I can't be alone
Some men simply cannot remain on their own. Due to certain complexes and psychology, such a guy needs a woman nearby. If he breaks up with one, he immediately finds a replacement. Such men are not particularly picky. If a woman more or less suits them in appearance and character, then he will be with her until the situation develops in such a way that they have to separate. Such guys may talk about love and deep feelings, but in reality they do not experience them. This type of man is more focused on himself, as they try to cope with their loneliness in any way, without particularly paying attention to those who have been chosen as a means to solve the problem. Moreover, in appearance they seem quite loving and romantic. But in fact, such a young man does something for his girlfriend only because he wants to keep her close. When such a man has a woman in his life, it is easier for him to cope with complexes. Listening to a beautiful lady, such a young man gets the opportunity to fight his complexes, which he simply cannot overcome on his own. At the same time, he may well consider his own feelings to be love, since he thinks about them quite superficially. For such a guy, the main ones are always his problems. He thinks a lot about himself and does everything in life in a way that is convenient for him. The girls who are nearby sooner or later notice this, first try to change something, and then simply leave. And men, having made at most one feeble attempt to win a woman back, “give up on her” and find a new source for themselves to fight their complexes.
Showing off
Men do not always really find new love. It’s just that many of them really want to show and prove something to their ex. This is why guys start dating someone to spite her. Alternatively, they pretend that they are dating. In this case, the cause of such behavior is the same complexes and the injured male ego. The guy thinks: how could she break up with me, so smart, beautiful and the best? Never mind, I will prove that someone needs me and she was very mistaken in doing this. Guided by such thoughts, the young man begins to rush headlong to clubs and other places where many pretty girls gather and finds someone who he can present to everyone as his new passion. At such moments, guys rarely pay attention to the intelligence of lovely ladies and their compatibility in tastes and interests. All this fades into the background, since first of all the guy needs to prove his masculine strength and attractiveness. And for this, he does not need a reliable life partner, but a pretty face, about whom mutual acquaintances will start talking and rumors will reach his ex.
Yes, to do this is very low and stupid. But many men cannot and do not want to understand that jealousy will never return their woman to them. Yes, undoubtedly, she can be jealous, but if a girl went into a breakup deliberately, because she really was not happy with the relationship, then even surrounding herself with fashion models, her ex-boyfriend will no longer be able to force her to return, since jealousy in this case loses very much to rational thinking, which , undoubtedly, such a lady has. So before you start worrying about your ex-boyfriend just forgetting about you, take a good look at the situation. Perhaps it is at this moment that he is doing everything to cause those very experiences, and you absolutely do not need it. Therefore, do not fuel his excitement with your jealous looks and questions to mutual acquaintances about who is next to him. And especially don’t talk about a new passion with the young man himself. If you begin to react to his behavior, then the effect will be achieved and you will have to walk in a vicious circle for a very long time, in which you will try to break up, and the young man will in every way arouse your jealousy in order to get you back.
He just didn't like
Unfortunately, the reason for such a quick switch from one woman to another may be that the young man simply did not love his ex for a long time or never felt for her. Perhaps he started dating her just like that, and then he seemed to get used to it. Or he saw how the woman loved him, so he was close to her, but in his heart he wanted her to end the relationship herself. Often women worry because the young man quickly found a replacement for them in the case when it is the ladies who initiate the breakup. When men decide to leave, the situation is clearer, since leaving occurs precisely because of another or because the guy does not love. But when a girl suggests ending the relationship, she then becomes unclear how the guy was able to forget about her so quickly.
