicknames, such as bunny, cat, baby, cake, sweetie, etc. Moreover, they sound both from you and from your loved one. You can slowly add variations of the word “dad” to them, and over time the man will notice that they sound too often. After which the question will follow: “Honey, why did you start calling me that?”, but here you need, without hesitation, to joyfully tell him that soon there will be three of you.
Contrasting approach
For about a couple of weeks, show your chosen one special attention, ardent passion and tenderness, as if you had your first date yesterday. Don’t argue with him about anything, surround him with care and feed him delicious food, and most importantly, constantly remind him of how dear he is to you and how strong your love for him is. And when the opportunity arises, and your loved one is as relaxed and disarmed as possible, firmly, but in a voice trembling from an excess of feelings, say: “Please excuse me, but we need to part...”. Don’t say anything else, but silently begin to pack your things into a large travel bag.
The guy will be shocked by such actions, and he will diligently try to find out the reason for such a sudden departure, but you continue to torment him with ignorance for some time, after which, shedding a tear, say the following phrase: “I understand that you have no time for the child now, but I’m so I love you so much that I’m not ready to become the reason for a broken fate. So I will give birth to our child for myself and raise him alone, I’m sorry!” And believe me, not even a minute will pass before he will press you to his warm chest and decide that the baby is very necessary and important for your little family.
Mystery as one of the ways
Pretend that you have some kind of secret, make the guy a little jealous. Set a password on your phone, communicate with anyone in an exclusively quiet voice, and regularly delete incoming messages. Several times you can buy yourself flowers, come home a little later than usual with a bouquet in your hands, and supposedly accidentally drop a man’s scarf. This is the height of acting!
When answering questions, try to get away from the topic and look away in embarrassment. Then deny your loved one intimate intimacy, after which he will not fail to ask a question about another man, to which he should answer evasively: “Well, to some extent...”. Then quietly add: “But I don’t know who our little man or woman will be.” The guy will finally breathe freely and be glad that the reason for the mystery is just a small child.
Melancholy approach
Pretend that something particularly saddens you. Stop enjoying life and lie all day long, looking at the ceiling or the wall. Answer all phrases addressed to yourself with tears in your eyes and hysteria in your voice. When about five days of such a melancholic mood have passed, when asked for the hundredth time about this strange state, you can answer: “I have decided everything...”. And, after taking a few seconds, add: “I understand that the child is a burden for you, so my future baby and I are going to live with my grandmother.” If the chosen one is a real man, then he will never let you go, but will begin to get used to the idea that he will become a father.
A little trick is the key to success
Improve the moment and talk to your guy about your first meeting, your first declaration of love, your decision to wake up together every morning, and then bring the conversation to the moment when you discussed the possible appearance of a child (boy or girl). And when he smiles, remembering these funny reasonings, sharply say the following phrase: “No! I don’t want to give birth to a son or daughter for you in a few years!” Of course, these words will cause considerable surprise in the man, and he will ask: “What did I do? Why?!”, to which continue to say with the same firmness in your voice: “Just accept it and don’t persuade me. I decided that “no,” so so be it!” Get on his nerves for about twenty minutes, then hug him by the shoulders with a sweet smile and whisper in his ear that he will become a dad in nine months. And believe me, this news will make him very happy.
There are a great many variations on the theme of how to tell a guy you’re pregnant in an original way. The main thing is to clearly understand which of them will “shoot right on target,” and for this you need to know well the character traits of your loved one.
My boyfriend's ex said she was pregnant
Often, a new union of two hearts is overshadowed by the news that your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend is expecting a child. The situation is difficult and can darken even the brightest relationships. And here everything depends on the decision of the future father, or rather on how honest and decent he is. But the fact that he shared this with you means that he trusts you and does not want to deceive you. And in a good way, he needs to understand everything thoroughly so that they don’t “hang someone else’s baby” on him.
Most often, a guy chooses a child and leaves, dooming himself to life with an unloved person, and the girl, like a woman, understands that this is right. But you can advise him to financially help the mother of the unborn baby and just move on with his life. These two options are the only correct ones, since absolute coldness and indifference to your possible offspring should not make you happy, but alert you. After all, he can react in exactly the same way to the news of your possible motherhood.
How to tell a guy you're pregnant, in the original form
Often, a girl who is already ready for motherhood, seeing the coveted two stripes, literally breaks out with happiness and rushes to shout to the whole world that she will soon become a mother. And then it’s time for her to think about how to beautifully tell a guy that she’s pregnant.
- You can go with your loved one to the store and ask the seller in the children's department to show toys for newborns, and when the guy asks what all this is for, he joyfully answers: “And this is for our future baby, who is already 6 weeks old today!”
- You can calculate the approximate date of birth of the baby and joyfully say: “Darling, on February 25, 2019, a joyful event awaits us - the birth of our daughter!”
- You can simply put the positive test in the most visible place and just wait for your husband’s reaction.
- One girl told her boyfriend that she was pregnant by ordering a cake with dough, cabbage and a baby, the inscription on which reads: “Soon there will be three of us.”
