Together with your child, you have been preparing for September 1 for a long time, choosing a school backpack, notebooks and looking forward to the significant event. However, a whole quarter has already passed, and you notice with alarm that the child is still not particularly enthusiastic about school, does not want to attend classes, do homework, wear a uniform and communicate with classmates. How to help your baby adapt?
Time for business, time for fun
The first difficulty that both children and their parents face is the proper organization of the child’s time, who now has new responsibilities. And here, of course, there is no way to cope without the help of adults. Due to his age, the baby cannot understand how much time he needs to complete a particular task.
Therefore, you have to take the situation into your own hands and create a suitable daily routine for your child, which would take into account his individual characteristics, give him enough time to prepare for classes and, of course, leave room for games. After all, we must not forget that, although your child’s status is already a schoolchild, in fact he is not too different from the kid who just a few months ago was playing carefree on the playground.
The first stumbling block in this situation is getting up in the morning. Many children find it difficult to wake up early, especially when it is still completely dark outside. Therefore, parents, wanting to give the baby a little more time to sleep, wake him up 10-15 minutes later than planned. As a result, the preparations are carried out in a hurry.
You should not indulge a child who asks to sleep longer in the morning. It’s better to make sure that the first grader goes to bed on time: then getting up will be much easier for him. If you notice that in the morning it is difficult for a baby who goes to bed quite early to concentrate, try to wake him up early. Let the child get ready without unnecessary haste, so he will not lose sight of anything important.
You need to start the day with a smile and a gentle morning greeting that will put your son or daughter in a good mood for the whole day.
Psychologists say that the process of adaptation to school usually takes children from 2 months to six months. Therefore, they recommend accompanying and picking up the child from school during this time. At the same time, it is not at all necessary that the mother does this all the time: other family members can also offer their help. The child will appreciate the care of loved ones and will be happy to share school news with the new guide.
In the first grade, it is better not to send your child to an extended day group: he already has a lot of new impressions from school, so if possible, it is worth taking him home immediately after school. Then he will have enough time to have lunch, rest and play, and then start doing his homework.
If the weather permits, it is better to spend the afternoon outside: there the child can breathe fresh air, play with friends and take a break from school worries. Then you can start doing your homework. It is better to do this no later than 16.00: by this time the child will have had time to rest, but he will still have enough energy and time for homework. If you start classes later, the student’s productivity will be much lower.
It is better if the child completes his homework before six o'clock in the evening. In this case, there will be a lot of free time that you can spend with your family: talk, watch a movie, take a walk, cook dinner.
And don't forget about rest! First graders should sleep at least 9 hours. If a child wakes up at 7 am, then he should go to bed no later than 10 pm.
Make sure to stick to your usual daily routine on weekends as well.
Even if the child begins to develop a not very positive attitude towards school, he probably also has pleasant moments associated with it. Children usually rush to study if new friends are waiting for them in the classroom. Try to stimulate and maintain the friendships that have developed between your child and his classmates. Invite your son or daughter to invite friends over or go for a walk together after school. You can give your child a frisbee, ball or other sports equipment that is suitable for team play: this way the children can have a good workout after class and make even more friends.
Does your first grader not like math or spelling? Surely he is interested in lessons in natural history, drawing or singing. Develop this passion. Pay no less attention to preparing homework in your child’s favorite subjects than in the main disciplines. But manage your time so that you do your math or writing homework first. This stimulates the child to quickly cope with uninteresting tasks, and he will be more attentive and diligent. Well, then you can draw fairy-tale animals to your heart’s content or stick on a herbarium of bright autumn leaves that you collected over the weekend in the park.
However, you should not give up hope of “making friends” with your baby’s unloved objects. Often, hostility towards a certain discipline arises when a child fails at something. Let him know that this is a normal situation, and he is still doing great - emphasize his successes, praise him for correctly solved examples and beautifully written letters, unobtrusively “push” him to the right decisions, but under no circumstances do the tasks for the child. After all, at this stage it is necessary for the student to feel the strength to cope even with a task that is difficult for him, and your task is to create and maintain this confidence in him.