In this case, men very often show cowardice. They are simply afraid to take responsibility for the breakup, so they do everything to make the woman want to leave them, but at the same time they themselves do not take the initiative. Here the whole point lies, as in previous cases, exclusively in male complexes. The guy wants to be bad in the eyes of society, he is afraid of losing his status, he is afraid that people will be disappointed in him and turn away. That’s why the young man will just wait until the lady of his heart gets tired of his behavior and she decides to leave him. And then, with a clear conscience, he begins to build a new relationship. In such a situation, women do not need to consider that they are in some way worse than his new girlfriend, beat themselves up and root complexes in their souls. It’s just that we are all different people and each of us is suitable for building strong relationships, while others are just an intermediate stage that needs to be passed through and forgotten. Therefore, there is never any need to worry and live in memories. In general, if a guy acts like this, it means he is a weak person, dependent on the general opinion. And with such a man it is very difficult to build a strong and real relationship, since he will always live with an eye on others. Therefore, if you see that a young man immediately started dating a new girl, just wish him good luck and open your heart to new feelings and relationships. The fact that your ex did not love you enough is not something terrible and terrible. Love is a feeling that can come and go, but with the one and only, with your true soul mate, you can carry love to the end of your life. You just need to meet the right person.
One of the most pressing questions, isn't it? Why do men quickly find replacements? Women, however, too. How many stories do I know when an inconsolable widow remarried within a year? But.. the blog is not about women's shortcomings)
There are several reasons why a man finds a new girlfriend barely having time to break up with the previous one. But there are 3 main ones.
1. The most common and obvious one is that he already knew this girl while he was in a relationship with you. Therefore, he did not need much time for a new relationship. It is not necessary that he cheated. Maybe the man simply “banned” this girl some time ago, and now, being free, he has moved on to active action.
2. He stopped loving you a long time ago, but lived by inertia, because everything suited him. But now you have initiated the separation - and nothing is holding him back anymore (if he was the initiator, then everything is clear). What does all these lamentations have to do with “He loved so much! Loved it so much! I couldn’t live and breathe!” V 
in most cases from the series “oh, it’s not difficult to deceive me, I’m happy to be deceived myself!” You see, the trick is that he couldn’t breathe once before - a couple of years ago or at the beginning of your relationship. And then he calmed down. But since there were no special problems with him, you, by inertia, continued to believe that love still burns with a blue flame. And to confirm this illusion, a couple of smacks on his part, a smile and an affectionate word like “bunny” or “baby”, which he could utter for a long time purely out of habit, were enough. Moreover, even if you are a smart girl who “does not believe in words, but looks at actions,” you still cannot always see that love has disappeared. Why? Because the man himself does not always realize this and continues to take care of you, give gifts out of habit or because he is decent in himself. Understanding that another person no longer loves you is sometimes very difficult! Especially if you don't want to think about it.
3. A man quickly finds a replacement for you because he cannot be alone. This is also why widowers remarry so quickly. Having lived in marriage for many years, they can no longer adjust to living alone. So does a man after a breakup. He is already accustomed to a certain way of life - for example, that a woman does this and that, they spend their time this way, life is already established in this regard. And finding myself alone, 
the man is under extreme stress. Therefore, he quickly enters into a new relationship in order to return to his usual way of life.
These are the most common reasons. But there are others:
4. A man does not want to suffer. Everyone has seen the picture entitled “How a Boyfriend and a Girlfriend Get Over a Breakup.” Picture 1 - the girl is crying, the guy is rejoicing; picture 2 - the girl tries to smile while looking at the cake, the guy thoughtfully drinks beer; picture 3 - the guy is crying, the girl is rejoicing. There is some truth in every joke. Indeed, men often do not immediately realize all the consequences of a breakup. I remember one of my friends, who couldn’t forget his ex-girlfriend for 3 years, talked about their relationship. She told him she was leaving, and he decided “oh well.” And then - as he himself said - “After a couple of weeks it hit me. I quit sports, told the coach that I was quitting, and I couldn’t find a place for myself all summer.” And then he went into all serious troubles - he would live with one for 2 months, then with the other. What was that girl supposed to think? That he quickly found a replacement for her. By the way, remember the “Sinai widower” Oleg Vinnik, who lost his wife and two small children in a plane crash in Egypt in 2015? At first he “cryed” on his Instagram, posting their photos with touching inscriptions, and six months later he got married. A lot of dirt was poured on him! But it cannot be ruled out that the man was in a somewhat altered state of consciousness and simply ran away from reality to a cheerful and broken girl - apparently, the complete opposite of his wife. By the way, the new marriage didn’t seem to last long.
