In everyday life, conflict situations often occur between people due to differences in temperament. This is due, first of all, to a person’s excessive emotionality and lack of self-control. emotions? How to “get the upper hand” over your own feelings and thoughts during a conflict? Psychology provides answers to these questions.
Why do you need self-control?
Restraint and self-control are something that many people lack. This is achieved over time, constantly training and improving skills. Self-control helps to achieve a lot, and the least of this list is inner peace of mind. How to learn to control your emotions and at the same time prevent intrapersonal conflict? Understand that this is necessary and gain agreement with your own “I”.
Control over emotions prevents the conflict situation from worsening and allows you to find someone with completely opposite personalities. To a greater extent, self-control is necessary to establish relationships with people, no matter business partners or relatives, children, lovers.
The influence of negative emotions on life
Breakdowns and scandals, in which negative energy is released, have a detrimental effect not only on the people around them, but also on the instigator of conflict situations. your negative emotions? Try to avoid conflicts and not succumb to provocations from other people.
Negative emotions destroy harmonious relationships in the family and interfere with normal personal development and career growth. After all, few people want to cooperate/communicate/live with a person who does not control himself and starts a large-scale scandal at every opportunity. For example, if a woman cannot control herself and constantly finds fault with her man, which leads to serious quarrels, then he will soon leave her.
In raising children, it is also important to restrain yourself and not give free rein to negative emotions. The child will feel every word said by the parent in the heat of anger, and will subsequently remember this moment for the rest of his life. Psychology helps to understand how to learn to restrain emotions and prevent their manifestation in communication with children and loved ones.
Negative emotions also have a great impact on business and work activities. The team always consists of people of different temperaments, therefore self-control plays an important role here: negativity can spill out at any moment when a person is put under pressure and required to do overwhelming work. And instead of the usual dialogue where the parties can reach a consensus, a scandal develops. How to learn to control your emotions in the workplace? Do not react to employee provocations, try to start a casual conversation, agree with your superiors in everything, even if the assigned tasks are difficult to complete.
Suppression of emotions
Constantly restraining yourself within certain limits and preventing the release of negativity is not a panacea. Suppressing accumulates negativity, and therefore increases the risk of developing psychological diseases. Negativity must be periodically “thrown out” somewhere, but in such a way that the feelings of other people are not harmed. How to learn to restrain emotions, but without harm to your inner world? Go in for sports, because during training a person spends all his internal resources, and the negativity quickly goes away.
Wrestling, boxing, and hand-to-hand combat are suitable for releasing negative energy. It is important here that a person mentally wants to give vent to his emotions, then he will feel relief and he will not want to take it out on anyone. However, it is worth considering that everything should be in moderation, and overwork during training can provoke a new influx of negativity.
Two ways to control your emotions:
- Do you dislike a person so much that you are ready to destroy him? Do this, but, of course, not in the literal sense of the word. At the moment when you feel uncomfortable communicating with him, mentally do whatever you want with this person.
- Draw a person you hate and write down on a piece of paper next to the image the problems that appeared in your life thanks to him. Burn the sheet and mentally put an end to your relationship with this person.
Prevention
How to learn to restrain emotions? Psychology gives the following answer to this question: to control your feelings and emotions, prevention is necessary, in other words - emotional hygiene. Like the human body, his soul also needs hygiene and disease prevention. To do this, you need to protect yourself from communicating with people who cause hostility, and also, if possible, avoid conflicts.
Prevention is the most gentle and optimal way to control emotions. It does not require additional human training or specialist intervention. Preventive measures allow you to protect yourself from negativity and nervous breakdowns for a long time.
The main thing is that it helps you gain control over your emotions - over your own life. When a person is satisfied with everything in his home, work, relationships, and he understands that at any moment he can influence all this and adjust it to himself, then it is easier for him to restrain the manifestation of negative emotions. There are a number of preventive rules that help manage your own feelings and thoughts. How to learn to control your emotions and manage yourself? Follow simple rules.
Unfinished business and debts
Complete all planned tasks in a short time, do not leave the work unfinished - this can cause delays in terms of deadlines, causing negative emotions. Also, “tails” can be reproached, pointing out your incompetence.
In financial terms, try to avoid late payments and debts - this is exhausting and prevents you from achieving your goal. Understanding that you have not repaid a debt to someone causes negativity and helplessness in the face of current circumstances.
The absence of debts, both financial and other, allows you to fully spend your own energy resources and strength, directing them to the realization of desires. A sense of duty, on the contrary, is an obstacle to mastering self-control and achieving success. How to learn to restrain emotions and control yourself? Eliminate debts in a timely manner.
