There are a lot of unworthy men in the world, and they always behave the same way: they promise heaven, and then disappear. Of course, this scheme may be veiled. Communication is supplemented by daily dates, nightly romance, gifts, but, as a rule, ends in complete ignorance.
The fact that a man talks about love and greets you every morning does not indicate the depth of feelings. Perhaps he is simply comfortable in this relationship. How to understand that a man is pretending and in reality he does not care about you and your desires? Read on and maybe you will get the answer to your question.
A man is indifferent when...
1. Doesn't get bored
The head of a guy in love is filled with thoughts about his girlfriend. Leaving for several hours, he is eager to see her again, he misses her terribly. If this is not the case, then there is no need to talk about love. An indifferent man will act as if he broke up with you an hour ago, although perhaps a week has already passed.
2. Doesn't make eye contact
What does a lover do? He tries to catch the woman’s gaze, looking straight at her. A man who doesn't feel anything avoids direct visual contact. It’s easier for him to study the wall, his own hands, the TV screen, but not the eyes of the woman next to him. An indifferent look is a clear sign of disinterest.
Of course, a man can look at a woman’s legs and other charms, but this only indicates his lust. This means that he regards his girlfriend only as a sexual object. Being in her company, he will be bored and impatient. This is usually expressed in chair rocking and finger tapping. Have you noticed this about your chosen one? Such nonverbal signals are a clear sign of a lack of feelings. Passion should inspire, not bore.
3. Upstaged
A man can have a bunch of interests and hobbies, but none of them, in theory, should interfere with the relationship. Love comes first, and everything other than love can be put away. If you are not in a man's heart, you automatically fade into the background. This manifests itself in a very prosaic way: instead of making an appointment with you, he meets with friends at a bar. The chosen one prefers watching TV or reading a book to gentle telephone “serenades”. It's up to you to decide whether this man is worth your precious years.
4. Doesn't let you into your life
If a man doesn’t care about you, he won’t talk about his life. This is expressed in a reluctance to talk about the family or invite them home. He carefully guards his space, living in anticipation of true love. It is quite possible that you have never gone shopping together or gone to the sea, which is typical for a one-sided relationship. This man is in no hurry to introduce you to his surroundings and in every possible way avoids meeting your relatives.
A different type of man, even if he does not have special feelings for a girl, can take her with him. However, in company she acts aloof: she will never hug, take her hand, kiss, or ask if she is comfortable. He won’t even notice if some young man shows signs of attention to his companion, while he himself will actively flirt with other girls.
5. Doesn't ask anything
A man who is in love tries to grasp the train of thought of his passion. He will never miss such important, in his opinion, nuances as her well-being and mood. How does your chosen one behave? Does he care about your experiences, does he listen with interest to stories about vivid childhood experiences, fears and problems at work? A man's toughness disappears under the pressure of love, and even a naturally indifferent young man will do everything to make his sad girlfriend laugh.
6. Doesn't show up for no reason
Someone whose heart is silent will not call a girl just like that. Lovers do the same thing: they dial a number to find out how they are, to say that they miss you. In the worst case, the man never calls first and often hangs up and cancels meetings an hour before the scheduled time.
7. Doesn't say "we"
The pronoun “we” coming out of a man’s mouth signifies acceptance of the relationship. So he admits that the couple exists and the girl is part of his life. It's a warning sign if a guy, getting ready to go to the cinema with you, says to a friend: “I'm going to see a movie.”
8. Doesn't store shared photos
A loved one should always be nearby, so a guy interested in a girl copies her photo on social networks and takes a photo with her as a keepsake. A couple of images are necessarily stored in the phone’s memory, and the most successful photo adorns the display and monitor screen.
9. Thinks only about his own pleasure
If a man has feelings for you, he will show care even in bed. Whatever they do, they will certainly monitor your reaction, remembering which caresses they like the most. An indifferent person acts according to the standard scheme and finishes when he needs to. And what the lady feels at this moment is of little concern to the unresponsive partner.
