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What happens if you like someone right away?
You feel drawn to this person. You want to get to know him better. At the same time, you don’t have to force yourself, everything goes by itself, without much effort. You get in touch with him easily. And before you know it, a romance has already begun.
As a rule, in such cases people cannot resist the voice of the heart and act without thinking. You could say they fly like moths to a light.
If you liked someone at first sight, if you are attracted to some person, get to know him, date for your own pleasure. But don't make premature conclusions about possible relationships in the future, don't take it too seriously.
You may not have a good relationship with the person you were immediately drawn to. And with that person who did not make a special impression on you at the first meeting, on the contrary, a long and, moreover, happy life together is possible.
Ask your friends who are couples how they started dating: were they fascinated by each other at first sight, or did the first meeting mean nothing to them?
You will be convinced that from the first meeting none of them imagined how this acquaintance would end.
Of course, it also happens that you can develop a strong relationship with someone to whom you are immediately drawn. But this is a rare case; it is not without reason that such stories become legends. “They lived happily ever after”... Well, you know how such stories end.
More often than not, relationships that start off stormy quickly fizzle out. So straw in the wind instantly flares up, burns brightly, and then immediately burns out, not giving anyone any warmth.
If something like this has happened to you before, you know what I'm talking about.
Of course, I'm not telling you to avoid people you're attracted to. Listen to the voice of your heart, but at the same time think about why you are drawn to this particular person.
Women are like magpies, they are attracted to everything that glitters and shines. How easy it is to make a mistake here! Try to get to know the person better before jumping headfirst into the pool. Men often make the same mistake when they find themselves at a party where there are a lot of free women, they immediately pay attention to the most beautiful and vibrant women, without noticing that there are equally beautiful, but more modest women nearby.
There is only one piece of advice: do not turn away immediately if you are not attracted to a certain person. Give a chance to someone who didn't interest you when you first met, and it may turn out that over time you will discern in him traits that will attract you to him.
Don't rush to conclusions. Having seen a person once, you cannot judge his attractiveness. Moreover, you cannot make predictions for the future if at the first meeting you felt that you were drawn to the person.
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In the Universe, in order to maintain spiritual and material energy balance, energy exchange constantly and continuously occurs. This circulation of energy takes place within the framework of the law on conservation of energy.
Communication is essentially an energy exchange. The energy generated by a person is given to the outside. But, in accordance with the laws of conservation of energy, a person must receive energy from the outside. Hence the need to communicate.
People communicate for personal gain. During interaction between people, an energy exchange occurs - one gives, the other receives and vice versa. If people like each other, then an intense energy exchange occurs between them. At the same time, both enjoy communication.
Even if two people experiencing mutual attraction do not speak, feigning indifference, their energy fields are still drawn to each other. As they say, “I’m drawn to him.”
During communication between two people, channels are formed between their auras through which energy flows flow in both directions. The streams can be any color and take any shape (they can be seen with extrasensory perception abilities).
Energy channels connect the auras of partners through the corresponding chakras, depending on the type of communication:
Muladhara(base chakra) - relatives.
Svadhisthana(gender chakra) - lovers, married couple, fun friends, relatives.
Manipura(umbilical chakra) - relatives, employees, subordinates, superiors, sports friends and those with whom you enter into competition.
Anahata(heart chakra) - objects of emotional interaction, these are the people we love. For the harmonious development of relations between a man and a woman, it is necessary to have a channel along the sex chakra (svadhisthana).
Vishuddha(throat chakra) - like-minded people, colleagues, etc.
Ajna(frontal chakra) - imitation and adoration of an idol, sect leader, etc. Hypnotic channels, suggestion of thoughts. Telepathic connection with another person.
Sahasrara(crown chakra) - connection only with egregors (collectives, religious communities, sects, football fan clubs, political ideology, etc.)
The more passionate the partners are about each other, the stronger and more active the channels are formed.