However, you should not put pressure on your child, forcing him to quickly tell all his news, so that there is more time for “adult” matters. It often takes time for children to decide to tell adults about their problems and joys.
It is important to wait until the baby himself wants to tell you about something, and only then carefully ask questions and console him. However, if you see that the child has been acting withdrawn for several days, is upset about something, but does not want to say anything, you should talk to the teacher: perhaps the problem turned out to be more serious than a momentary conflict with classmates, and it will require your help to solve it. participation.
What a paradox! The baby was so prepared for school and was looking forward to the first of September, and a month later he does not want to go to classes and agrees to do his homework only under the watchful supervision of his parents. What happened? Why doesn't the baby want to study? According to primary school teacher Valentina Davydovna Serpukhova, the parents themselves are primarily to blame for their children’s reluctance to learn. It is they, acting with the best intentions, who discourage the child’s thirst for knowledge.
The transition from preschooler to first-grader is a huge event in the life of a seven-year-old child and his parents. The first bell, the first teacher, the first homework, the first victories and the first failures... From the first day of school, studying becomes a responsibility, and the child needs time to adapt to the changes that have occurred. Further academic performance and the desire to learn are laid in the first year of school. And here a lot depends not only on the teacher, but also on the behavior of the parents.
The most common parental mistake is the desire to raise a child prodigy. Long before entering school, the child masters most of the first grade curriculum and is not interested in stopping there. The baby is ready to move forward, but the school curriculum does not allow it. Of course, parents can also be understood. They want their baby to be the very best and they try their best. But, if the child is truly a genius, then he will manifest himself even without your help. And for an ordinary child, studying too much is also harmful. Children get tired quickly. And the more you force him to sit behind books, the worse it will be. In this case, the child perceives studying as an unpleasant heavy duty and agrees to do homework only under pressure. Preparing a child for school should involve the development of cognitive processes - attention, memory, thinking and perception. Do not try at all costs, as early as possible, to teach your child writing, counting and reading. He will have to learn all this at school, and very quickly and easily. The main task of parents is to maintain interest in knowledge in general.
In addition, we should not forget that first-graders experience enormous psychological stress. A new life has begun for the child, and he is not able to instantly get used to the new role. Put yourself in his place: a new team, instead of a teacher - a teacher and new responsibilities. And parents, instead of helping, begin to place too high demands on first-graders and the child is physically unable to fulfill them. In addition, adults are afraid that the child will wander around the street idle, and they try to make the children's leisure time as busy as possible. They send the baby to several sections and demand the impossible from him. Not every adult is able to satisfy the demands of parental ambitions, not to mention a seven-year-old child.
The most common first class problems are:
- the child cannot concentrate and jumps from one thing to another;
- The child needs to be controlled. He is unable to cope with even the simplest task on his own;
- It’s hard for a baby to sit without moving for 45 minutes;
- the child does not like to study. He is much more interested in toys rather than books and copybooks
Many parents, trying to teach their child to be independent, do not help him do his homework, but only check the task that has already been completed. But not every child is able to do even a simple task on their own. It will take several months for the child to understand that homework is his responsibility and must be completed. Therefore, at first you should gently remind your child that it’s time to sit down with books and help him, at least with your presence.
An indispensable attribute of study are school supplies. All kinds of pencil cases, notebooks, pens, erasers, folders - the first grader perceives them as new toys. So don't skimp on these essential attributes. Allow your child to be involved in choosing school supplies to keep them interested in learning.
A first grader needs a solid daily routine. After school and lunch, give your child one to two hours of free time. Let him rest, switch off, play, get some fresh air. But don't put off your homework until late in the evening. After 17-18 hours, concentration and the ability to perceive new information sharply decreases. The optimal time for completing homework is 16-17 hours - the child has already rested after school and is not yet tired of playing. Just don’t force your child to quickly drop his toys and sit down to his homework, because the time has come. Wait until the child puts down one toy and has not yet picked up another. If you interrupt an enthusiastically playing child, a protest will arise and the need to do homework will quickly take on a negative connotation.