Cosiness
Create a comfortable workplace for yourself, equip your home to your own taste. Both at work and at home, with your family, you should feel comfortable - nothing should cause irritation or any other negative emotions.
Time planning
Try to make smart plans for the day, strive to ensure that you have a little more time and resources to complete your tasks than you need. This will avoid the negativity associated with a constant lack of time and worries about the lack of finances, energy and strength for work.
Communication and Workflow
Avoid contacts with unpleasant people who waste your personal time. Especially with individuals who are called “energy vampires” - they take up not only your time, but also your energy. If possible, try not to interact with overly temperamental people, since any incorrect remark directed in their direction can provoke a scandal. How to restrain your emotions in relationships with other people? Be polite, do not exceed your authority, and do not overreact to criticism.
If your job brings you nothing but negative emotions, then you should think about changing your job. Earning money to the detriment of your soul and feelings, sooner or later, will lead to a breakdown and disorder of mental balance.
Marking boundaries
Mentally create a list of things and actions that cause you negative emotions. Draw an invisible line, a line that no one, even the closest person, should cross. Create a set of rules that restrict people from communicating with you. Those who truly love, appreciate and respect you will accept such demands, and those who resist these attitudes should not be in your environment. To communicate with strangers, develop a special system that will avoid violating your boundaries and creating conflict situations.
Physical activity and self-reflection
Playing sports will bring not only physical health, but also mental balance. Spend 30 minutes to 1 hour a day on sports, and your body will quickly cope with negative emotions.
At the same time, analyze everything that happens to you during the day. Ask yourself questions about whether you acted correctly in a given situation, whether you communicated with the right people, whether you had enough time to complete the work. This will help not only to understand yourself, but also in the future to eradicate communication with unnecessary people who cause negativity. your own emotions, thoughts and goals allows you to fully develop self-control.
Positive emotions and prioritization
Develop the ability to switch from negative emotions to positive ones, try to see the positive sides in any situation. How to learn to control emotions in relationships with family and strangers? Be more positive, and this will help you overcome your own temper.
The right goal is a great help in achieving self-control. When you are on the verge of a surge of negative emotions, imagine that as soon as you stop being nervous and paying attention to provocations, your dreams will begin to come true. You should choose only realistic, achievable goals.
Environment
Take a close look at the people around you. Is there any benefit from communicating with them? Do they bring you happiness, warmth and kindness, do they make you happy? If not, then the answer is obvious; you urgently need to change and switch to individuals who carry positive emotions. Of course, it is impossible to do this in the workplace, but at least limit yourself from communicating with such people outside the work space.
In addition to changing your environment, expanding your social circle will help you develop self-control. This will give you new opportunities, knowledge and a positive charge for a long time.
Increased emotionality and explosive character are characteristic of a person who violently expresses his own feelings for any reason and cannot control them. An event of any nature (joyful or negative) will be the impetus for a violent emotional reaction and can cause emotional burnout.
You want to laugh and cry, scream or break something in a fit of anger and irritation, the conversation tends to turn into a showdown with breaking dishes and remarks in a raised voice. Any news causes a flurry of sensory experiences: from overwhelmingly joyful to decadently depressive, failures generally drive you crazy, you want to destroy, break, scream, be indignant. If you are familiar with such conditions, then you are the owner of increased emotionality and you probably know firsthand that the result of such emotional outbursts can be emotional burnout.
Emotions help us express our own feelings, but sometimes their power is so strong that it begins to get out of control. Here a person may wonder: is it possible to learn to control your emotions and how to cope with them in especially stressful moments? This can be done, but to achieve the desired harmony with yourself you will have to work hard and get acquainted with the mechanisms of functioning of your own inner world.
Emotional balance - why isn't it there?
Of course, vigorously expressing one’s emotions is not normal for the human psyche. Moreover, sometimes it even has a destructive effect on his worldview, scattering calm and balanced perception of reality to pieces, but it can also serve as an impetus for the development of a bunch of related problems: depression, apathy, the development of psychosomatic diseases.
It is also wrong to consider a heightened emotional character trait: they say, “I was born this way and nothing can be done about it.” This is exactly what you can do if you understand that any so-called “character trait” is a set of a huge number of response machines triggered within you under the influence of your subconscious, which stores all the information about your past, all your beliefs and ideas about yourself and the world:
- past grievances, especially those received in childhood,
- unspoken bitterness, tears,
- fears, phobias and suspiciousness, the habit of making mountains out of molehills and exaggerating the scale of any problem,
- past failures and failures and the conclusions drawn as a result of them, the habit of “expecting the worst” and fear of change,
- a lot of personal ideas and rigid beliefs about how “things should be”, how “right”, which flow like a fountain when the situation goes beyond its expected ideal model.