During the formation of close, trusting relationships, all chakras are gradually connected by channels. It is in this way that strong relationships arise that are not subject to distance or time. For example, a mother always feels her child, no matter where he is, and no matter how many years have passed since their last meeting. It also happens that, meeting an old acquaintance after many years, a person feels as if they parted just yesterday.
Channels can persist for a very long time - years, decades and move from incarnation to incarnation. That is, channels connect not only bodies, but also souls.
Healthy relationships form bright, clear, pulsating channels. In such relationships there is trust, intimacy, sincerity and there is enough room for personal freedom. Here there is an equivalent exchange of energy, without distortions.
If the relationship is unhealthy, that is, one partner depends on the other, then the channels are heavy, stagnant, and dim. Such relationships deprive people of freedom and often boil down to mutual irritation and bitterness.
If one partner wants to completely control the other, the channels can wrap around the aura on all sides.
When relationships gradually die, the channels become thinner and weaker. Over time, energy stops flowing through these channels, communication stops, people become strangers.
If people separate, but the channels are still preserved, then they continue to reach out to each other. It also happens when one partner cuts off communication channels and closes himself off from further interaction, while the other partner is still attached to him and tries in every possible way to break through the energy defense in order to restore the relationship.
In the process of forcibly breaking the channels, the separation is very painful. It takes many months or years to recover from this. Here, much depends on how ready a person is to accept the free will of another and free himself from dependence developed over a long time.
Most channels built in everyday communication disappear without a trace over time. In the case of close relationships, channels remain for a very long time; even after separation, some channels remain. Particularly strong channels arise during sexual and family relationships.
In this fragment you will see an indicative experiment that proves the presence of energy channels between people who have been in a relationship for a long time:
Each time you have sexual intercourse with a new partner, new channels are formed along the sex chakra, connecting people for many years, or even throughout their entire subsequent lives. In this case, it does not matter at all whether the sexual partners managed to learn each other’s names - in the case of sexual contact, a channel is formed and lasts for a very long time. And if there is a channel, then there is a circulation of energy along it. And what quality of energy comes is difficult to say, it depends on the characteristics of the other person’s field. To sleep or not to sleep, and if to sleep, then with whom, is, of course, up to you to decide. It's good when this happens consciously.
It is believed that the strongest channels are the parent ones. But there may be options here too.
In people who live nearby for a long time, energy fields (auras) adapt to each other and work in unison. Intimate relationships require field synchronization. We often notice that people who live together for a long time become similar to each other even in appearance.
If the characteristics of the auras of two individuals are very different, then it will be difficult for them to communicate. When energy flows that are alien to it invade the field, a reaction of repulsion, fear, and disgust appears. “It makes me sick.”
When a person does not want to communicate with someone, he closes his energy field, and all energy flows emanating from the other person are reflected. In this case, the other person gets the impression that he is not being heard, as if he is talking to a wall.
During an illness, the patient’s energy field weakens, and he unconsciously replenishes the missing energy at the expense of those who are nearby. This happens automatically. Healthy people feed the sick. This is part of family life: first I will help you, then you will help me. If the illness is prolonged and severe, all family members may feel its devastating impact. Over time, they will feel tired and reluctant to care for the patient. At such moments, it is very important to be able to replenish your own energy reserves. You cannot devote all your time only to caring for the patient; you need to be distracted. Hobbies, sports, creativity, communication with friends, and entertainment can come to the rescue.
Negative emotions (anger, envy, jealousy, etc.) directed towards another person pierce his aura with a dark energy flow. In this case, there is a leakage of energy in favor of the aggressor. A person whose aura is polluted by imperfect thinking, dislike or despondency is unable to receive energy from external space, and he replenishes his energy hunger at the expense of other people. This is the so-called energy vampirism.
A vampire can be active. In this case, he takes energy from another person through the active release of negativity in his direction. These are, as a rule, brawlers, conflict-ridden people, constantly grumbling and embittered. If, in response to such a person’s malicious attack, you responded emotionally - you became upset, angry - then your energy flowed towards him. It turns out that the main defense is calmness and ignoring.