Always start with the most difficult thing while your attention is at its best. And what the child is familiar with (for example, drawing) he will be able to do even after the concentration curve begins to decline.
If a child fails at something, help him in the intermediate stages. Just don’t do the whole homework for him. Gently guide your child to the right decision, but he must give the final answer himself. In conclusion, be sure to praise the child, “You see how great you are. I only helped you a little, and you solved this difficult example yourself.” Then the child will have a positive attitude: “I can do everything myself.”
Praise your child more often for any victory and do not focus on failures. If your child finds it easy to count and has trouble spelling, then tell him how great he is at counting, and if he tries, be sure to learn how to write just as well. You have the power to instill in your child the will to win. Do not call your child funny nicknames if he does something badly (for example, “crooked chicken”), to avoid your ridicule, the child will stop writing altogether or come to terms with his nickname and will not want to learn to write beautifully.
If your child regularly spends 30-40 minutes more than recommended on homework, offer him help (underline letters/numbers with a colored pencil, sculpt them out of plasticine or draw them in sand, explain in other words). If the situation does not improve, it makes sense to talk to specialists (school psychologist, pediatrician). For some children, the process of developing fine motor skills, which is necessary for learning, ends only by the age of 8. It is recommended not to drag such a child forward, but rather to leave him in a preparatory class for another year. It is better to lose one school year than to lose the desire to learn.
Don't forget that a lot depends on genes. If you did not perform well in school and had difficulty obtaining a certificate, then do not demand the impossible from your child. It’s better that you grow up to be a solid C-student, and not a tortured, excellent student. Knowledge that is forcibly drilled into a child is worthless.
How we absorb information
Learning is a process in which various senses interact: hearing, vision, touch, sometimes even smell and taste. Here is their most common distribution.
Hands- 90% of what a child does himself, at least once, he learns. Therefore, try to ensure that the baby not only listens, but also tries to repeat the example on his own, even if it seems to him that nothing is clear. Let him try, and you will help if necessary. Just don’t take the initiative into your own hands at the first mistake.
Mouth- 70% of what we talk about is stored in memory. Let your child repeat after you out loud rather than listen silently. Discuss your actions. Lead your child to the right thought with leading questions, but try to let him pronounce the final correct answer himself.
Ears- only 20% of what a child hears is remembered. Therefore, your explanations alone will not be enough.
Eyes- 30% of what the baby sees is absorbed. Draw him visual pictures that explain the material. Only the drawings should not be boring, but cheerful and original, then the child will form associations and he will easily understand the material.
What type is your child?
But in every person one of these channels predominates to one degree or another. There are three main types of children based on the way they learn information. School psychologist Lunina Rimma says:
Kinastic type. People of this type learn primarily through direct participation and active actions. The child needs to constantly move, and when talking he cannot do without gesturing. He will absorb information well if the learning process is combined with any activity. Let him emphasize, change colors, lay out pencils or counting sticks, the main thing is that his activity does not distract others. Kinaestheticians require a calm environment and the opportunity to move. Ask the teacher to allow the child to take short breaks during the lesson (let the child erase from the board, go wet a rag, or help distribute notebooks to everyone). Also, you should not train a kinesthetic specialist to be perseverant while doing homework. If such a child is forced to sit back and listen to the teacher (or mother), he will not remember anything at all and will lose interest in learning. He sits quietly for as long as he can. With age, the child will mature and learn to follow established standards of behavior.
Visual type. Its main channel of perception is vision. He enjoys looking at books and loves watching TV. While explaining new material or thinking about something, the baby constantly draws abstract pictures in notebooks. Don't forbid him, it makes it easier for him to concentrate. Children of the visual type learn through writing, he needs to write everything down on his own in order to remember. Such a child will best perceive the material in the form of tables, drawings and with the help of figurative associations. Children of this type, more than others, need their own desk and order around them so as not to be distracted. Computer programs or educational video cassettes will be a good assistant in your studies.
