Relationships between a man and a woman who have a significant age difference have always aroused increased interest in society. However, the reaction to them directly depends on which of the couple is older. If a woman is much younger than her partner, then some curiosity about their relationship has a rather benevolent connotation. On the contrary, couples where the woman is more than a couple of years older than her beloved cause a lot of disapproving gossip and caustic comments. Despite this, the number of such couples in our country is increasing.
Male gaze
Contrary to the widespread stereotype in society about the “40-year-old tiger-temptress,” the initiator of a relationship with an older partner is usually a man. The results of various studies give figures from 85 to 93%. Often a young man has to court the woman he likes for months, and sometimes even years, before she agrees to such an “unequal” union. So what is there in women of “Balzac’s” age that a man cannot find in his young peers? It is better to learn about this from them themselves.
Evgeniy, 26 years old:
It’s always interesting for me to communicate with Tanya. There are many topics that can be discussed besides common hobbies. Somewhere to even ask for advice. She listens carefully and gives reasons for her opinion. And even if we disagree with each other on something, we can find a compromise. It’s much more difficult for me to communicate with girls my age and find some common ground. And their reactions are not always clear, and they do not want to explain anything.
Sergey, 24 years old:
The sex is just crazy. Sveta is more relaxed, she is not ashamed of her desires, and her head does not hurt 7 days a week. I have never had such intimacy with young girls. At the same time, she looks better than some 20-year-olds. She also provides for herself and does not require expensive gifts. I’m not a gigolo, I buy concert tickets, pay for both in a cafe, give gifts, but it’s always my choice. Sveta doesn’t expect this from me and is happy with any gift, regardless of the price. My peers took everything for granted, as if I owed them. And if the gift was below a certain amount, then a scandal was created.
Vladimir, 42 years old:
From the very beginning it was calm with Lena. No hysterics out of the blue. If she doesn’t like something, she’ll say it directly, without stupid games of “Guess why I’m silent.” Attentive, caring. Heaven and earth in comparison with my first wife, who was 5 years younger than me. All she needed was money and gifts, and in return, whims, reproaches and “silence” for weeks. Lena and I are not married, but we have been together for 16 years and all this time I have not even thought about other women. The parents, however, could not come to terms with it for a long time. At any opportunity, they advised me to find someone of the same age. Thank God, the last few years have finally calmed down.
So, men are attracted to older partners for several reasons:
- They know what to talk about with a man. In addition, adult women know how to listen and support a loved one.
- Many studies have shown that women's sexuality peaks between the ages of 30 and 40, while men's sexuality peaks much earlier. An experienced woman not only knows how to please a man, but also really wants it. So, sexually, a young man is much more suitable for an older woman than someone of the same age.
- An adult woman has already established herself financially and does not choose a man based on this criterion. It is important for any man to know that he is not an additional wallet for his beloved, but a truly close person.
- For some, a big plus is that an older woman has usually already been married, has children and, accordingly, does not strive to “drag” her partner into the registry office as soon as possible.
Female look
Oddly enough, it is women who most condemn the relationships of adult ladies with young men. The main reason for this reaction is primarily fear and misunderstanding. How can you date a young man, because he is not serious, he will leave you anyway, he is not able to take responsibility, and so on and so forth. However, it is better to listen to women who have experience in such relationships.
Tatyana, 34 years old:
I never considered the possibility of any relationship other than friendship with men younger than myself. It never even occurred to me. Before Zhenya, I was married for 11 years; I got divorced on the initiative of my husband, who met another woman. After something like this, it’s not easy to start a new relationship, and even more so when a “boy” 8 years younger starts courting you... So Zhenya had to prove the seriousness of her intentions for more than a year. I repeatedly gave him many arguments against it, but he did not give up. At some points, he even changed his lifestyle so that we could be more comfortable together, and this convinced me. He is serious and ready to take responsibility. Unlike other men who courted me, even though they were all older than me. Of course, I am afraid that he will meet a girl more suitable for his age. But in the end, my first husband was the same age, and this did not help save the marriage. Now I have an understanding of what not to do if you want to save the relationship.
Svetlana, 35 years old:
I was going through a very difficult divorce from my beloved husband, who found himself a younger woman. I had terrible depression, it seemed that my life was over. We met Sergei by chance, and when he started courting me, I was literally in shock. Tall, handsome, the guy that girls and I turn heads at? It just didn't fit in my head. I entered into this relationship simply so that my cheating husband would not be my last man. This is such a stupid “revenge”. Seryozha knew about this and then said: “We will treat you.” And he did cure it! I took care of myself and went to the gym. Next to a man like Sergey, I feel much younger. And his attention and the somewhat envious glances of the girls on the street finally convince me that life is just beginning. I don’t make far-reaching plans for our life together, I live for today, and I like it.