Extremely negative interactions can cause such severe destruction of the field that a person will have to recover for a long time. Some aura healing processes occur automatically. In this case they say: “time heals.” But some wounds leave behind lifelong scars that can be carried into future lives. People in this case tend to avoid pain and protect their wounds with energetic and psychological blocks.
It remains to be said that channels can connect not only two people, channels can connect a person with an animal, plant or any inanimate object. For example, many people are familiar with the feeling of longing for a place or home where important events took place. A person can become attached to his car, a child to his toy.
In the event of dependence on an object to which strong but unhealthy energy channels extend, such channels are usually called. Bindings block a person’s free will and disrupt the energy balance. We will talk about bindings in the next article.
Sometimes, you travel on the subway or bus and observe an interesting picture: a neatly and beautifully dressed woman enters and no one pays attention to her. Another woman will come in, dressed more modestly and completely inconspicuously, and all the men’s heads will turn to look at her. Why is this happening? Why do people pay attention to each other? Where do people get attracted to each other? System-vector psychology provides answers to these questions.What plays the main role when choosing a partner?
If you study the information provided system-vector psychology, it becomes clear that we are attracted to each other not by appearance, but by smells. At first it may seem that this is not the case and people pay attention to those who dress brightly. This opinion has developed because people who dress brighter than others, as a rule, have the brightest smell. On the mental level we express emotions, and on the physical, bodily level - smells. That is why dogs sense when a person is afraid, to the smell of fear, unknown to our consciousness, and the animal reacts.How do we pay attention to each other? The answer is given by system-vector psychology.
How do we still notice a person? It turns out that everything happens through our nose, and not our eyes at all, and these are not pleasant smells, for example, emanating from Jadore from Dior, which are so noticed by people, especially with a visual vector, but pheromones, which through the zero nerve go straight into the unconscious, into the area of the brain that is responsible for attraction to each other. This is the vomeronasal organ, which is responsible for both attraction and ranking.
System-vector psychology: why we are attracted to each other
It's not the brightest girls that attract men. Men notice those who smell “attractive.” The brightest scent belongs to the most emotional of all women - the skin-visual beauty. The more she shows and brings her emotions out, the brighter she smells and the more noticeable she is to those around her. The brightest of all is the one who completely brought out her fear in the form of love and compassion. She became the leader's mate.
System-vector psychology shows how visual-cutaneous girls differ from others, in particular in their demonstrativeness. It is thanks to the program they developed that we have a culture, a sense of empathy and compassion for our neighbors. They are the ones who, as a rule, demonstrate themselves in front of cameras and look at us from television screens and magazine covers. They are better than others at identifying stylish clothes and fashion, and are better than others at distinguishing colors and smells.
System-vector psychology: the reason for dating is always a woman
Acquaintance always happens because of a woman. Everyone, except the skin-visual one, releases their scent to one specific type of man - and he suddenly feels attracted to her. He suddenly desires her, distinguishes her from all other women and wants to get to know her, and not anyone else. In other cases, men simply do not notice them.(c) Systemic vector psychology by Yuri Burlan
Greetings, my dear readers! Have you ever wondered what is the main principle by which you choose a person for a relationship? Is it just a hobby, strong feelings or a subconscious search for the image of a mother/father? Today I propose to talk about why one is drawn to a certain person. Is it worth giving in to this feeling or should you think about it so as not to destroy your existing happiness?
New emotions
What is attraction to a person? The desire to constantly be near, to hear a voice, to smell, a feeling of impossibility without him. Such feelings can be either momentary and quickly passing, or long-lasting, lasting several years.
Sometimes you just meet a stranger and all your thoughts are only about him. He seems so mysterious and interesting. Communication is filled with flirting and play. You immerse yourself in it completely and completely, and there is no other world. All the past is left behind.
Something new and unknown always attracts a person. Especially against the backdrop of everyday life and dullness. So, one of my clients, having been married for a long time, met a man at a party. They just talked, but he left a certain mark on her soul.
She described how wonderful he was, how very different he was from her husband, that he was completely different and she couldn’t live without him. As a result, she left her husband, and after some time the new gentleman turned out to be the same ordinary and worthless comrade.