5. A man wants to start his life again. In previous relationships, too much negativity had accumulated - and it was not necessary that this negativity was very noticeable, maybe he was experiencing it inside - and now he wants to unwind and enjoy life. It’s difficult to do it alone—you’ll be overloaded. Therefore, a new novel is a great way out.
6. Out of spite. Well, we can’t rule that out either. “Look, you fool, what you lost!”
7. Nowhere to go. In the literal sense of the word. He doesn’t want to go to his parents, it’s expensive to rent, so after leaving your house, all that remains for him is to find a new girl who will shelter him. By the way, we are not necessarily talking about gigolos. After all, many people don’t have their own housing. And this does not mean that the man has only a mercantile interest in the new girl. In adulthood, the issue of convenience is generally not the last thing in a relationship.
8. Fell in love. Yes, this happens too. But still not as often as we think. That's why I put this reason in 8th place.
9. Cry on your shoulder. And then, smoothly and imperceptibly, the relationship with the “vest” develops into something more.
In conclusion, I want to say that, of course, not all men are so fast. And not all women. If a person really loves, he suffers and he does not have the strength or desire to make new acquaintances. I will say again that I know enough stories where a man does not want to start a new relationship for several years, because he has not yet gotten over the old one. Therefore, all these jumping and quick acquaintances are more “from the evil one.” There was no special love in past relationships.
If your boyfriend has found another girl, it is important to follow clear instructions from psychologists so as not to let the breakup destroy your self-confidence. This will help you avoid severe depression and continue living your life to the fullest.
Sometimes it is very important to correctly diagnose the behavior of a man who has fallen out of love. If a guy doesn't love you anymore, you can easily tell by his words and actions. This way you can avoid letting your relationship lead to betrayal and save time and nerves.
Throw him away
If you realize that you are being cheated on, but there has been no official breakup, then do it first. You can give him a chance to explain himself, but most psychologists advise setting yourself up for separation, because in less than 5% of cases such relationships gain new strength and develop in a positive direction.
Usually men immediately say that they have someone else, but if he hasn’t told you, you shouldn’t wait for the weather by the sea. Don't find out who she is and how he met her, why he chose her over you, and so on. These are all the little things that are no longer important. Self-reflection is important, but the first step is to cut off any ties with the man. You need to get rid of, at least temporarily, all the things that remind you of him, remove him from social networks, delete photos together.
If he calls you after the breakup, then under no circumstances should you pick up the phone. A person should not exist for you for at least three weeks. It is during this period, according to psychologists, that your strongest feelings will completely disappear.
Find new entertainment
It is very important not to become depressed, because this can have serious consequences. Entertainment means some kind of hobby. You can work more so that less time is spent on suffering and thoughts. You need to find something that will allow you to take your mind off the problem and change the situation.
If everything remains the same, you will not be able to recover from a difficult breakup for a long time. Some people experience it for several months; for others it lasts for years. Don't give up on your life.
Sports will help a lot. Physical activity drives out all the negativity and increases the production of happiness hormones. Don't exhaust yourself with endless workouts - start small.
Do not drink alcohol
Do not under any circumstances drink alcohol. It won't help you get rid of bad thoughts. The consequences will be much more dire than just a headache and physical weakness.
Psychologists advise staying away from bad habits during love depression. This applies primarily to girls. Internet addiction can also be dangerous during this period, since on social networks you can constantly come across traces of your ex-man. It is necessary to limit the time spent on social networks. It would be even better to completely avoid staying in them.