Does your chosen one fall under these criteria? Don't be upset. Of course, it’s sad that so much time and emotions were wasted, but a new stage begins in your life - without an “empty” man. He will regret more than once that he missed a worthy girl, and you... you will find your soul mate. After all, everyone in the world is destined for someone by fate.
Many representatives of the stronger sex claim that they are not bored at all. Like, real men are males, they don’t know how to get bored and indulge in all sorts of sweet suffering. There are always many bright females around them, and the man has no time to think and get bored about just one. But believe me, this is not so. Even though the stronger sex will not cry at the window and complain to their friends about painfully missing their beloved, but they also know how to be sensual, love and miss.
Therefore, if in response to your innocent question: “Do you miss me?”, the man will frown sternly and answer: “Me? Yes, what are you saying! Rest assured: he misses you, he just doesn’t want to admit it.
Remember this and do not judge your young man harshly.
Frequently asked questions and answers
How to make a guy miss you?
1) You need to disappear from his life for a while. If you are constantly close to him, then it is natural that he will not miss you. In addition, it is not at all easy to voluntarily leave a loved one. But this is the only way you will give him time and space to understand, as well as the opportunity to realize how much he needs you in your absence.
2) You can be very busy for a while or just pretend to be, even if in fact you are not. The next time, talking with your partner, when he asks a question about what you are doing, you don’t need to give a definite answer, you can just laugh it off. This way you will show that you are a cheerful and easy-going person, but at the same time you will make the person agonize over the question of what you are actually doing in your absence.
3) If you do not live together, then you can make a man miss you by forgetting some of your things in his house. When he comes across her in his apartment, he, of course, will immediately remember you. The main thing is that you do not urgently need the forgotten item.
4) The most effective way is to become the life of the party, so that he always feels at ease and comfortable next to you. If you spend time with your partner, then you should not quarrel over trifles. And then, in any case, during separation, he will miss you and wait for your return.
How to make a guy miss you from a distance?
Constantly tell him how dear he is to you, how much you miss him, how much you look forward to meeting him. This will not be perceived as pressure, it is an expression of your feelings. And, believe me, he will miss you from the first second, as soon as he stops seeing you.
Keeps in touch
If a man is far from you, and you are tormented by guesses whether he misses you or has forgotten and does not remember, remember: if he misses you, he will definitely write a few words in the form of SMS or email, depending on how convenient it is for him. Or he will call. This already depends on the capabilities of your young man.
He will definitely remember you, no matter how far away he is, and no matter how busy he is.
But the degree of his “boredom” or the sincerity of his feelings should be judged not by the number of text messages or calls written, but by his words. If a man writes routine phrases, such as “how are you”, “what are you doing”, “it’s warm here, how about you?” And the answer to all questions is “clear,” or something like that - rest assured, your man either does not miss you sincerely or simply does not want to lose you as an object of sexual pleasure or a sweet companion. But if a man writes one SMS, but with gentle words: “Are you dressed warmly?”, “Don’t forget to put on a hat,” “Are you not sick: it’s terrible cold outside,” “I can’t write, I’m busy all the time,” rather Everything, he really misses and loves. After all, sincere feelings are, first of all, care and reverent attitude.
Judge not by the number of messages scrawled somehow or phrases spoken out of place on the phone, judge by the intonation, words, tenderness in the voice.
Remember: men find it difficult to express their feelings, sometimes they don’t know how to do it at all. But if they really love and miss you, they will find a way to tell you about it.
Can be annoying
Many men who are faced with a feeling of longing for a woman feel uncomfortable. They often don't understand what to do. Therefore, instead of a tender feeling, some kind of primitive, incomprehensible instinct of jealousy and annoyance breaks through in them.
A bored man is worse than an annoying August fly.
He constantly calls, sends messages, asks a lot of stupid questions, and begins to shower his lady with unnecessary funny gifts.
Many guys give girls figurines, perfume and a sea of flowers. Some shower girls with sweets, invite them to go hiking, to the cinema or to a cafe. But very often they do all this in a way that is awkward and incomprehensible. In a word, they do not know how to be bored. And this feeling baffles them.