A person is drawn to mystery, to the unknown. But upon closer examination, everything seems different, not so fabulous and beautiful. Everything new captivates and pulls you along. And it’s very cool when something strong and eternal is born from this situation. I have a huge number of examples when a new and bright feeling appeared in a person’s life, developing into strong love for many years.
And sometimes you just like a person, have a good and fun time with him, don’t think about anything, and then you realize that you are very much attracted to him. You can no longer imagine your evening without a text message or a call; every moment you want to know what a person is doing.
If you can’t sort out your feelings, are unsure about something or have doubts, then I have an excellent article in store for you that will help you figure it out in just a few minutes: “”.
Together we will analyze the problem and find the most acceptable solution.
Drawn to the past
But we are drawn not only to something new and unknown. It happens that you just can’t get the image of your ex-lover out of your head. The relationship could have ended several years ago, but you still continue to be drawn to the person.
When the relationship was long-term, this turn of events is not surprising. You just have a lot in common, you have given each other so much that it seems impossible to live without him. You constantly communicated, had mutual friends and acquaintances, you had a common life, common plans. This is what haunts me even after several years.
A person can cling to the past because he does not see his future. Or afraid of the unknown. She doesn’t believe that she can trust another person; it seems that she can no longer build a new good relationship. Therefore, he clings tightly to the past and this notorious attraction appears.
If this is exactly the case for you and you still can’t break with your past, then read the article “”. Even if you are not attracted to your first love, the article will help you sort out your feelings for the past and you will definitely find the answer to the question - how to forget a person and move on?
What to do about it
If you are a free person, then calmly surrender to this wonderful feeling. Passion and love make a person inspired and inspired. It's a wonderful and liberating feeling. You should enjoy every moment and just be happy. Understand that life is too short to deny yourself feelings and emotions.
What if I don’t like you, but I’m attracted to you? Again, if you are free, then let yourself enjoy your health. Sex, for example, is very good for health. And good sex, in general, can even cure headaches.
Another question is if you are not free, you already have a relationship, but are drawn to a completely different person. It's worth stopping and thinking seriously here. Because a rash and quick decision can greatly change both your life and those of others.
Try to understand what this new attraction means. Maybe you are looking for something new and invigorating? If this is the case, then stop and think about how you can achieve similar emotions with your loved one.
If this is not the first time this has happened to you, and you often pay attention to other people while in a relationship, then you should think about why you are in a relationship at all. Understand what you are missing, what you are clinging to, what you are running away to. Maybe both you and your partner are struggling in your relationship, but are afraid to admit it to each other? After all, in a happy couple there is no third wheel.
If you want to build healthy and happy relationships, then Dean Delis' book " The paradox of passion" It covers the issue of relationships, faded passion and reciprocity in a rather extraordinary way. The author looks at many questions from a new angle, which will undoubtedly give you a lot of food for thought.
If you feel that you cannot cope and cannot find answers to important questions, sign up for a Skype consultation with me, together we will analyze the situation and find a solution.
Where do you think this attraction comes from and why towards certain people? Is it more like love or a slight crush? Or maybe it's just passion?
Enjoy life and be happy!
Throughout their lives, everyone has experienced an irresistible attraction to another person at least once. Many people are concerned about the question of where this feeling comes from and how to react to it correctly? Attraction can arise at the wrong time or to a stranger, or even to someone who does not evoke much sympathy. To understand how to deal with this feeling, you need to know the reasons why you are attracted to a person and how the mechanisms of attraction work.
The subconscious is primarily responsible for the occurrence of attraction, so at first it is difficult for people to give an adequate answer as to why they are drawn to a certain person. Attraction is accompanied by a strong hormonal release, which puts the brain in a state of euphoria and love. Why does this outburst happen? The reasons can be roughly divided into physiological and psychological.
| Physiological reasons | Psychological reasons |
| Sexual hunger (prolonged absence of sexual intercourse). | The need for intimacy, emotionally close relationships. |
| Stress, need for relaxation. | Personal attitudes and values (upbringing, outlook on life, goals and needs that the brain reads instantly). |
| Procreation (the only goal is conception). | Defense mechanisms (what we most need, what we fear). |
| Pleasure (receiving physical pleasure). | Habit (constant repetition of sexual actions leads to their automatic, uncontrolled commission). |
If a girl is attracted to a powerful, dominant man, most likely, her parental family had a patriarchal system, so she is looking for a patron like a father.