Draw conclusions by looking back
There is no need to think about the breakup itself. It is advisable to think about what you can improve in yourself so that this does not happen again. There are always aspects that require some kind of modernization. Perhaps you put too much pressure on the person or, conversely, gave him too much freedom.
Such an analysis is always needed, but it’s worth waiting until the emotions subside a little. For the first two or three days it is better not to think about it at all.
Ask your friends to invite you out more often
You need communication because loneliness will eat you up from the inside. Go to the cinema for a fun movie, hang out with old friends, visit those you haven't seen for a long time. At the same time, it is better to be honest and say that you are going through a breakup and need communication. Normal people will understand you. The main thing is not to start talking about how bad you feel. Don't infect anyone with negativity.
There is a chance that you will quickly meet a new man. New love is very good. You shouldn’t think something like “I won’t succeed again,” “Why am I doing this.” Be positive and cheerful. Fate gives you a chance - make the most of it.
The last and very important tip is don't rush to take revenge. There is a time for everything, so if your boyfriend has found someone else, you should put aside the desire to give him what he deserves. There is a beautiful way to take revenge, but it is based on the most important principle - expectation. Do not give in to emotions under any circumstances. Good luck and don't forget to press the buttons and
We haven’t even had time to break up, only two months have passed, and he has already found someone else and, it seems, is even living with her. How could he forget me so quickly, maybe he didn’t love me?
Many women write to us on the Love-911 website asking similar questions. They don’t understand: how can you forget your old love so quickly and fall in love with a new woman.
Maybe then most men just pretend to love, but, in fact, have never loved?
Of course, before discussing this topic, it is important to understand that the behavior of men, just like women, is influenced by the reason for separation. How did the separation happen, was there any betrayal or betrayal on the part of the woman or man?
After all, if, for example, a woman cheated, then a man can either simply go to great lengths because of disadvantaged behavior, or simply take revenge by quickly finding someone else. Then this is normal behavior of a wounded man. But if, for example, you broke up for a while or decided to teach him a lesson, or maybe he got angry and left, then the situation is different, and you need to know how to behave.
All couples have their own story and it is impossible to say unequivocally why the man quickly found another. After all, in some couples the man really didn’t love enough, in some he pretended, and in some there was real love, and that is why the man wants to try to quickly recover from this love and start living again.
How could he forget me?
To begin with, it must be said that both men and women have a hard time dealing with separation. Both suffer, but the rehabilitation process for men and women mostly proceeds differently.
Everything, as usual, comes down to the different psychology of men and women. It’s no secret that women’s psychology is designed to be more emotional; they are created by nature to think not with their heads, but with their hearts. Women’s intuition tells them how to behave. Of course, this is exaggerated, but, in general, it is true.
Men, by their nature, are different: they are reasonable, they simply cannot be as emotionally rich, otherwise they will not be able to fulfill their direct male responsibilities, since they will be overwhelmed by anxieties and fears for any reason, and they have few of them .
Thus, women quickly become attached to their chosen ones and have a harder time coping with their experiences. A man, on the other hand, becomes attached to a woman longer and overcomes mental anguish more easily. Although one must argue with this, it cannot be said that a man experiences them any easier, he simply does everything in order not to think, although, left alone with himself, he also suffers unbearably. Figuratively speaking, he puts his suffering in a box and hides it deep inside, forcing it with other emotions. Thus, he simply tries not to think about what torments him and continues to build his life.
If a man saw his true love in his ex-girlfriend, then he simply accepts this as a fact, and in the future does not look for love, he simply looks for comfort and tranquility in a woman for himself. And, given that it is easier for a man to find a woman, since he is the one who chooses, then, accordingly, he quickly finds comfort for himself. Moreover, in many cases, as we have already said, the new passion does not become his beloved, the man simply lives with her to fill the void and fill her with new emotions.
Therefore, men very often, within two to three months, begin to live in a civil marriage, or even register it.
As a result, it turns out that a man does not forget about his love at all, he can carry it throughout his life, but at the same time he may well be happy in a new marriage, it’s just that happiness will be in a different one.