Elena, 50 years old:
The main problem in our relationship with Volodya was his parents. We met 1.5 years after his divorce from his wife. But her parents really wanted Volodya to make peace with her. Although it was she who broke up with him, and not vice versa. Well, the fact that I am older than Volodya horrified them. They constantly told me about what a “predator” I was, that I took him away from the family and nothing good would happen between us. They tried to turn Volodya against me. All this was very difficult. But we managed to survive. In the end, after 10 years of marriage, they came to terms and even began to accept me.
Let's summarize what relationships with younger men give and take away from women:
- Some women gain self-confidence. Having the opportunity to date younger girls, the man chose them. This means that they are not only no worse, but even better in some ways. However, others, on the contrary, torment themselves with thoughts that the man will certainly leave for a more attractive woman of his own age.
- The popular wisdom that “a woman is as old as her man” did not arise out of nowhere. It has long been noticed that next to a man much older than herself, a woman herself begins to look older than her age. With a young husband, on the contrary, a woman blossoms. A young companion is an excellent incentive to take more careful care of your appearance and figure.
- We have already written about the fact that a woman’s needs in the intimate sphere increase by the age of 30–40. A peer is unlikely to be able to completely satisfy her desires, unlike a younger lover.
- There are infantile young people looking for a “mommy” who will take care of them. Some women are satisfied with such relationships, but not all.
If your financial situation is above average, you should pay close attention to the behavior of your young suitor, so as not to fall in love with a gigolo. There is nothing wrong with splitting the bill at a cafe. But if a man asks you to pay not only for himself, but also for him, you should be wary.
Before you start dating a man younger than you, decide for yourself what you expect from this relationship. And then calmly and honestly discuss this with your beau. If you have recently experienced a difficult breakup and are not ready for something serious, but are not against an easy and non-binding relationship, you do not need to give hope to a man who is serious. And, on the contrary, if you need a long-term relationship, do not build castles in the air, but find out whether your “boy” is ready for it.
Don't torment yourself with jealousy towards younger rivals. According to statistics, only 10% of men break up with older women due to the impossibility of having a child. And not a single man cited age as the reason for the gap. Finally, consider perhaps the most famous marriage in history between a young man and an older woman: Khadija, the first wife of Islam's major prophet Muhammad, was 15 years older than her husband. They lived together for 24 years (until her death). Despite the fact that polygamy is allowed in Islam, Khadija was the only wife of the prophet before her death. After her death, Muhammad married several young women. But at the same time, one of them said that her husband was jealous only of the late Khadija, with such warmth and sadness Muhammad always remembered her.
If you are both serious, you need to prepare for a negative reaction from relatives and friends. According to statistics, this is precisely what becomes the main reason for the separation of such “unequal” couples. Don't let others interfere in your relationship. Decide your destiny yourself. Think about the example of famous couples who have been together for a long time, despite their age difference.
Celebrity couples with big age gaps
Goldie Hawn is 6 years older than Russell Crowe, but they have been together for more than a quarter of a century. The 9-year difference between Julianne Moore and Bart Freundlich has not stopped them from being together for almost 20 years. One of Hollywood's sex symbols, Hugh Jackman, has been living with Deborra-Lee Furness, who is 13 years older than him, for almost 20 years. At the same time, in every interview he emphasizes that he is crazy about his wife. Tina Turner has been living with her young husband Erwin Bach for almost 30 years - the difference between them is 17 years. Among domestic stars, one can remember Larisa Dolina and Ilya Spitsyn - they have been together for more than 15 years, although Larisa is 12 years older than her husband. And, of course, Alla Pugacheva, who has lived with Maxim Galkin for almost 15 years despite a colossal difference of 27 years
Is it good or bad? Does such a relationship have a future? Supporters and opponents put forward a variety of hypotheses.
Is a guy younger than a girl good?
Talking to a young man a woman “regains her youth” for a while, enjoying first kisses, walks under the moon, riding motorcycles in the city at night... She can “perish from love”, from the fact that she can’t help herself: “The best friend says that I look like a high school student - I run to dances, leave home secretly on dates..."
As a rule, a younger guy is more romantic. And a much older girl may be one of his first, if not his first.
