When a guy embarks on the path of self-development and improving his personal life, he wants to immediately learn all the secrets of seducing girls. The desire to learn all possible tricks is what distinguishes a beginner from a more experienced seducer.
And that's okay!
But you must admit, it will be much more effective if you do the right things at the very beginning and quickly achieve results, rather than try to take on all the possible tricks, get burned and partially lose interest in your development.
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Skill Synergy
Seduction is not a simple thing. It doesn't consist of just one skill. It requires a combination of your skills, which is called synergy.
And if one skill allows you to get a mediocre result, then in combination with another skill its strength increases exponentially.
What skills should you have so that their synergy allows you to get beauties into your bed at any time and from anywhere?
Skill #1. The ability to act correctly at each individual stage of seduction.
Typically, seducers only develop skills that they enjoy developing. This is not entirely the right approach, since development cannot proceed quickly and efficiently enough. It's like driving a race car with one flat tire.
You need to act correctly at all stages, from dating to building a relationship after sex.
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Skill #2. Understanding human psychology in general.
The ability to see cause and effect in the actions of other people is the key to successful interaction with them.
When you know what a person will do in a given situation, it is easier for you to influence him.
Please note, this is not about studying psychology and the works of great psychologists. I under no circumstances advise you to delve into all this. It is better to independently analyze how and why people act in a certain way, build your theories and find their confirmation in practice. This will give a better effect in terms of understanding people than simply reading psychological literature.
Habit #3. Understanding FEMALE psychology.
Of course, women are people too.
But quite often their behavior will contradict the basic laws of psychology. And without understanding the principles by which they choose their men, your behavior will be similar to the behavior of a blind kitten acting at random.
Besides, you will never immediately receive a direct answer to your questions. And women's behavior will not correspond to what they say.
However, this problem can be solved with the following skill.
Habit #4. The ability to calibrate a girl’s thoughts and reactions.
In simple terms, the ability to understand when a woman says “no” but thinks “yes”.
The truth in seduction is rarely just “no” or “yes”, and the ability to interpret her reaction and behavior comes only with experience.
When you develop all four skills, you will begin to develop at the speed of light. True, one should not forget that →
Success starts from within
But simply a certain set of actions solves practically nothing.
If you think the same way as usual, then no matter what tricks you use, sooner or later your real nature will manifest itself in behavior.
Therefore, along with skills, you must develop the right internal state, which will allow you to seduce effectively and quickly.
What exactly needs to be developed:
- Lack of fears and ineffective beliefs
Fears rob you of everything. You don't approach this girl because you're afraid. You think a date is a great value because you haven't had many dates. Because I never overcame my fear of dating. You think that you won’t be able to live without this girl because you didn’t have enough of them. Because you are afraid to meet people, go on dates and seduce others.
If you want to become a truly successful seducer (not an information hoarder or a theoretical wanker), then do everything you can to eliminate all the fears and beliefs that lead you to believe that you cannot.
Without fear it is much easier to meet and seduce, and experience is gained tens of times faster!
- Perseverance
Perseverance more than once saved seduction even when it seemed like it was “the end.”
- Sense of humor and lightness
A light attitude towards everything that happens is a sign of confidence and relaxation.
When you perceive seduction as a game, then everything happens by itself. The girl partially stops her “checks”, and her seduction goes easier and faster.
She said she couldn't meet you tomorrow? Don’t end the conversation, but continue it as easily and interestingly as before you asked to meet. Make yourself laugh and don’t tense up – remember these two commandments.
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Every young man, at least once in his life, asks the question - how to seduce the girl he likes? There is no specific algorithm for how to do this, but any young person should have a well-thought-out plan and a clear understanding of what exactly he wants to get in the end.
Despite the existing plan, you need to focus first on the process of seduction itself, and not on the final result. Girls really like it when a man pursues her. Seduction is such an adult game that both should enjoy. At some point, the girl gets drawn into it, and the game becomes mutual and more interesting. To successfully seduce, you need to allow the girl to take part in this game.