And also many other reasons that each person has their own. All this baggage accumulated over life is not only stored by the subconscious, but also determines the patterns of a person’s emotional response. It’s as if an automatic machine goes off inside - and we again and again feel anger, rage, depression, anger or envy, without understanding why.
Each person has his own personal “baggage” accumulated over his life, so we are all different and react differently, worry, suffer and laugh under the influence of different reasons. But achieving emotional balance is universal, since it lies in freeing the subconscious from all negative information stored in it, all suppressed emotions.
How to control your emotions and live in harmony with yourself
You can reassure yourself every time, saying that “everything is fine,” you can visualize and try to radiate “love and light,” or turn to the all-knowing Internet for help and ask for advice on forums or look for it in psychological columns. BUT. All these measures will be a kind of cosmetic repair, because they will not reveal to you all the true roots of the problem. It’s hard to radiate light if you’re fueled by anger from within and overflowing with aggression. Forcing yourself and smiling through tears is not only difficult, but also harmful. Logically trying to convince yourself that you need to remain calm in a given situation is also useless. Consciousness is involved in about five percent of the mechanisms of functioning of the human essence, everything else is the work of the subconscious, it does not heed logic, exhortations and temporary measures.
By eliminating the response programs embedded in the subconscious, it becomes possible to truly effectively manage your emotions. You shouldn’t treat the subconscious as an enemy, of course. By accumulating information within itself, the subconscious strives to protect us, and not to destroy, because it preserves all our traumas, everything that has hurt our psyche, and tries, through automatic means, to prevent these traumas from occurring again. Through anger, aggression, depression, we protect ourselves, like little children, from beatings and punishments.
If you try to remove these machines, then the expression of emotions becomes free. Your experiences are no longer determined by what you have experienced in the past or what “thoughts” you have about how you should behave, but by your emotional balance. Harmony with oneself is not insensitivity, it is an emotional balance in which emotions do not overwhelm and do not lead to emotional burnout, it is a calm and even state. Failures, if they occur, are perceived as a working moment: “it was and is past,” and joy is experienced the way you want in the moment here and now.
The information in this article is the result of the personal experience of its author, all articles are written based on their own results of using the system and are not intended to convince anyone of anything.
This site is a personal initiative of its author and has no relation to the author of the Turbo-Suslik technique, Dmitry Leushkin.
Greetings readers. In this article I will tell you. We will talk about how not to give in to your feelings, your mood and state of mind, maintain a sober mind and make the right decisions, and not act “on emotions.” The article is quite large, since the topic requires it, this is even, in my opinion, the smallest thing that can be written on this topic, so you can read the article in several approaches. Here you will also find many links to other materials on my blog, and before you start studying them, I advise you to read this page to the end, and then delve into reading other articles via the links, since in this article I still skimmed the top "(You can open the materials via links in other tabs of your browser and then start reading).
So, before we talk about practice, let us talk about why we need to control emotions at all and whether it can be done at all. Are our feelings something beyond our control, something we can never cope with? Let's try to find out.
Feelings and emotions in culture
Western mass culture is thoroughly saturated with an atmosphere of emotional dictatorship, the power of feelings over the human will. In films, we constantly see how heroes, driven by passionate impulses, commit some crazy actions, and sometimes the entire plot is built on this. Movie characters quarrel, lose their tempers, get angry, shout at each other, sometimes even for no particular reason. Some uncontrollable whim often leads them to their goal, to their dream: be it a thirst for revenge, envy or a desire to have power. Of course, films are not entirely made up of this, I am not at all going to criticize them for this, because it is simply an echo of the culture, which is that emotions are often placed at the forefront.
This is especially evident in classical literature (and even classical music, not to mention the theater): past centuries were much more romantic than our era. The heroes of classical works were distinguished by their great emotional character: they fell in love, then they stopped loving, then they hated, then they wanted to rule.
And so, between these emotional extremes, the stage of the hero’s life described in the novels passed. I will also not criticize the great classic books for this, they are wonderful works from the point of view of artistic value and they simply reflect the culture from which they were born.