If a man is attracted to a woman who is aggressive and disrespectful, then perhaps his mother was harsh and harsh. In this case, the man’s subconscious models the usual stereotype of building relationships between a man and a woman.
Attraction to a stranger is associated with a set of attitudes that are firmly entrenched in a person’s head. The brain selects the most suitable personality based on these criteria, then a chemical reaction occurs. At the level of consciousness, people decide whether a given person is really suitable for them; character, profession, goals, temperament, financial situation, etc. are taken into account.
When a person experiences stress for a long time or does not have sexual intimacy, then attraction can be formed on pure physiology, since sex is the simplest way to relieve tension and get a portion of the happiness hormone.
Important!
Attraction and falling in love are not love. Many people confuse these concepts, since attraction can be strong. But gradually the hormonal levels return to normal and people are no longer so attracted to each other. They begin to soberly assess the situation, and another question arises: why this particular person? Some people manage to make mistakes.
If you are attracted to the wrong person?
Why are you attracted to a certain man or woman if this is not the person you would like to be with? When attraction arises to a dishonest person, rude, insecure, broken, this means that unconscious mechanisms built on complexes, fears, and blocks are working inside you. To stop the action of these mechanisms, it is necessary to understand for what reason and for what purpose they were launched, and to reset the values.
If a person, more often a woman, is in a state of Victim, he will automatically look for a Tormentor. They become insecure and complex people who need to dominate someone in order to assert themselves. Sacrifice is the best option. To get out of this vicious circle, the Victim needs to enter the position of the Author. Then she will no longer need the Tormentor.
Advice!
Don't take attraction as a sign of fate. Attraction to another person is just a small push that may or may not begin a strong wonderful feeling and a strong relationship for years to come.
Wrong time
There are situations where people feel attracted to other people when they are already in a relationship with someone else. What to do if you are drawn to a person at such an inopportune time? First, find out the reason. They may be as follows:
- lack of love and emotional intimacy in existing relationships;
- lack of sexual intimacy, dissatisfaction with sexual intimacy;
- destructive relationships (collapsed to the ground; presence of inappropriate behavior on the part of the partner);
- crisis (grinding in, birth of a child, crisis at 3 years, 7 years, 12 and 25 years of marriage);
- intrapersonal crisis (age or life, turning points in life).
Based on the reason, you decide what to do. If you decide to maintain an existing relationship, then you need to work on it. You can do this alone or with a partner. The problem definitely needs to be solved before it increases tenfold.
Behavior strategy, problem solving options
Possible behavior when you are strongly attracted to a person can be divided into two categories: if you want intimacy with him, and if you do not want intimacy. When nothing is stopping you and you are ready to try to get closer, consider the following tips:
- get to know the person you like better, do not rush to draw conclusions about him;
- define for yourself the criteria for choosing a life partner, what kind of person he should be, what you will not tolerate;
- try to establish friendly relations.
If you have established a negative cause for the attraction that has arisen, then begin to work on eliminating this cause. Pay attention to the recommendations:
- try to distance yourself from the object of passion;
- don't focus on the feeling;
- engage in self-development.
Is it possible that the person you are magnetically attracted to is the love of your life? Yes, it's possible. Is this necessarily the case? No, not necessarily. Does the attraction go away? Yes, passion always subsides, hormones calm down, and if there is no love and acceptance in this place, then there will be emptiness there.
Any relationship has different options for the development of events. Much depends on people: whether they accept themselves and their partner, whether they work on problems. Unconscious impulses play an important role in human life, but with the help of reason, people can control their instincts and make informed decisions.