An older girl has the opportunity to “raise the perfect man.” Communicating with her, the guy strives to reach her level, becomes more courageous, acquires good manners, and changes some of his views. And this is good for him. An adult girl has a lot of advantages over a young girl! It is easier for her to influence a guy, she has experience, knows how to extinguish conflicts and turn a blind eye to little things. And if she succeeds, she can admit that despite being with her lover for ten years, she has never met a kinder, more attentive, romantic and caring person. And when it comes to sex, a more experienced girl can teach a young lover a lot.
Youth, health and beauty are a strong advantage of a young guy. It’s not surprising, because hormones are bubbling in his body. He has not yet acquired chronic diseases, has not undermined his nervous system with frequent stress and rush jobs at work, has not gained weight, has not gone bald, and has not poisoned his young body with nicotine and alcohol. The girl who dates him strives not to look her age. She has additional incentives to take care of herself, visit a beauty salon, gym, sauna or solarium, and buy beautiful, but extremely expensive things.
Is a guy younger than a girl bad?
There are strong differences in male and female psychology, in which a guy, at least until the age of 27, is guided in his actions for the most part by “another place”, and not by reason or feeling. Girls are more sophisticated, and are mainly guided by both reason and feelings. Girls who have developed physically and mentally much faster, especially older ones, take on the role of “mom” for a young man who has not matured as a person. The guy’s uncertainty and the need to “wipe away the snot” greatly irritates the girl. And the difference in intelligence affects relationships.
Such a relationship with a guy certainly becomes public knowledge. It is no coincidence that the yellow press discusses such novels of stars. And if a girl is not a star, then all her acquaintances, who roughly know how old she and her boyfriend are, can not only discuss their relationship, but also condemn it. Especially if the girl is married, has children, lives in a small town or rural area, looks much younger than her age, has a beautiful appearance and dresses stylishly. The reason may be not only envy, but also the traditional understanding of how relationships should develop. Sometimes a girl is ashamed to admit that there is an age difference: after all, she always listens to the opinions of others and reacts very painfully to negative statements. She may even become depressed if she believes that she is doing wrong.
- Insufficient reliability and strength of relationships. Usually a young man is drawn to everything new, which means he may be drawn to betrayal. He may leave a more mature woman for a younger one. The fears are not accidental: “if you marry someone the same age... in 5-10 years he will run away to some young girl anyway... this is a fact of life and there is no escape from it...”
Thus, a relationship with a guy who is much younger than a girl is given a wide variety of assessments. The development of relationships can be influenced by psychological attitudes, public opinion, and the behavior of partners. What to do? There are many sayings that age is not the main thing, if only there was love. After all, if guys can date younger girls, why shouldn’t girls date younger people much younger than themselves?
In addition, passport age does not always coincide with psychological age. Sometimes a guy at 18 is precocious, smart, reliable, interesting, caring, behaves like a real man, and an older girl feels behind him like behind a stone wall. They give examples of a young man wooing a lady who is 20 years older than him. However, he was not a gigolo and supported his family himself. Sometimes someone the same age as a girl can be a “real child.”
Anyway, there are no recipes. It all depends on the specific situation, specific people. What can you advise in this case? Just listen to your feelings and the feelings of your other half, love and be happy.
Alla Pilipyuk, trainer at fazarosta.com, family psychologist
A treacherous mark in a man’s passport can be not only his “married” status, but also his date of birth. If a man finds a younger girl, others will not pay attention. Women are less fortunate in this regard. Everyone around seems to know about it and secretly condemn it.
"I found myself a boy"
The age difference makes you feel out of place and doubt the right choice. So should you date a man younger than you? Should I continue the relationship with an age difference or find an “equal” for myself?
How relationships develop
The couple has an exchange of needs. A woman receives a “youth pill”: the desire to be liked, to lead an active lifestyle, and to experiment with appearance awakens. The man also benefits from such relationships.
He grows up next to him, becomes courageous, responsible, reasonable. And it doesn’t matter how long this relationship will last - a month or years. Such a union for a personal reboot, as if the doctor ordered it.
Still from the film “The Reader” Women's installations
We subconsciously program ourselves. Unfortunately, the negative so often outweighs the positive! This is especially felt when a woman crosses a new age milestone. Oh God, I’m already 20, 30... 50! And here the attitude towards sadness appears. The woman does not even suspect that she is conveying unfulfillment. And the world reads it.
She is like an apple tree with ripe apples. We urgently need someone to shake them off. Otherwise, the branches will sag under the load and, what’s more, they will break off. So it is with emotions. It is necessary to unload her head, pull her out of her comfort zone and give her fresh feelings. Younger men cope best with this task.