But relax, men won’t be bored for long. This will happen to them after the first night together or during the course of living together.
Unusual online activity
Sometimes, when a man cannot tell you that he really misses you, he starts liking your photos from a hundred years ago, writing various “cute” things on the wall, and posting cute statuses or photos on his page.
But all this is designed for you to go to his page, see and appreciate. And everything will work out for you. Well, something like this. He “sort of” takes the first step, and you must evaluate him. But the man himself will not write first or (whatever!) call.
If you see that your man is suddenly “moving” online and giving you ambiguous hints: think, maybe the man is really bored. But he is ashamed or embarrassed to admit it.
Initiates reconciliation after a quarrel
If you don’t know whether your man is bored after a stormy showdown, and your pride does not allow you to call him, wait a few days.
Truly bored men give up very quickly: maybe a day, maybe two. Well, a week at most.
But these are already quite serious and principled examples. There are few of them and they get angry infrequently, but for a long time.
After a quarrel, it is better not to take any steps and wait. You're a woman. Pretend that you are not bored and that you don’t care at all.
You just wait for your man to come running to you with flowers in two days. And he will come running, rest assured. But he doesn’t come running: well, that means he wasn’t yours. There will be another one.
Let him be bored later. But it's no use.
Frequently asked questions and answers
How to behave if a guy from the army says he misses you?
There is no need to worry or think about something bad. This proves that he cares about you and wants you to wait for him. Answer in kind, he will be very pleased.
If a guy writes that he is bored, what does that mean?
An indifferent person does not call or write just like that. Men value their time and energy so much that they will not waste it on empty SMS with a girl they don’t like. Otherwise, they will not only listen, but also dedicate their interlocutor to painful moments of their life, talk about problems and share their joy and goals.
Should you tell a man that you miss him?
Depending on what kind of man he is and what you want from him, you need to either hold him, maintaining a strict balance, seem inaccessible, but open your feelings in time, or be as open as possible. If this is “the one,” playing with him is a bad idea. You need to trust yourself. And be sure that he reciprocates completely.
Why is a guy bored, but doesn’t write or call?
Start writing and calling him yourself. Look at his reaction. He will answer in 2 words or, on the contrary, he will begin to communicate with you normally and your first step will be an impetus for correspondence! Maybe he’s just not used to communicating like this and doesn’t know that he’s causing you discomfort with his silence!
How to hint to a guy that you miss him?
The main thing is to be unobtrusive towards your loved one. It is better to avoid the word “I miss” itself, because it can be perceived as a complaint or reproach to your loved one. Better write “waiting.” This word has not yet become so commonplace and sounds very positive. It also reflects the fact that you are attracted to this person, that he gives you pleasant feelings.
Why does a guy miss a girl?
You can be bored for one reason - if the girl is not indifferent. If a guy shows signs that he misses you and is looking forward to meeting you, then you have an important role in his life.
If a guy misses you, does that mean he loves you?
This is considered a sign of falling in love. If for some reason you cannot be near your chosen one, he gets bored and openly demonstrates this: he writes SMS and often calls, talks about how he cannot imagine his life without you. Of course, there should be moderation in everything, however, if you go on vacation for 3 weeks and during all this time you do not hear a word from your “Prince Charming”, then he probably has no chance of becoming king, since There seems to be no love in such a situation.
Who is more bored: a guy or a girl?
One of the main differences between men and women is emotionality. Men do not show their emotions and sometimes act “cold”. Women tend to be more sentimental and tend to express their feelings outward. When a woman misses her loved one, it can be very difficult for her to pull herself together and get her to do everyday activities. Mentally, she will always return to the one to whom she gave her heart, and this will affect the quality of her work and her enthusiasm for this, or rather, the lack thereof.
The guy wrote that he was bored, what should I reply?
What signs can you use to understand that a guy is bored?
He constantly texts you.
- He gets very angry when you don’t answer the phone.