Auditory type. Assimilates information through listening. Children of this type have an extensive vocabulary, as well as a good memory for names and facts. However, noise, harsh voices and even whispers make it difficult for them to concentrate. Therefore, take care to create a calm environment while doing homework. On the contrary, some kids need a background - a muted, calm one. Let the child speak the educational material out loud several times; you can use a mini-player or tape recorder.
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11/10/2008 20:54:52, MariaIt would seem how many books, articles, newspapers, magazines have been studied on this issue, but how much new can be learned by reading just one article. From my own experience (my daughter is already a second grader), I can say that the author gives very correct, competent advice and recommendations.
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How to do homework with a first grader?
Let's start with the fact that by order of the Ministry of Education and Science of the Russian Federation, it is prohibited to assign homework in the first grade, and it is also prohibited to assign grades in the first half of the first grade. “Nowadays, first grade at school is like an institute,” Pugacheva sang 20 years ago. But teachers and parents have no doubt that the feasible repetition of new material will only consolidate, systematize and generalize the knowledge that the first-grader received in the lesson. And 10 minutes of penmanship should become a pleasant habit.
Parents buy dozens of all kinds of solution books and other textbooks with dictations; They “put” an additional “load” on the first-grader, and then they don’t forget to be on time for the section, the “music” class, and the “art” class. Moms and dads, after this you are still asking yourself the question: “Why doesn’t a first-grader want to do his homework?”
The main task of the parents of a first-grader is not to dictate what to do, but to create a favorable psychological atmosphere for the painless entry of the first-grader into serious school life.
After school, the child should spend some time relaxing; for calm melancholics, relaxation is lying on the couch with a favorite magazine, and for smart and active first-graders, relaxation is a walk on the street, jumping rope or on a trampoline, playing catch, and dancing.
Many schools teach according to methods developed by teachers working in this school, where homework is prescribed as recommended. Fulfilling these requirements is not necessary, although it is desirable. So, how to teach lessons to a first grader if homework is included in the school curriculum?
1. Talk about completing a particular task several times. Only after the child independently explains what exactly is being asked in the exercise and how to complete this task, you can start taking notes.
2. Do the most difficult thing for the child first. Some people think about problems for a long time, while others spend all their energy reading. Even before school starts, you can understand what is most difficult for your child.
3. After 10-15 minutes of lessons or completing a difficult task, you can have a small snack - eat an apple, milk with cookies, tea with lemon, etc. This change of activity will open a “second wind” before the next task.
4. Phrase: “Mmm, how interesting, but I don’t even remember that we taught this at school. Can you explain it to me?” works wonders. Children love to play smart in front of their parents, and the child will hear at least a couple of phrases from the new material in any case. After listening to the “new topic” through the lips of your child, you will draw a conclusion about how the material has been learned and what needs to be worked on in more detail. It's time for parents to become "why guys." Conduct dialogues, guiding them with questions: “why are the nights so short in summer, why does it snow in winter, why is a car driving, why is a sandwich falling face down...”
5. It’s a rare parent who humbly sits next to a first-grader and calmly chews it for the hundredth time and, as they say, puts it in his mouth. When a first-grader doesn’t want to do his homework, even the most humble parent’s reserve of patience runs out sooner or later. And if you couldn’t restrain yourself and shouted, tell your child what you did: “I just screamed because I was angry. I’m sorry, now we’ll calm down together and do everything.” Then, after some time, do not forget to remind him that even at the time of your quarrels, you still love him, and you scold him only because you want to do better.
The main thing is to praise more than scold. There should be much more praise. Let him write “like a chicken with its paw,” but this particular “t” was very successful for him - praise him for the beautiful “t.” Don’t chew the tip of your pencil for a minute—praise them for their patience. In this way, you focus his attention on the fact that he is already doing a lot and this will evoke positive emotions and inspire him to do even better things.
6. Do not promise anything for completed lessons. If a child does not want to study, instill in him that studying in primary school is the foundation of all his studies; if the foundation is weak and leaking, then a building cannot be built on it.