Still from the film “Fan” "They don't want me"
Oddly enough, this attitude is typical of young girls. Doesn't work out well with peers or older men? I'll find someone younger than me! This is where the admiring glance and adoration are.
Due to this, it is easy to increase self-esteem and make sure that you are in demand. Sometimes relationships resemble training before the main race - a wedding. But already with a senior partner.
"I am old"
A common attitude among women over 40 that attracts younger men. Yes, we are getting older. Yes, there are changes in appearance. But this only makes a woman blossom! It all depends on her inner feeling. If a relationship with a young person will help reincarnation, why not? A new stage of life will be launched under the slogan: “Come on, honey, you can still be happy!”
5 reasons why “young people are attracted”
Most likely, a woman urgently needs:
- assert oneself;
- release yourself emotionally;
- rejuvenate;
- get fresh energy;
- push yourself into a new life cycle (often after stress, divorce, etc.)
If “boys” are constantly attracted
This means that the woman is emotionally stuck in some period of her life. Did not resolve internal conflicts. Most often, the “problem period” corresponds to the age of the chosen ones. You need to work through the reasons, dig deeper into yourself.
Example. Irina is 45 years old. I have a divorce behind me. After this, relationships begin only with men younger than her. And now I’m having an affair with a thirty-year-old. What is the reason for the 15 year difference? It's simple: Irina painfully divorced at 30 years old. She was left with the child in her arms, giving herself all. And emotionally stuck at this point. As soon as she fully lives this age, passes and moves on, the situation will change.
Still from the film “Secret Attraction” It doesn’t matter how long you stay with your younger chosen one. It is necessary for rethinking. No, you don't use it. This is an exchange. Everyone will get what they want and go their own way. Usually relationships do not last more than 7 years. But there are exceptions.
Different worldviews
Sometimes it is difficult to sum up communication under a common denominator. When a man and a woman grew up, as they say, in different eras, with radically different cultures, life values, and social upbringing. The difference is especially noticeable at ages of more than 10-15 years. But if the universe has thrown such a pleasant test, the woman will have to adapt. So what if she was already painting her eyelashes when he was still walking under the table? If two people are attracted to each other, it means they still have something in common!
Remember to use common sense
Breaking boundaries and feeling younger is wonderful. But it is important to walk a fine line. There is a huge difference between personal transformation and adapting to a non-existent image. Go to a concert of his favorite rock band - yes! But it’s definitely not worth going out of your way to be like his girlfriends the same age.
Still from the film “Secret Attraction” What should you not do?
- pretend to be a girl;
- be jealous of his young people;
- make excuses to others;
- play “mom”;
- pay his bills.
Men come into our lives to teach us something. If you repeat your mistakes over and over again, you will get the same rake. Only new year of manufacture.
Self-affirmation stage
Pass it under the motto “We awaken the thirst for life together.” With a younger man, a woman will establish the very balance that is disturbed, compensate for the fear of aging, lack of self-acceptance, and help her survive the sad experience of the past. Do your acquaintances give you sidelong glances? Condemnation comes only from those people who see a similar problem in themselves. Mentally let go of other people's opinions. You are treating your self-esteem with this man, and falling in love is the best medicine in the world.
What do men find in older women besides wisdom?
- increased sexuality and liberation;
- understanding;
- calmness, balance;
- sincerity;
- femininity and tenderness.
All these qualities “in one bottle” are rarely combined in young girls.
Still from the film “Fan” So should you date a man younger than you?
Definitely yes! Communicate, get emotions and don’t think about the consequences. This will help you assert yourself as a woman, feel young, cool, and relaxed again. There will be a desire to run to the gym, spa, to a cosmetologist, change your hairstyle and even get a tattoo. Why not? The main thing is that you will be pushed into a new habitat. Where you will spread your wings and fly towards the future.
Love for all ages!
It often happens that a woman falls in love with a man younger than her in age.
It is often possible to become a witness or participant in a relationship where the man is 15 years younger.
As a result, a woman faces a huge number of different problems. In particular, she does not perceive him as an adult man; many people around look at the couple disapprovingly; her friends and parents are simply perplexed.
What to do in such a situation?
Psychological portrait of a “younger” man
Very often, a young man who is attracted to older women is in a relatively unstable position in life.
If he is trying to build a relationship with an older woman, there is a chance that he lacks a certain...
And also the responsibility to make a choice in favor of a partner who will be equal to him in age.