- Constantly asks to send him a photo.
- Likes photos on social networks published several years ago.
- At the beginning of the week, he already offers you leisure for the weekend.
- He tries in every possible way to surprise you.
- Tells his friends about you.
Can a guy miss his ex?
Of course it can. Just like a girl can miss her ex. This is normal. Old feelings do not always evaporate. If a guy begins to remember some moments spent with his ex-girlfriend and he finds it pleasant, then a hint of boredom cannot be avoided.
Hello, dear readers! Perhaps it has always been this way. Women have always treated a man's words with some distrust. Now the situation has begun to reach extremes. We attach great importance to even small things and are ready to dissect every word said by a man. What is this: suspiciousness or have young people compromised themselves so much that they no longer have any trust?
“If a man says he’s bored, what could that mean?” women in the company of their friends bring up for discussion.
Today we will try to find out the answer to this question. What should I answer the guy, does he really love and in this way is trying to show you this feeling, or maybe, but he is not yet in love at all, or in general in this way for his own purposes, known only to him?
There are so many questions to be addressed, so let's get started without delay.
Meaning of words
If you've ever been in love, then you know that even a minute of separation evokes strong emotions. As soon as you leave a date, you already begin to miss your loved one, an irresistible desire appears to return, to stay together for some more time. It is quite possible that in his own words the young man shares precisely these feelings with you.
Do not think that all young people are intriguers who think through their own actions and words. Sometimes men just talk and it doesn't mean anything anymore. Such representatives of the stronger sex exist. This is not a myth.
It may seem to you that in this way he is hinting that it is time to think about living together, but in fact he is simply expressing what is on his soul. Without any additional information. Don't jump to conclusions.
So why aren't you here
For many girls it remains unclear - how can he be bored, but still not come? “We haven’t seen each other for a week. It means you miss me badly!” - of course, this is not worth saying to a young man. If you don’t share a man’s emotions, then it’s better to remain silent, but if you feel the same, then why don’t you take a step towards him?
Although the guy's words are at odds with his actions, they do not mean that... Women give in to feelings and emotions 100%. This is how we are made. If you have a desire, then it comes to the fore and everything else simply ceases to exist.
For men, everything happens a little differently. They try not to forget about other things that are important to them. He may be bored, want to meet a woman, but at the same time remembers that he must help his mother on the weekend, fix the car, or write an important report.
More responsible. From childhood they want something from them: “You have to,” “You’re a boy,” “You still have a family to support.” From an early age, a lot of demands are placed on them: “Don’t cry, you’re a man,” “Don’t do that to girls,” and much, much more. Rejoice, your young man does not forget about his responsibilities no matter what.
Women bathe in love, drown in it, give themselves completely to another person. Men don't let the voice of reason be silenced. Although, it happens differently. Everything is individual here.
Don’t forget that all people are different, and if you already had a young man who devoted all his free time to you, you don’t need to try to adapt all subsequent ones to this type and be offended that the new person behaves differently. It probably has its advantages, which you will learn about a little later.
Read Kara King's book More than just beautiful" In it you will learn about the twelve secret powers of a woman that no young man can resist. You will learn, become more self-confident, believe in your own sexuality, be able to make a man think that he is conquering you and much more, which will be very useful now, before you have entered into a new relationship.
Watch your actions
If, despite everything, you still have some words that he says that he misses you very much, you think that this is a banal phrase that he sends to each of his girlfriends, like “I love you, I kiss you, I miss you,” then it makes sense to pay attention to other indicators of feelings.
There are men who simply spread their vibes to all female representatives, calling them “suns”, “cats” or diminutive names (Tanechka, Lyubochka, Zoechka), and the phrase that they miss you is sent automatically, simply forgotten.
You shouldn’t attach much importance to just one randomly thrown phrase. Along with the words that the young man misses you, there must also be other actions on his part - dates, or something else.
However, even if such words were said to you in passing, this does not mean that you have no chance. It may take a little longer, but everything is in your hands.