1. Girls love with their ears. So it doesn’t hurt to say more nice compliments. You can use a little trick, tell her your secret, even a made-up story is allowed. If you can talk about your problem and ask her for advice, this will only add advantages. Girls like to feel important, and small secrets bring them closer together;
2. Perseverance and charm. Girls are very attracted to confident men, those who know exactly what they want. Charm is a powerful weapon in the hands of an experienced seducer. No girl can resist the pressure of a charming and self-confident man;
3. Interest. The girl needs to be made to feel like an interesting conversationalist and an intelligent person, and not just a beautiful sexual object. Interest in her stories will help the girl relax and trust her interlocutor;
4. Sexy look. Influencing a girl’s subconscious with the help of a little trick will show her desire. To do this, you need to look into the distance, and then into her eyes - the pupils will begin to change their size and the girl will not leave it unnoticed;
5. Romantic date at home. Dinner prepared with your own hands, candles, quiet pleasant music - this is the last step towards achieving your goal. After all, if a girl agreed to a date at a young man’s house, then, 88% of the time, the plan was a success;
6. Tender touches. While the girl is intoxicated by a romantic dinner and is impressed by what is happening, you can move on to the next step. This step could be an offer to get a massage. As an option, fortune telling by hand is suitable. Girls really love men who are prone to palmistry and mysticism, it’s fascinating. In addition, this makes it possible to move on to gentle touches.
However, despite the determination and perseverance of a man, sometimes things end in failure. This is a very unpleasant moment, but there is no one to blame for it. You need to try not to make mistakes:
– You shouldn’t fall in love with a girl right away. Too much pressure and talk about the distant future will scare the girl away;
– girls are very sensitive and immediately see a man who is insecure, disappointed and agrees to the first girl he comes across, as long as she is with him;
– excessive deception does not help in seducing a girl; any deception will sooner or later be revealed;
– fear of refusal. Sometimes he can even interfere with meeting a girl. However, it is worth understanding that girls are ordinary people and there is nothing scary in talking with them. And even if one refuses, there are still millions of other girls left.
A man who exudes confidence and charm is sure to be successful!
Surely every man has thought about why some guys are able to easily captivate a woman, while others have to go through a long stage with expensive gifts. Check out seduction tips that may help you.
1. Praise not only her appearance, but also her sincerity, gentleness, caring, and ability to understand a man. Be amazed at her ingenuity, enterprise, economic talents, optimism and will. If she is an excellent cook, start discussing her favorite dishes and hint that you highly value the girl’s ability to cook delicious borscht, pilaf, shish kebab, exotic salad or stuffed fish.
2. Girls love it when men tell them about their little problems. Confidential conversations extremely excite a woman. Tell her about your last relationship, tell her how your ex abused you, how she cheated on you, and what a scoundrel and bitch she was. Well, it wouldn’t be out of place to mention that you went through the breakup very hard. Even if nothing like this happened, it’s worth making up a similar story. This will arouse sympathy in the lady, which will later turn into pity, and then it’s not far from bed. A sympathetic lady is ready to do anything to alleviate the suffering of a representative of the stronger sex. It is no coincidence that in ancient times the word “to love” in Russian had the same meaning as “to regret.”
3. Learn to listen to a girl. Unobtrusively shift the conversation to her own problems. Hint that you are willing to take part in their solution. React sensitively to her words and show interest. Seeing such a reaction, the girl herself will endow you with virtues. Moreover, it is not necessary to make fiery speeches. You can do without words. It is enough to listen carefully, nod, assent, empathize - and success is guaranteed.
4. When contacting a girl, eyes, gestures, voice and posture play an important role. Men with dull eyes, limp hands, hesitant speech and slumped shoulders give the impression of losers. And for most women, such things only cause rejection and rejection. A lively, inviting look, active gestures, a confident, well-placed voice, straightened shoulders - on the contrary, awaken only sympathy in the ladies.
5. Take full advantage of your figure. According to surveys, the first thing women pay attention to when assessing a man's body is the buttocks. If you have them fit and beautiful, then emphasize this with tight trousers or jeans. If you have thick chest hair, wear an open-necked shirt or T-shirt. Long musical fingers can also be used. To make them look more advantageous, you need to practice smooth movements in front of the mirror.