This factor is not a rule, since an older woman is often chosen for the reason that among her peers there is simply no one who would be suitable in terms of development and also have similar life values.
Advantages
Is it necessary to build a relationship if a man is 10 years younger? It is quite difficult to answer unequivocally.
To do this, every woman must carefully weigh and evaluate all the guaranteed advantages and disadvantages.
- There are many advantages here, for example, ease of learning. In other words, you can mold such a partner into anything you want. Essentially, it's a win-win when there's a 10 year age difference and the man is younger., but it requires a certain investment of time and effort.
- The woman in such a couple, as a rule, is the leader; she can do whatever she wants.
- A young man can show his partner a lot of new things that a woman might simply not pay attention to.
- A woman who chooses a man younger than herself can become younger, both internally and externally.
- Another advantage of this relationship is the fact that the young man, due to his relatively limited experience, does not have serious exes or children.
A marriage becomes stronger when the husband is 10 years younger.
Negative sides
Along with a fairly large number of different advantages, relationships in which a man is younger than a woman also have some negative aspects.
- As noted above, a lot of effort and material resources will be required, so it is practically impossible to relax.
- It will take a lot of time and money to match his age in appearance. This is also a bit problematic.
- We must not forget about public opinion, which is usually far from positive.
- It is worth understanding that the percentage of relationships with such a man that would end in marriage is very small.
All this suggests that you will have to think seriously before starting a fairly close relationship with a young man.
If all of the above disadvantages do not matter to you, you can undoubtedly plunge headlong into such a relationship, which will undoubtedly bring a lot of joy.
In the process of such an affair, you should experience all the benefits as much as possible. Such men, as a rule, are not tortured by life, so communicating with them is much more fun and easier.
In addition, there is no doubt that you will not have to deal with various reproaches, instructions, and advice.
Next to a younger man, you can feel more confident, and, importantly, increase your self-esteem as much as possible.
Decision is made
If there is no reason and perhaps the strength to break off this relationship, following a few tips you can get a fairly strong union.
- You should not pay attention to the condemnation of society, the most important thing is that two people are happy, the rest is unimportant.
- In the process of a romance, you can share life experiences with each other; as a rule, the experience of an adult woman helps young people build a career. A young man, in turn, can reward with his vitality and joy, which is simply impossible to get from an older man.
- To maintain a pleasant and long-term relationship, it is important to remove all possible manifestations of jealousy from them. Here it is important to keep a certain middle ground, not to be jealous, but at the same time you should not give him complete freedom.
- There is no need to be afraid of building a serious relationship with a young man; according to statistics, such marriages are much stronger, unlike those concluded between people of the same age category.
So, if a man is younger, do not despair and think that love is impossible in this case.
There is a way out even if the young man shows serious intentions. Based on the above recommendations, it is quite possible to build a strong, joyful union. And the most important advice
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Caroline
Such positive comments.
Dear women, reading your comments, I can’t add anything new, the same situation! The same feeling of relief from the fact that now they are not burned at the stake like a witch for this). Probably the time is such that even same-sex marriages have become normal and the fact that they have children, not so much the age difference. The century is different, generation changes another generation, and values in life change. There is little that surprises or frightens us now. I turn 35 on November 2nd, he turns 23 on October 27th of this year. I was married for 10 long years, from which I have 2 boys! Why long? Because we often think what a big difference there is in the age of 10-20 years, but we don’t think about the fact that so many long years were spent on sorting out the relationship and reproaches with your peer or older man to whom you gave the most priceless YOUR YOUTH, NAIVITY AND TIME. BUT NO, WE are afraid to live happily with those with whom a month passes in a flash, and a year passes like a dream, and age and social status are not important. We have been together for 8 months, which flew by in one breath. I don’t know how much longer this is possible... He spends most of his time outside of work with me. A man is determined not by his age, but by the actions he is ready to perform for the sake of his woman, and these are not at all expensive gifts or asceticism. Two years ago, sitting at work in the evening, I decided not to return to my husband, or rather home, even to my children. I realized that living with a person with whom suicide failed twice and the impossible dialogue in a sober and not sober state became a dead end! For a year I lived in euphoria from the mere thought that I was FREE! Trouble-free parties, girlfriends, nightclubs, I signed up for a gym, and took serious care of my appearance. It was necessary to make up for everything lost. But the year passed like in Krylov’s fables)))) and I didn’t even notice how I turned into a beer alcoholic of the second stage (yes, yes, 80% of the urban population and most of the women do not even suspect this problem) not even in a year , and for all the time when problems with my husband began. In most cases, tyranny in the family does not lead to anything good. Now my so-called man, 12 years younger than me, is helping me fight this disease, and it seems like, although the man is 12 years younger than me, he turned out to be wiser than me. My conclusion is this: No matter which man made you unhappy, it should be in the past. It doesn’t matter which man will be next to you in the future! THE PRESENT IS IMPORTANT AND HAPPINESS IS WITH IT NOW! BE HAPPY AND LOVED!