Another useful book that may be useful to you is “ One step away from love» Katherine Thomas. She will tell you how to find the love of your life in less than 2 months.
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Men are like this: if it hurts - they endure it, if they are upset - they don’t cry, if they are bored - they are silent. Women, being emotional creatures, express their emotions openly and eloquently. It is difficult for them to understand why feelings should be hushed up if the heart is torn to pieces by love? But the men are silent. They are bored, but silent. By what signs can you guess that a man is not indifferent and bored?
- Call me, call. Men who consider their phone to be their extension do not need to ask this. They call constantly, even if they don't tell you the real reason for the call. No, the man is not bored! In any case, he doesn’t talk about it directly. Does he just want to know what you're doing every half hour? Where were you? Who did you meet? Do you know that it’s raining outside, the sound of which always makes your heart sad? Do you remember the smell of those chrysanthemums that he gave you on the first date? How can you not remember? So, it’s time to meet to receive them again as a gift!
- Message attack. For many men, due to their very “strange” logic, it is easier to communicate with the woman they love through correspondence rather than through live conversation. It’s not difficult for such a man to text you several times an hour. And even if his grammar is frankly lame, and his messages do not carry much meaning, the main thing for him is to always be in touch with you. Some men, while texting, try to hide their true feelings, which in a conversation will be revealed by the timbre of their voice, awkward pauses, stuttering, or off-topic blurted stupidity. This is easier in correspondence - you have time to think everything over, check the text for errors and hide a subtle romantic hint between the lines.
- I look into you like a mirror. A man who misses you is never enough. He can't get enough of you. He doesn’t have enough dates or friendly meetings, so he hangs out on social networks on your pages. He follows your life through online publications, likes photos, comes up with original comments on them, perhaps with subtext in which you should catch his longing for you. You can also understand that a man is bored if he asks you to send you a selfie, for example, wishing him good night or good morning. He wants to know how your life goes in the minutes and hours when he is not around and cannot see you.
- A keepsake. If you “settled” in a man’s head, then he will definitely want to carry with him not only your image, but also a real reminder of you. For example, he may ask for some personal item of yours as a gift, a soft toy, or a trinket purchased especially for him. If a man is dear to your heart, do not refuse him this little request. Make this gift a talisman. Carry it with you for several days, endow it with your energy and love. So he will have the power that turns any thing into a talisman.
- Mr Bond. An active and proactive man will not be bored, simply sighing over your photo or remembering how you smiled at him at a holiday with a mutual friend. He will act in search of ways to get closer to you. If you notice his secret spying on you (see traces of his frequent visits on your Internet pages, hear from mutual friends that he asked about you, etc.), there is no doubt that he is thinking about you, and if he is not yet bored , then a couple of your smiles or other signs of attention, and he will miss you! If you have not yet decided whether you need such a man, then think quickly. Initiative men are now being sold like hot cakes on a frosty day.
- What a meeting! You can hear this phrase from a man with whom you suspiciously often began to “accidentally” cross paths in different places. He shows up at a party at your favorite club, signs up for the gym that you also visit, rides with you on the same transport to work and, finally, you meet him in the company of mutual friends. Coincidence? Hardly. A man who is not just bored, but is looking for fulfillment of his feelings, will not sit idly by. He understands that he himself is the architect of his own happiness, and is looking for an opportunity to catch your eye so often that you think, maybe this is fate?
- Hidden care. Of course, if a man is bored and openly admits it, then his concern will be frank. But a man who is trying to secretly experience longing can also incognito and show concern - from his favorite flowers (sweets, a warm scarf, mittens, etc.) given anonymously to a car under the windows from a secret admirer who is worried that his beloved will not experienced discomfort from traveling on public transport. In our society this is called masculine behavior. Otherwise, what’s the point of quietly missing a woman and not giving vent to that creative feeling that can and should make her happier?