Thus, it cannot be said that if a man quickly finds a new woman, then he never loved, it’s just that men are different and, accordingly, solve personal problems differently.
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Every woman knows the answer to this question in her soul. But they still want to read about it again.
When your future husband fell in love with you, it was most likely a bright period in your life. Your relationship developed at an incredible height and intensity of emotions. There were beautiful actions, courtship, beautiful words. It seemed to you that you could never get enough of each other, but... The period of falling in love is not eternal, and sooner or later saturation with emotions comes.
The honeymoon is over. For some it lasts several months, for others it lasts 1 or 1.5 years, and the man enters his usual haven. His obsession with love wanes, the fire of his desire goes out. His feelings calm down and sink to the usual bottom, where, in fact, they live. He stops burning and giving the woman the attention he had at the beginning. He immerses himself in work or something else. He needs to be alone more and more often, so as not to be touched.
The woman regards this as the disappearance of love for her, but this is not so. The man simply returns to his usual state. He is covered with his usual male shell. A woman encountering such behavior begins to feel lonely and unloved.
Intimate conversations and romantic weekends disappear. A man prefers to spend most of his time in peace and solitude or minding his own business. A woman is not ready to meet SUCH a man. His behavior tells her about his loss of interest in her, his indifference. A woman is offended when faced with such behavior. Due to her emotional nature and feminine sensitivity, it is difficult for her to withstand emotional detachment and coldness. Someone pouts in silence, someone tries to point out to a man his wrong attitude and behavior by shouting, reproaches and scandals. Someone closes off emotionally, filling the resulting void with something else.
By closing off and being offended, the woman pushes the man out of her space. And he begins to feel unnecessary. He sincerely does not see and does not understand the reason for such an attitude towards himself. As a matter of fact, he feels the same as a woman.
This also happens because most people are afraid of love. When a relationship begins, a woman needs time to become attached to a man, to believe and trust him.
At the beginning of a relationship, she prefers to be at a safe distance for herself. A man feels this and is drawn to a woman. She is a safe object for him.
As the relationship develops, the woman becomes attached to the man and falls into a painful dependence on him. She needs a lot of attention and love and becomes sensitive to his feelings for her. This attitude creates tension, and the man begins to feel threatened and an encroachment on his personal space. Defending his territory, he closes himself off from his feelings. At the same time, he offends and pushes away a woman without noticing it.
I will give you an excerpt from a letter from one of my readers, which describes in great detail everything that is beginning to happen in many families:
“We lived together for 5 years, I was sure that he loved me very much, but now it seems to me that he no longer needs me. The relationship stopped bringing joy, tenderness and warmth disappeared. I don't feel a soul connection.
He began to behave very strangely. I feel that I no longer occupy the same place in his life that I had at the beginning of our relationship. It seems to me that he no longer needs me. It’s as if he found a replacement for me, although I know he’s not cheating on me. But I stopped worrying him as a woman. He has less and less desire for intimacy. He began to allow himself things that were not previously allowed between us.
I tried to talk to him, explain that he had changed, that I lacked love and attention. There was only silence in response. I can't reach him.
We have become different. We stopped understanding each other. I feel that every day we are moving away from each other.
It frustrates me, but the more I try, the worse it gets.
Is this really how love goes? When his love became important to me, it seems that my husband ceased to be interested in it.
We grew very distant from each other. It seems to me that we have become complete strangers. Sometimes doubts creep in that he has found another woman. But he is at home all evenings and weekends.
Everyone began to live their own lives. He is not interested in my life, and I try not to interfere with him.
I understand that he is not the worst husband. But does this really happen in all families - people become strangers and everyone has their own life? Only sometimes we spend time together.
I don't feel his presence in my life at all. Is it worth continuing the relationship?
The tragedy of family life often begins when a woman or man is not ready to accept this distance between themselves that has appeared. Distance is scary and is a signal of dislike. “Well, if you don’t love me, then I won’t need you. You deceived me, did not live up to my expectations, and then it was worth starting to be together.”