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Hello, I also have the same situation. I am 37, have a family, he is 24, not married, no children. 10 months ago I met him and became dizzy. He loves me, I love him too. I don’t know what to do, my age is stopping me, although I really want to be with him, and what will his parents say. I am not afraid of the condemnation of my family. I read everything written above and calmed down a little, maybe such a relationship is really possible. I'll see what happens next. Love at any age, it's wonderful!!!
Svetlana
I met a young man during a business trip, I’m 46 and he’s 30. 2 years have passed, and we still correspond and see each other in different cities. Reliable in bed, always kisses everything, gives massage and cunnilingus. Overall it's wonderful!
Svetlana
Good afternoon everyone! I've read everything. Turned the entire Internet inside out. There are a lot of reviews and suggestions regarding age. And everyone has their own story. My story also concerns age categories. I am 46 and he is 28. We work together at the same company. But we encounter it very rarely. I never thought that I would have a relationship with this guy. Of course, I didn’t refuse the offer of a meeting. I am a free, self-sufficient, energetic, impulsive woman. Sometimes you don’t even know where to direct these impulses. A meeting took place. We had a very good time. We wandered around the park, talked, sat near the water. And then he kissed me. It was unexpected. I didn't quite understand what was going on. I thought he needed a girlfriend just to chat. But he probably had other plans for me. We spent the whole evening and night together. We left in the morning. I'm home and off to work. I don’t regret for one minute, not for one second, what happened. When parting, he kissed me and promised to call me. Some time passed and he called. He asked for forgiveness for not calling, citing that he was very busy. But since I am an adult woman, I understand and know his work, I condescended to say that such things happen. Then I bothered him a little with text messages to which he did not respond. And after a while he called again. Promising me that things would get better soon and there would be a meeting. I'm taking a break now. I don't call or write. The other day he called and asked something about work. And of course, how am I doing and what am I doing. All. Not a single word was said about the fact that he was bored or wanted to see me. Either that’s what he is, or he’s testing, or maybe he’s checking... To be honest, I don’t want to impose myself, and there’s no reason to. He's just behaving strangely. Doesn't let go and doesn't bring him closer to himself. I don't know how this will end. But I would really like a continuation. I, as well as him, felt comfortable in communication. We chatted about different topics. After which he said as if he had known me for a long time. I think if it’s mine, it’s not going anywhere. Although my age is interesting, I look much younger, and he is older. But another problem is that he is shorter. It doesn't bother me. And I didn’t notice this in his behavior. Every day I am more and more drawn to him. I'm afraid to fall in love. It's such a great feeling though! But then I don’t really want to experience pain if I have to break up... While I’m waiting. And he doesn't let go. If it was all over, he would have told me about it. And so you need to wait for time. It drags on and I become more and more immersed in these thoughts. I try to keep myself busy, but I think about him all the time. One day I caught myself talking to him even in my thoughts. I just want women's happiness! Despite the age difference. I wish everyone mutual love and truly feminine happiness!!! Thank you for your attention!
I got there too... I came to a new job and met the team. As a rule, young people of 20-30 years old work in the restaurant and club industry. Almost as soon as I came to this team, they had an unpleasant scandal with the boss, it came to the dismissal of those with whom I managed to become friends. I supported the young guy in every possible way, we constantly corresponded, called each other several times a day. So, imperceptibly, I realized that I had fallen in love, I began to catch myself thinking that I missed his calls and communication with him. He behaves with me as if he were his best friend, we joke and laugh a lot, but the feeling eats me up from the inside. Naturally, I cannot tell him or anyone else about this. I don’t understand whether he feels or not that I’m in trouble... I try not to show it to myself in any way. I have no idea what to do next. I stopped sleeping at night. There can be no relationship, the age difference is sooo big. Please advise how to deal with this ray of sunshine at the end of life.
Girls, I never would have thought. But she got herself into trouble... He’s 15 years younger, we’ve been together for a year. We hide it from our parents.