How to help a first grader study well?
There are many tips on the World Wide Web on how to get a first-grader to do his homework, but a loving parent should not force, but should explain and help.
- Talk to the class teacher, the teacher will explain better than anyone else how to do homework with a first-grader that the teacher himself asks.
— The demands of primary school teachers to keep reading diaries are quite appropriate. Let the child read one page a day. Reads and retells. In order to, you need to choose those books that are interesting to the child, read with him by role. Let the child read the dialogues of different characters in different voices. Read everywhere - price tags in the store, advertising banners, the composition of your favorite yogurt. If a child pronounces a letter poorly, look for words with that letter while walking.
- Keep a diary. Let the student write down 1-3 good memories per day. Try to model good memories as often as possible.
— The teacher will play, and parents should play with the student at home. Make up stories to make it easier to memorize rules or retell text. If you have the opportunity to explain using fingers, sticks, apples, candies, use it. Try to organize simple life in the form of a problem: “I’ll boil 2 eggs for you for breakfast, and 1 more for dad – how many eggs will dad eat for breakfast? We have 6 sweets, how can we divide them equally among three? It’s 6 p.m. now, we go to bed at 9 p.m.—how many hours do we have for games?” Try to play more, because just yesterday the preschooler did nothing but play carefree all day. Help the teacher teach, because a new topic presented in an interesting way will be learned much faster during the playful presentation of the material.
It is no secret that for many parents the question of how to get their child to do his homework is particularly pressing. And this is not an idle question. After all, often preparing homework becomes a big challenge for the whole family.
Remember how many tears and worries it took to learn what century Yuri Dolgoruky was born in or how to calculate an integral equation! How many children hatefully remember their school years, the teachers who tormented them with exorbitant homework, the parents who forced them to do this work under pressure! Let's not repeat these mistakes. But how can you teach your children to learn? Let's try, with the help of psychologists, to give some answers to these difficult questions.
Why does the child refuse to work?
The first question that parents must answer for themselves is why does not the child want to study at home? There are a great many answers to it.
A child may simply be afraid of making a mistake when doing homework, he may simply be lazy, be afraid of the parents themselves, he may simply lack motivation for homework. Also, the child may simply be tired because he has a very heavy academic load, because, in addition to regular school, he attends a music institution, an art club and a chess section. It’s like A. Barto’s, “Drama circle, photo circle...”. Here, indeed, there are a lot of things for a child to do, so he has to unconsciously give up something. So he refuses to do his homework.
However, schoolchildren have plenty of other reasons for refusing to complete their homework. But parents must go through all the options in their minds and find the only correct answer that suits the character of their child. Moreover, it should be remembered that homework in a modern school is a very difficult task; often, to complete it, the efforts of literally all family members are needed. After all, programs are becoming more and more complicated, even in the first grade today a child should already read about 60 words per minute. It's in the third quarter! But before, our mothers and fathers, being first-graders themselves, only learned to add letters.
Well, if parents have identified the reasons why the child refuses to do homework, then they need to accustom themselves to patience and understand that a difficult mission awaits them as home tutors.
Let's talk about motivation
The key to success in this case is the positive motivation of the child to do homework. It takes a lot of effort to build this motivation. First of all, these efforts are based on positive school experiences. If things are not going well for your child at school, then he will perceive homework as a continuation of school torture.
Therefore, positive motivation is developed, first of all, within the walls of school, and only then at home. Here we can talk about the need for close interaction between school and family.
Well, what should those parents do who understand that they cannot find an answer to the question of how to force their child to do homework without scandals, due to the fact that the child simply does not like the school that he is forced to go to every day? Such parents can be advised to resolve this issue fundamentally, even to the extent of changing schools or finding another teacher.
In general, fathers and mothers need to be very sensitive in matters of schooling. It also happens that in the class a child gets the unenviable role of a “stuffed animal”, a “whipping boy”, relationships with classmates do not work out, and those around you offend your child. Naturally, he doesn’t want to study at all. After all, how can you go to school if you are not loved and offended there? What kind of proper homework is that...