- Claims with resentment. An indifferent man has no complaints or grievances. He has nothing to do with you at all. And if your admirer is offended, indignant, jealous (especially with a strength of emotion unusual for him), know that he is breathing unevenly towards you. “Why don’t you answer calls?”, “Why are there so many men hanging around you?” “Why can’t you meet me today?” "You're just an insensitive piece of ice!" etc. A man misses you, thinks about you and wants a response, even if he shows you negative feelings. Therefore, remember, if you respond to such claims unrestrainedly, rudely and emotionally, for him this can also mean only one thing - you are not indifferent to him, because an indifferent woman will not waste her energy on an empty place.
- Meeting without separation. If a man has become attached to you with all his soul, he can’t bear the thought that all your meetings have a moment of separation. Therefore, before he has time to say goodbye to you after the first date, he is already planning a second one. And in general, all your dates are like a mini-rehearsal for your future life together: he introduces you to your friends and parents, shows you his apartment, asks how you would arrange the kitchen, bedroom, and nursery. He brings you to the decision not to separate anymore, because he is already very tired of missing you.
Incredible facts
When a man falls in love, he cannot stop thinking about the object of his desires.
He tries to attract a woman's attention, sends subtle but important signals to keep her attention.
Read also:8 clear signs that a MAN truly LOVES you
If you notice these signals, it means he misses you and is hoping for another chance to communicate with you.
Here are 10 signs that he misses you, although he may not admit it.
Does he miss me
1. He tries to contact you when you're not together.
When you post a photo or share something on social media, he is more likely to like your post or leave a comment.
He may be looking for any reason to send you a message. Don't be surprised if you receive a random message from him out of the blue. Thus, a man looks for any opportunity to socialize and find ways to connect.
2. He unobtrusively wants to find a reason to meet
When a man misses you, he finds many ways to meet you. For example, he may hint that a cafe has opened nearby and ask if you would like to check out the new place.
Or casually mention that he would like to go to a movie or a concert, but cannot find someone to keep him company. All this suggests that he is looking for an opportunity to spend time with you.
3. During a conversation, he mentions your personal memories or stories.
If he's always trying to find an excuse to insert an anecdote or memory into the conversation that only you both know about, he's trying to get closer to you.
This is his way of making your relationship closer. He wants to give you a feeling of nostalgia to push you towards him even more.
4. He can't stay away from you for a long time.
This can be communication in any form. A man who misses you feels the need to talk or see you at least from time to time. He can't help it.
He likes the knowledge that you are in his life, and he terribly misses you in moments of your absence. If he thinks about you, he will try to connect with you.
5. He gets excited or embarrassed when you meet unexpectedly.
If usually when you meet, he looks quite confident because he is preparing to meet you. But if the meeting happens unexpectedly, it can take him by surprise and unsettle him a little.
Yes, he may have been waiting to meet you, but a spontaneous meeting may make him a little nervous for fear of losing face in front of you.
6. If you spend time together, he tries to extend it.
If a man is interested in you, he will try to do everything possible to make this time as quality as possible.
He will try to prolong the dialogue by asking many questions. If he's giving you a ride home, he'll drive a little slower. He doesn't want to rush our time together.
7. He remembers important dates
If it's your birthday, he will send you a greeting to talk to you. If you mentioned an exam you need to take, he will wish you luck on that day.
He is looking for even a slight opportunity for closer communication to arise between you.
8. He belittles other men.
If you start talking about men or guys who are interested in you, the man will try to avoid the conversation or change the subject.
If this does not work out, he will try to somehow downplay the merits of other men in your life. No matter how stupid it may seem, he can even make them look bad in order to look much better in your eyes.
9. He gives you compliments or kind words.
A man in love will not hesitate to let you know how disarmed he is of you. He will let you know how important you are to him, how your presence affects his life.
He will simply find a reason to shower you with beautiful words or compliments.
10. He pays attention to you when you're together.
When a man thinks and misses you, he actually listens to what you say. He will try to make you feel as comfortable as possible and express yourself freely.
You may feel like you are the most interesting person in the world and everything you have to say is worth hearing. You are unlikely to hear reproaches from him or feel shame for what you said. Your words will be heard.