6. Emphasize your sexuality in every possible way: with words, gestures, poses, posture, voice and elements of clothing. For example, a belt with a large plaque will definitely attract a lady’s eye and make her want to fantasize about how she loosens it and lowers her trousers. You can hint to her that in the bed of love you are a real guru. It doesn't matter if you don't live up to women's expectations. The main thing is that the lady has already agreed to intimacy with you, which means the goal has been achieved.
Every man and even a young guy wants to feel like a skilled seducer, capable of creating a short romance or a long-term relationship at his own request. Unfortunately, sometimes this desire develops into the need to give advice to everyone around you.
Why "Unfortunately"? Yes, because the lack of extensive (and most importantly, positive) experience cannot guarantee the effectiveness of these very tips. And most often such conversations are related to what exactly a guy needs to have to succeed with the opposite sex.
Is the devil as scary as he is painted?
Let's try right now to make a list of all the possible myths associated with success in your personal life.
Which myth should we put first? It will probably be...
Myth 1– “In order to seduce a girl, you need to have a car.”
Perhaps you yourself have long realized that this is a myth. Or maybe he's genuinely surprised.
“I myself have seen how guys who have cars often date girls,” some readers will note. And they will be half right.
But let's try to figure out why only half. The fact is that most often the “target audience” of such guys are bored girls who would initially be glad that someone approached them. Those. even a guy without a car could meet her and take her with him. And the car is just a small nice bonus that gives the guys confidence. This confidence makes them more likely to approach girls who wouldn’t mind anyway.
This is such a self-sustaining myth :)
Myth 2nd– “First you need to earn money for an apartment, a car, and find a foundation”
This myth is somewhat similar to the previous one, but still has little in common with it. It appeared because of our lack of confidence in our own readiness. And even after achieving these goals, most men still have the feeling that they are “still not ready” and “some other time.”
It’s just not clear what exactly we should prepare for!
If you are planning to start a family, then such a belief has a place to be. But in order to build normal, high-quality relationships, and, even more so, for a short romance, it is not at all necessary to acquire these “attributes.”
Myth 3rd- “I don’t know how to sing ballads. I'm a simple guy"
If you are just new to the topic of seduction, then you probably still remember the period when you thought that seduction meant giving flowers and singing songs. And that you need to look at girls in a special way, always act like a macho or be romantic, and so on.
A very strange opinion, which has not yet found a logical basis.
Myth 4th– “You need to be pumped up and look expensive”
It's a little closer to reality, but it's still a myth just because some guys make a big deal out of it. And they believe that without these “components” there is no point in even trying to meet a girl.
Although the secrets of success in seduction are completely different. What exactly?
Success factors, or how to seduce a girl
Many years of experience as seducers (including foreign ones) suggests that for success with girls, the following come to the fore:
- Non-verbal
- Confidence
- Self-esteem (in general, this is a component of confidence, but still, sometimes even men with high self-esteem can be unsure of themselves in some moments of communication with the opposite sex)
- The “correct” internal mood: the absence of internal restrictions (fears) and a mood suitable for seduction.
- Effective Beliefs and the Inner Game
- Knowing what and how to say.
- Knowing what needs to be done and at what point in time.
All this comes with experience. However, I propose to speed up this process by more than 100 times (a rather bold figure, I agree; but objectively, this is really true!). Having completed basic seduction training, you will understand that the skills and knowledge acquired during this time are the bare minimum. This minimum allows you to seduce girls almost without spending energy and money.
Therefore, we invite you to familiarize yourself right now with
Why do you need to seduce women? Why are so many men looking for an answer to this question? It seems like obvious things, you have seduced other women more than once, but you don’t know what to do with this one. But the fact is that you have feelings, so your mind does not listen, you are afraid of doing something wrong, of losing such a wonderful girl. The answer in this situation is simple. Enjoy the feeling that you experience, anticipation, questions, suspicions, all your experiences speak of what you feel, which means you are capable of feelings.