Does age play a role?
Much in this matter is decided by the age at which the child himself is. It happens, for example, that a child does not want to do his homework; the 1st grade in which he is currently studying simply has not yet formed the correct positive motivation. In this case, it is much easier to interest such a first-grader than an older student.
In general, parents of first-graders need to remember that their children are going through an adaptation process in the first quarter. Therefore, the problem of how to force a child to do his homework without scandals is not yet so significant. There will be scandals in this case. But there is a chance that they will stop when your son or daughter goes through the difficult process of adaptation to first grade.
Also, parents of first-graders need to remember that 1st grade is the “golden time” on which all future successes or failures of their child depend. After all, this is the period when your son or daughter understands what school is, why they need to study, what they want to achieve in their class. The personality of the first teacher is also very important in this matter. It is a wise and kind teacher who can become for your child that guide to the world of knowledge, the person who will show the way to life. Therefore, the personality of such a teacher is very important for children! If a first-grader is afraid of his teacher and does not trust him, then this will certainly have a very bad effect on his studies and desire to complete his homework.
How to get a high school child to do his homework?
But this is a more complex question. After all, parents can still put pressure on the baby, they can force him, ultimately using their authority, but what about the offspring who is in adolescence? After all, nothing can force such a child to study. Yes, it is much more difficult to cope with a teenager. This requires patience, tact, and the ability to understand. Parents need to think about the question of how to do homework with their child without yelling, because perhaps they themselves often simply provoke conflict, unable to stand it and blaming their grown-up son or daughter for all the sins. And teenagers react very sharply to criticism, it is difficult for them to cope with it, and in the end they simply refuse to do the work that is assigned at home at school.
The transitional age in which schoolchildren are from 12 to 14-15 years old can seriously affect the student’s academic performance. At this moment, children experience serious physical and psychological stress; they are often experiencing their first crush and strive to impress their peers. What kind of study is there? And parents at this age become peculiar opponents for their children, because the teenager strives to break away from his family and gain the right to manage his own life. Overly authoritarian parents in this case begin to put a lot of pressure on their children to call them to obedience. But they do not always achieve this obedience, and it happens that the child begins to protest. And often refusal to do homework is a consequence of this protest.
Develop responsibility in children
A good help for all parents who want to improve their relationship with their child, and at the same time make sure that their son or daughter studies well, is to find the answer to the question of how to teach a child to do homework on his own? After all, if you teach your child from the very first years at school that he himself must be responsible for his actions, then perhaps this responsibility will accompany him throughout the remaining school years. In general, it is very important to teach children to understand that in life everything depends on their actions, on their desires and aspirations.
Think about why your child is studying, what did you instill in him? Have you told him that he is studying for the career that awaits him in the vague future? Have you explained to him that the process of learning is a kind of work, difficult work, the result of which will be knowledge about the world of people that cannot be bought with money? Think about what you talk to your child about, what do you teach him?
Therefore, before analyzing the problem of what to do with him if a child does not learn his lessons, try to understand yourself. And don’t forget about the example you set for your children. After all, your attitude towards work and housework will also become a kind of incentive for your children to study. Therefore, demonstrate with all your appearance that studying has always been an activity that interests you, continue to study with your children, even if you are already 40 years old!
Use methodological techniques!
Of course, it is worth remembering modern methodological techniques. There are a great many such techniques. Most of them, however, are aimed at helping children of primary school age. These are various games that are played before and after homework, stimulating children’s cognitive activity, retellings, etc. An old methodological technique is to create a daily routine for a child. Even your first-grader child should know how much time he has for school, extracurricular activities, games and, of course, homework. After all, you, being preoccupied with the problem of how to get your child to do his homework, should help in every possible way with this.
Don't do your homework instead of your son or daughter!