One insult is layered on top of another, and all this leads to the woman blaming the man for everything, even to the point that he ruined her life. Her resentment grows, she becomes more and more angry with her husband, and he withdraws more and more into himself. There comes a time when two very close people become strangers. They don't understand each other at all. They expect each other to change in behavior and attitude. A woman gets tired of the lack of attention to herself and begins to wonder if she needs such a relationship. During such periods, the husband may have another woman.
Most people cannot stand loneliness and the feeling of being useless. Running away from these sensations, everyone tries to find their own haven, where they can bask in the rays of newly emerging love and flirtation. That's why another woman or another appears.
The most difficult thing in a relationship is to withstand cooling in love, to wait out such periods calmly and patiently. Family is more than love and spiritual closeness. Many people strive to start a family only thinking about love. In addition to love, a family is based on mutual obligations towards each other and on many other components.
Experiencing resentment and pain, without understanding, you begin to destroy relationships. You are trying to get what you want from a man. And when you don’t receive it, you push him away in resentment. Here, in fact, your life lesson begins - learn to live, not expect and not depend on the love and attention of a man. And at the same time do not lose respect for him.
When you become disappointed in a man, you begin to devalue him. Confident in your uselessness to him, you begin to doubt his need for you. And you often think that you could meet someone more worthy. A man feels all this, even if you don’t tell him about it. This leads to him feeling unwanted by you. A woman who gives him opposite feelings becomes dear and close to him.
I don’t want to justify men and say that you are to blame. The search for pleasures and pleasures speaks of spiritual immaturity. Your man is in dire need of love just like you. It would seem that it would be easier to give each other what everyone needs. But in your relationship, neither the man nor you are able to start giving. Resentment and accumulated irritation leave no opportunity for this. It is much simpler and easier to find someone else who will create the illusion of love.
To prevent this from happening, you need to engage in your spiritual development and solve your problem of deficit in love and attention at a deep level. No man can make up for the lack of love that you experience. No one will give you what you lack. Only you, working on yourself, will be able to heal the damaged early structures in your childhood. Don't shift this responsibility to a man. He is the same damaged and unloved child as you. How can two such people help each other?
In any relationship you are moving closer to your unconscious. As the relationship develops and intimacy develops, your childhood needs and desires begin to come into play. A woman begins to become attached to a man and wait, and sometimes demand love and attention.
Here she can switch. From your demands and desire to receive to acceptance and awareness that you cannot always get what you want. Experiencing all your painful feelings, through disappointment and giving up hope, opens up the opportunity to go beyond your script and discover the capacity for love.
The man begins to pull away, afraid of the emerging attachment and dependence. The more a woman makes claims and demands, the more a man moves away from her. This suggests that you need to stop. The most important thing is to stay in position, not to build or destroy. A woman often goes from one extreme to another; she cannot be patient and wait for results. It is very important for a woman to live in some certainty: “We are together or not. Either you love or we break up."
Or she begins to build relationships and love a man correctly, as they say in books. Not getting the desired result quickly is the other extreme: “Why do I need all this. Tired of it! Tired! How can?!"
Emotions that swing one way or the other tie you even more to a man. And it doesn’t matter whether you have decided to be with him or not yet. By becoming attached to him, you deprive yourself of choice. Such extremes destroy relationships and women. Accept the situation as it is. Let her go. Letting go is being in uncertainty and watching what will happen. Follow life, and do not set your own laws and boundaries.
If such a period comes into your life, then reduce your activity in any direction to 0.
Don’t prove anything, don’t sort things out, don’t decide how you will live alone. Stop. Take a neutral position. Don't attract a man to you, but don't push him away either.
Your focus is always on the man, on his actions and his motives. You are trying to understand him and give explanations for his actions. You forget that even if you understand the reasons for a man’s actions, you, in any case, will not be able to change him. By thinking in this direction, you again drive yourself into painful attachment.