He is 13 years younger than me, I am constantly tormented by doubts that he is lying to me, cheating on me... But as soon as he kindly says a few words to me, I forget everything
I read the comments and it became much easier. I met a guy, he is 14 years younger, we are madly attracted to each other, but I constantly thought about the age difference, and now I realized that everything can be fine with us. All happiness and love.
Mostly comments from young women, but what if I’m 53 and he’s 41?
Yes life has changed
Anastasia
I support all the comments above! I am 38, he is 24. For a week I doubted whether to start our relationship or not. I think that such love is not given to everyone and we must value feelings despite the big age difference. Women! Listen to your heart, don't listen to society! You only live once. Good luck to all!
I didn’t realize that there are so many couples where the man is much younger.
Hello. I didn’t even think that there were so many couples where the man was much younger... My common-law husband is 13 years younger than me. I’m 38, he’s 24. We’ve only lived together for half a year so far, everything is fine with us, I’m very happy with him, I love him very much!!! He loves me too. He calls me “my sweetheart,” “bunny,” “darling,” “little one” :) I look much younger than my age, he is a little older than his age, so outwardly the age difference is not noticeable. For 15 years of his previous marriage, my ex-husband never called me a single affectionate word (my ex and I were the same age), but that marriage did not bring happiness, there was no understanding, no spiritual intimacy, nothing good, only quarrels, scandals and endless mutual reproaches... Now I am very happy with my beloved, he respects me, carries me in his arms, treats my children well, my eldest daughter is 17 years old, the youngest is 4 years old (twins), he even tries to raise them :), babysits them, I just have to look after them if I need to go somewhere. The age difference doesn’t bother him at all, rather it bothered me very much that he was much younger. At first I was very worried about this, I doubted the duration of such a relationship, I was afraid that some time would pass and he would decide that this was not it , what he needs in life, he will find someone younger and leave me. And I won’t hide the fact that these thoughts tormented me even to this day. But after reading so many positive stories, it was as if a stone had been lifted from my soul, I believed in our happy future! AND YES! You need to take this as a gift from fate! Live and enjoy your happiness! And don't think about the bad. We are together now, we are happy, we feel good together, we love, we understand each other perfectly. And what other guarantees are needed?! After all, in principle they do not exist. Even if your husband is the same age or older, this does not guarantee that marriage will be once and for life. So let everyone find their soul mate, their person and be happy with him!!!
My boyfriend is 19 years younger than me. At first I thought that we would meet a little and run away, but now I am grateful for the warmth, for the tenderness, for the amazing sex.
Catalina
I'm in love with a guy who is 21, I'm 31! I'm just going crazy! I look younger, of course, but still... And then I have a child, I don’t know what to do, but this love really blows my mind.
My former boss lives with a woman 10 years older than him))) they have no children, but he loves her adult daughter very much. He knows that his wife will not have children and she does not want to, but he still loves her and lives with her. I never thought that I would find myself in such a situation. First my friend dated older men, then she became attracted to younger men. I had a husband a year younger and then a guy a couple of years older, but like a child. Now I met a guy, he calls me to the registry office, he is 23, and I am 32. I never expected such a turn of events. Let's see how this all ends, by the way, he is very kind and attentive.
My boyfriend is 10 years younger than me. We love each other and have been dating for 2 years. You know that feeling like butterflies in your stomach? The state when you want to soar above the ground. And live... loving each other. This is great happiness, but mutual love still needs to be earned. And not everyone has it. Love while you love.
I’m 44. But I look 10-12 years younger, and I feel so crazy, like 20 years old. Because of this, young guys are attracted to me. And I like young people better. I started dating a 32-year-old guy from our ski company, with whom we vacation every weekend. So another one, also 32 years old, took me away from him. And he hit it so beautifully and technically, I didn’t even have time to come to my senses. He calls me his girl. My ex-husband never called me that. He brings me coffee in bed. No one has ever brought me coffee in bed. He cares about me like no one else has. I don't feel the age difference at all. I am so happy.
I used to avoid relationships with men younger than me. And then I met my man. And the fact that he is 7 years younger does not matter at all. I’m 38, he’s 31. He calls me his girl, and I feel like a girl next to him! The age difference is only in the head! And love has no age!
My common-law husband is 12 years younger than me. We've been together for a year now. He divorced his young wife because he fell in love with me. I was very worried, but I couldn’t help myself. Well, we love each other, so what? I also left my husband because of him. God, how much dirt was poured on us... The most interesting thing is that our parents and relatives supported us and did not judge us. His parents say so - thank you for your daughter-in-law. I couldn’t even imagine that this would happen to me. He says that the longer we are together, the more he loves me and treats me like a child and does not let me work. I am very happy and I wish you such love. Don’t be afraid of such relationships and take from life everything that it gives you.