Very often parents make another pedagogical mistake. From a very early age, they teach their child to do homework with him instead of him. The child quickly understands that his task is simply to do - rewrite what his mother or father has already prepared for him. Don't make this mistake! In this way, you teach your child that without difficulty, at the expense of others, you can achieve a lot in life. And it turns out, as in Dragunsky’s story “Vasya’s dad is strong...”. Don't be such dads and moms. Remember, you must know the answer to the question of how to teach your child to do his homework on his own. This is your parental duty!
Another common mistake is the excessive ambition of parents who want to make young geniuses out of their children at all costs. Moreover, such parents often simply “break” the psyche of their children themselves, simply forgetting that they should be concerned with the problem of how to teach a child to do his homework, and not about how to raise young talent in all subjects.
Very often, homework in such families turns into torture for children. Mom or dad forces their son or daughter to rewrite the same task several times, trying to achieve perfect completion, parents find fault with little things, they are stingy with praise. So what can the children do in this case? Of course, after some time, the children refuse to work, fall into hysterics, showing with all their appearance that they simply cannot become young geniuses, as their parents want them to do. But this is still in the easiest case. But it happens that parents instill in their children an “excellent or excellent student complex,” setting tasks that their children simply cannot complete.
For example, an ambitious mother, who raised her son alone all her life, dreams of him becoming a great violinist and performing in concerts all over the world. Her son is indeed successfully studying at a music school, but he could not rise above the level of a music school, let’s say: he simply did not have enough talent and patience. What should a mother do, who in her imagination has already elevated her son to the rank of great musicians of our time? She doesn’t need an ordinary loser son... And how can one blame this young man for the fact that nature did not make him a genius?
Or another example. Parents dream of their daughter defending her doctorate thesis. Moreover, the scientific direction within which this should be done is not even entirely important to them. This family dream is instilled in the girl from a young age, she is required to achieve miraculous results in her scientific career, but the girl has only above average intellectual abilities, and as a result, her pursuit of an academic degree ends in a mental hospital.
Agree that these examples are sad, but they are the very flesh of our real life. Often, very often, parents do this to their children.
What if the subject is simply not given?
It also happens that a subject is simply not given to a child. Well, your son or daughter has no talent for physics or chemistry, for example. What to do in this case? How can you force a child to do his homework if he doesn’t understand anything, if he simply doesn’t understand how to solve this or that task? Here parental patience alone is no longer enough. You need restraint, tact and another person who can explain a difficult task to the child. In this case, it would be wisest for parents to hire a tutor for their son or daughter so that he can help resolve this issue in a positive way.
Is it possible to do homework for money or gifts?
Recently, parents have begun to use a simple method of manipulation, which is simply called bribery. Its essence lies in the fact that a father or mother, without thinking about an objective solution to the question of how to properly do homework with a child, simply seek to bribe their child with various promises. These can be either sums of money or just gifts: a cell phone, a bicycle, entertainment. However, it is worth warning all parents against this method of influencing children. This is ineffective because the child will begin to demand more and more over and over again. There is a lot of homework every day, and now your child is no longer satisfied with just a smartphone, he needs an iPhone, and he has the right to it, after all, he studies, he will fulfill all school requirements, etc. And then, imagine how harmful the habit of demanding some kind of handout from parents for their daily work, which is the responsibility of the child.
What should parents do? Psychologist's opinion
Experienced psychology experts advise parents to help their child do his homework. You need to help with intelligence and a loving heart. In general, a sense of proportion is ideal here. In this case, the parent must be strict, and demanding, and kind, and fair. He must have patience, remember tact, respect his child’s personality, not strive to make a genius out of his son or daughter, and understand that each person has his own character, inclinations and abilities.
It is very important to show your child that he is always dear to his parents. You can tell your son or daughter that his father or mother is proud of him, proud of his educational successes and believes that he can overcome all his educational difficulties on his own. And if there is a problem in the family - the child does not do his homework, the advice of a psychologist will come in handy in resolving it.
Finally, all parents should remember that children always need our support. Studying for a child is a real job with its problems, ups, successes and downs. Children change greatly during their schooling, they acquire new character traits, learn not only to understand the world, but also to learn. And of course, on this path, children should be helped by both teachers and their closest and most faithful comrades - parents!