There are a lot of options, and it all depends only on the depth of your imagination. The main thing is not to get upset and, if daddy is not ready, give him time to understand this important information.
When a woman learns the stunning news that she will soon have a baby, she experiences a huge number of conflicting feelings. Joy that this miracle happened, and at the same time fear of how her loved one will react to this. What will happen next? How to tell a man about pregnancy without it leading to a heart attack?
There are a large number of options for informing your future dad about your interesting situation. The 10 methods that will be described below will help a pregnant girl choose the right option for herself.
Method number 1. Banal option
You can call your loved one on the phone or write a message, but then the girl will not be able to see with her own eyes the reaction of her future dad. Therefore, this option is acceptable only when your loved one is very far away and there is no opportunity to see him in person. This method can include a situation where a woman welcomes her husband home from work and immediately tells it like it is. In this case, it is best to prepare the man a little. His reaction will be greatly influenced by the current relationship between him and his wife (girlfriend). If the girl herself is happy about the future appearance of the baby, then this joy will be transmitted on an energetic level to her interlocutor. Then the conversation will take place in one breath.
Method number 2. Romantic evening
Pregnancy is an excellent occasion for a festive dinner. You can organize it in a restaurant or prepare it yourself at home. Pleasant attributes: candles, intimate twilight, calm music and delicious dishes. All this will be an amazing gift for the chosen one, but the main surprise is best left for last in the evening.
Method No. 3. Pie with a surprise
It is very difficult for a girl to tell her boyfriend that she is pregnant. How can I tell him not to be scared by this news? All women know that before starting an important conversation with a man, he must be fed. Now comes the opportunity to pamper your beloved man with homemade cakes, and inside the cake you need to put a note about your future baby. The main thing is that he doesn’t choke on this note.
Method number 4. Unexpected gift
If the moment of some holiday is approaching in the family, you can use this occasion for your own purposes. When packing a gift for your husband (or boyfriend), you can put a positive pregnancy test and its instructions inside. As an addition, you can put a book for future parents. This is a gift he will never forget!
Method No. 5. Cautious Approach
If a girl does not fully know what her man’s reaction will be, she should approach this issue carefully. To do this, it is necessary to prepare the young man for several days. You can casually start talking about children. For example, when you see a mother with a stroller, pay attention to what a charming baby is lying there and how great it is to be parents. After this, you can complain of nausea and poor health. Let the man draw the right conclusion on his own.
In the early stages of pregnancy, a woman may experience nausea, vomiting, dizziness, pain in the lower abdomen and general weakness. Also, a characteristic sign of pregnancy is frequent mood swings. The final result can be confirmed with a test or a visit to the gynecologist.
Method number 6. Original version
If the girl and her lover are romantic in nature, then the question: how to tell your loved one about pregnancy will not be particularly difficult. You can write on the asphalt under the window that soon the best man in the world will become a dad. Buy him a T-shirt or order a billboard with the same inscription. One of the best original ways is a figurine of a stork, which will hold in its beak a beautiful postcard with an interesting message for the best daddy.
Method No. 7. Unusual letter
Nowadays, postmen rarely deliver mail directly to people. Therefore, you can send your loved one a registered letter with magical content on behalf of the future baby. The main thing is that it is decorated festively and unusually. One can only imagine my husband's surprise. To make him more shocked, it is necessary for this letter to be handed to him in official form by law enforcement officers.
Method No. 8. Extreme option
One message about pregnancy is already extreme. Therefore, if a man has weak nerves, then you should not go too far with this. But if the couple are people who like to take risks, we can say that they received the news of pregnancy at the most unexpected moment. While driving a car or riding a jet ski. You just need to take into account the danger of this action. There is a more loyal, but no less extreme way: for example, persuade the traffic police inspector and ask him to stop your husband’s car, first scold him for something, and then congratulate him on the new title of the future dad. It’s better to record your husband’s reaction on a video camera, so you’ll have something to remember later.
Method number 9. Fun option
During the gala dinner, you should gather relatives and ask them to take a family photo. At this moment, the photographer should say that she is pregnant and after a few seconds capture this frame. The reaction of loved ones will remain in the photograph and will remind you of this touching moment in life. This method can be used only when a woman is firmly confident in the positive reaction of her chosen one.
Method No. 10. Flight of fancy
In fact, there are many different ways to talk about pregnancy, but every girl wants her version of this moment to be special. To do this, you need to give free rein to your own imagination and imagine in the smallest detail how this should happen. All that remains is to make your dreams come true.
Pregnancy is a process through which an egg develops in a woman’s body; over time, it forms into a fetus that is capable of intrauterine development and existence. Pregnancy begins 7-10 days after the first day of menstruation and ends with childbirth.
Having shared the good news about her pregnancy with her beloved man, a woman should be prepared for any reaction. The fact is that a man cannot immediately realize the beauty of what is happening. Therefore, there are times when a man needs time to think about this situation. The main thing is to wait patiently; you need to understand that for him this news is a decisive step into a new position as a caring father.