The art of seducing women
So how to seduce a woman? Some recommendations, of course, can be gleaned from different sources, depending on why you want to seduce a woman. If you want to create a strong, happy family, then it is wise to seek advice from married friends or parents. If you want to seduce a girl, roughly speaking, for the night, then you can turn to a pickup coach.
Pickup
What is a pickup truck? Why are there so many announcements and discussions on this topic on the Internet?
Pickup is learning to pick up girls. If you decide to take such a seminar, first get to know the teacher. Is this person successful? Is there anything to learn from him? Or is this a harsh theorist?
And the second question. When you get what you want, will you be happy? After all, having learned the art of picking up girls, you deprive them of the right to choose. She will be with you because you have hypnotized her, stroked her in the right spot and programmed her to get closer to you. Will this affect the quality?
Let's simulate the situation. You went to pickup training or learned on the Internet to pick up girls for the night and the more the better, because now you’re having trouble with this. You have become the best student, surpassed the teacher, and any girl will fall for your tricks. You no longer have problems with whom to brighten up the night, the girls are guarding you at the house so that you pay attention to them. Sounds like a dream? But think about what kind of girls these will be? A spiritually developed, well-read girl with normal self-esteem, from a good family, well-mannered, has immunity from pikapu. And this is not even because she reads tips on how to recognize a pick-up artist, but because all these techniques do not work with her. These psychological problems are designed for girls, frankly speaking, with problems, either high self-esteem or low self-esteem. The point is that you, as a pickup artist, find a flaw in a girl and take advantage of it. It could be her complexes, to be honest, even the sexiest beauties have complexes. The end result is that you weed out sincere, kind girls from yourself with your pick-up techniques, leaving around you those who have something wrong, and then disappointment begins in the entire female society.
I can explain in more detail. For example, there is a girl Masha, she is from a good family, smart and confident. Then the guy Pasha comes up to her on the street and asks her a super-unexpected question, after which Masha must answer option A or B, as he was taught at the training, if she answers option A, then he says answer C or answer D, after which he is already giving her anchors and more to come. But since Masha is a sincere person, she will simply smile so that the pick-up artist himself has no answers left, or she will say option E, for which he is not ready, and he does not have a prepared answer memorized in advance. That's it, Masha is gone. Then he goes and meets a girl Sasha, who has high self-esteem, for example, she considers herself a queen, and men exist to fulfill her whims. Pasha asks his question again, and receives the answer A, because the training examines exactly the kind of answers that dictate a girl’s complexes, distrust of guys, or simply bad character. All Pasha met Sasha. Are you happy with this option?
Self confidence
A woman should feel in you a reliable person who is strong and will not abandon you in difficult times. Self-confidence is manifested in relation to other people, for example, a self-confident man presents himself proudly, with charm, and is sometimes rude. There are many online psychology tests where you can identify your self-esteem, and there are also recommendations for increasing self-esteem. Love yourself and women will love you. If you think that you don't have as much muscle as Schwarzenneger, then everyone else will think the same. And if you position yourself as a lean, interesting, romantic guy, then that’s what you will be. If self-esteem is low, then women will not pay attention to such a man. Women need the strongest, the most confident, the best. How can she believe in you if you underestimate yourself?
Sense of humor
It's always nice when a person is cheerful and positive. Ease of communication, humor, a smile - this is how a girl will remember you, and when she remembers your witty jokes, she will smile.
Attention
Appearance
Mental qualities are of course wonderful, but appearance is also important for women. It is unpleasant to be with even the most intelligent, cheerful and wonderful person if he does not follow basic hygiene rules and does not look well-groomed.
Be yourself
Don't be afraid to be individual, even if you want to make a lasting impression, and wear the mask of a person you are not, but can you wear this mask for the rest of your life? Do you want a girl who doesn't appreciate your sincerity and true character traits? Of course, you can learn pick-up tricks, and few girls can resist this science, but what will you do later, when all the tricks have been used, all the traps have been set and you want simple human warmth?