A woman, engaged in her internal development, most often pursues the goal of how she will change so that she can change a man. She does not let go of the thought for a second that he needs to change so that everything is fine with them. But she doesn't know how to change a man. Often, women come to a psychologist or attend trainings just for this reason. Not for the sake of her changes, but for the sake of the opportunity to change her partner and ultimately get what she wants from a MAN.
Resentments build a wall, which, on the one hand, protects a woman from pain and suffering, on the other hand, this wall destroys relationships, freezing out all feelings. A man, feeling this and listening to hurtful words from a woman (she does not talk about her feelings, she blames the man), shrinks even more inside himself and closes himself, not leaving even a crack. His pride is hurt. His self-esteem suffers. The monologue of his mother or father from childhood, which he carefully forgot, again rings in his ears. A man puts on not just a shell, but impenetrable armor. Women's feelings and all grievances, reaching this armor, are hit and broken. At the same time, leaving an even bigger wound in the woman’s soul. And this is repeated day after day or periodically. The pile of grievances and misunderstandings is growing more and more.
And the man feels even more lonely because of this armor. This armor, on the one hand, protects him from women’s reproaches and claims, and on the other, isolates his feelings, dooming him to loneliness. He is afraid to even open his structure, because he does not expect to receive anything other than fiery arrows and stones. And for the sake of its own safety, it continues to hold its positions. The wife turns into an angry woman, ready to use even prohibited incendiary mixtures at the most inopportune moment. The house turns into a battlefield, and without any rules.
And here, among the ruins sticking out after military operations, SHE is found. A woman, completely unarmed, who is ready to give all of herself without reserve just because HE exists...
And the man does not plan to leave home, he only wants to soak up in another exotic setting. But this is where the wife should stop, but she still buys guns and certainly conducts tests. She can also be understood; she becomes even more offended and misunderstood. She still hopes to stir up a man’s feelings and feel his love again, his tenderness, his soul. Her whole war was started only in order to feel needed, loved and the only one. But the effect of her military actions is completely different. The man gets further and further away, finds more and more peace in the arms of his mistress.
Your mistress is no better or worse than you. She is the same woman, she has only one advantage - she has no grudges against your husband, and she is tired of being alone. The man is not leaving you, the OTHER woman is no better. A man moves away from YOUR ATTITUDE TO HIM. THE OTHER IS NOT BETTER THAN YOU, she just treats your man better. And he, too, at first is not the same as with you.
People are afraid of difficulties. They don't want to work on relationships. It's much easier to switch to new ones. And they will be new until the unconscious speaks, and then everything will go in a certain circle.
The problem is that you were born and grew up in conditions of a deficit of love and attention, so throughout your life you strive to make up for this deficiency. You need another to support your “I”, which you feel only in the presence of a person who loves you. The desire to be loved over time turns into a demand to be loved and the only important thing in a man’s life. More important than all his affairs and even his work. You are not ready to share it with anyone or anything.
This desire, your demands, constant control and command of a man, disrespect for him, perception in your soul as a loser leads to the fact that he feels unnecessary and unloved. Without feeding from you, he stops feeding you with the necessary vital energy of love. Without getting your needs met, you feel irritated and tired. Nobody produces love anymore. The boat of family life begins to leak. This is how other women appear in a man’s life.
If you feel that problems have come into your relationship with your husband and you don’t know what to do. Then remember one golden rule: “If you don’t know what to do, then it’s better not to do anything yet.” Calm down. Breathe out the situation and tell yourself, “I’ll think about it tomorrow.” Take care of yourself, switch to your inner world. Yours will remain with you, provided you do not hold onto it. Only by letting go will yours always come to you in a different capacity.
Because he wants what you want. You are trying to get love from your husband, and he finds a woman who will give him a feeling of importance and need.
There is no right or wrong. That's life. And you need to think first of all about your internal state.
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