I've been dating a boy for a year now. He is 23, I am 32, two children and a terrible divorce in the past. We are happy, but I can’t relax. I’m wildly jealous, I can’t sleep, I torment myself all the time, even though I know that he can’t live without me. I'm happy, but I'm not sure. I always wait for him to have a young girl. I'm suffering more than I'm happy. But I'm madly in love with him, he's just wonderful.
Throughout my life, I have met men much younger than me. And I came to the conclusion that nothing would come of it. Yes! At first everything is wonderful, but then you start to be torn apart by jealousy, etc. Now I have again met a young man whom I had met several times before and immediately ended the relationship because I didn’t really like him. And now I really like him, and I don’t know how to behave?! He stands firmly on his feet and everything is fine with him. He is 32, I am 49. We were both born in May. Now I’m sitting and thinking that I probably won’t meet him again, and I’m afraid to admit it to myself. He behaves like an adult, a real man. This is what stops me...
Damn it!!! All stupidity and envy. If there is love, then return does not matter. My husband is 16 years younger. I am 50, he is 34. Married for 6 years. We live in an apartment that he earned. I don't work. Fully provides for me and helps my children as adults. Every day I hear that he loves me. This gives you an incentive to take care of yourself. No one in my life will give me my age. I don't care what other people think. The main thing is to be confident and feel loved. And then whatever happens. Everything in this life ends. Even life itself. Drop all your complexes and be happy. Don't be jealous, it kills. He then becomes more jealous himself, oddly enough.
I'm 37. He's 26. This is an extraordinary relationship. Sweeping away everything. There is no need to be afraid. We need to live. Happiness is not given to everyone.
In our society, there is an opinion that in a couple the man should be older or at least the same age as the woman. However, you can’t command your heart, and it’s no secret that many beautiful women like men younger than them. So is it worth giving up romantic relationships for the sake of public opinion? Definitely not. In addition, psychologists say that such relationships will be beneficial for both women and men. So, let's look at the main reasons to have an affair with a younger man.
Reason one. You will become younger
Of course, your age will not decrease, the years will not go away. But with a young guy you will feel young too. The main thing is to let go of the stereotypes that surround us in this world and forget about your years. Perhaps you will like the tastes and habits of your young partner, you will love the music he listens to. In any case, an affair with a younger man will remind you of what you were like before.
Reason two. Romantic relationship
Older men who have already been married or in other relationships often believe that romance is only necessary in the movies; in real life, everything is much simpler and more prosaic. However, every woman wants romance in a relationship. It is a young guy who is not spoiled by harsh reality who will be able to prove himself to be a true romantic. If you dream of walks under the moon, a path of flower petals and other affectionate signs of attention, then start an affair with a younger man.
Reason three. The man will be proud of you
There is probably no man who has not dated an older woman at least once in his life. Such relationships often become a source of pride for him. After all, unlike young girls, you already have life experience. You can carry on a conversation on almost any topic, it’s interesting to be with you. Some young guys find it boring to communicate with their peers and often consider them stupid. That’s why a relationship with an older woman looks so attractive to them.
Reason four. Sexual relationships at a new level
Don’t think that young men are only attracted to young girls with an ideal figure. Unlike many of them, you have something more important - experience in sexual relationships. A man likes your sexuality and self-control, in addition, you know your body very well and know how to use it. Such a relationship will be a great incentive for you to keep yourself in great shape, eat a healthy diet, go to the gym, and follow the latest fashion trends.
Reason five. Ability to care
Many women want to take care of someone, take care of and cherish. Older men are usually authoritarian and dictate their own rules. Young guys, as a rule, happily accept tenderness and care. Therefore, if you need such a relationship, you should take a closer look at a man who is younger.
Reason six. His ambition is inspiring
Most often, young men do not have large incomes. This forces them to be resourceful and strive to conquer career heights. As you know, such impulses and ambitions are very contagious. It’s difficult to remain in a static state next to an energetic guy; you also want to move forward and achieve more. It is not uncommon for women who date younger men to experience rapid career growth. This is not a bad reason for an affair with a young guy, is it?
Reason seven. Ideal man
An experienced woman will be able to “blind” from a young man exactly the kind of partner she needs. Of course, this will require a lot of time and effort. But on the other hand, everything that could interfere with a relationship with an older man is absent here. We mean the presence of a past marital relationship, adult children, and established habits that cannot be eradicated.