But, nevertheless, this view of things, which we see in many works of world culture, is not only a consequence of the social worldview, but also indicates the further path of cultural movement. Such an exalted, obsequious attitude towards human emotions in books, music and films creates the belief that our feelings are not controlled, they are something that is beyond our control, they determine our behavior and our character, they are given to us by nature and we do not we can change nothing.
We believe that the entire individuality of a person comes down to just a set of passions, quirks, vices, complexes, fears and emotional impulses. We are used to thinking about ourselves in this manner: “I’m hot-tempered, I’m greedy, I’m shy, I’m nervous and I can’t help it.”
We constantly look for justification for our actions in our feelings, abdicating all responsibility: “well, I acted on emotions; when I am irritated, I become uncontrollable; Well, that’s the kind of person I am, I can’t do anything about it, it’s in my blood, etc.” We treat our emotional world as an element beyond our control, a seething ocean of passions in which a storm will begin as soon as a slight breeze blows (after all, the same thing happens in the case of heroes of books and films). We easily follow the lead of our feelings, because we are who we are and it cannot be any other way.
Of course, we began to see this as the norm, even, moreover, as dignity and virtue! We call excessive sensitivity and think of it almost as a personal merit of the bearer of such a “spiritual type”! We reduce the entire concept of great artistic skill to the level of depicting the movement of emotions, which is expressed in theatrical poses, elaborate gestures and demonstrations of mental torment.
We no longer believe that it is possible to gain control over ourselves, make conscious decisions, and not be a puppet of our desires and passions. Is there any serious basis for such a belief?
I think not. The inability to control feelings is a common myth generated by our culture and our psychology. It is possible to control emotions, and the experience of many people who have learned to be in harmony with their inner world speaks in favor of this; they managed to make feelings their allies, and not overlords.
This article will talk about managing emotions. But I will talk not only about the control of emotions, such as anger, irritation, but also about the control of states (laziness, boredom) and uncontrollable physical needs (lust, gluttony). Because it all has a common basis. Therefore, if I further talk about emotions or feelings, by this I immediately mean all irrational human impulses, and not just the emotions themselves in the strict sense of the word.
Why do you need to control your emotions?
Of course, feelings can and should be managed. But why do this? It's very simple to become freer and happier. Emotions, if you don’t take control over them, take control, which is fraught with all sorts of rash actions that you later regret. They prevent you from acting wisely and correctly. Also, knowing about your emotional habits, it is easier for other people to control you: play on your pride, if you are vain, take advantage of your insecurities to impose your will.
Emotions are spontaneous and unpredictable; they can take you by surprise at the most crucial moment and interfere with your intentions. Imagine a faulty car that is still driving, but you know that at any moment something can break at high speed and this will lead to an inevitable accident. Will you feel confident driving such a car? Also, uncontrollable feelings can strike at any time and cause the most unpleasant consequences. Remember how much trouble you experienced due to the fact that you could not stop the excitement, calm the anger, overcome timidity and uncertainty.
The spontaneous nature of emotions makes it difficult to move towards long-term goals, since sudden impulses of the sensory world constantly introduce deviations into your life course, forcing you to turn in one direction or the other at the first call of passions. How can you realize your true purpose when you are constantly distracted by emotions?
In such a continuous rotation of sensory streams, it is difficult to find yourself, to realize your deepest desires and needs, which will lead you to happiness and harmony, since these streams constantly pull you in different directions, away from the center of your nature!
Strong, uncontrollable emotions are like a drug that paralyzes the will and enslaves you.
The ability to control your emotions and states will make you independent (from your experiences and from the people around you), free and confident, will help you achieve your goals and achieve your goals, since feelings will no longer completely control your mind and determine your behavior.
In fact, it is sometimes very difficult to fully appreciate the negative impact of emotions on our lives, since we are under their power every day and it seems quite difficult to look through the veil of piled-up desires and passions. Even our most ordinary actions carry an emotional imprint, and you yourself may not be aware of it. It can be very difficult to abstract from this state, but anyway, perhaps I will talk about this later.
What is the difference between managing emotions and suppressing emotions?
Meditate!
Meditation is a very valuable exercise for controlling emotions, developing willpower and awareness. Those who have been reading my blog for a long time may miss this, since I have already written about meditation in many articles, and here I will not write anything fundamentally new about it, but if you are new to my materials, then I strongly advise you to pay attention to this .
Of all that I have listed, meditation, in my opinion, is the most effective tool for controlling your state, both emotional and physical. Remember the equanimity of yogis and eastern sages who spent many hours in meditation. Well, since we are not yogis, it’s not worth meditating all day long, but you need to spend 40 minutes a day on it.
Meditation is not magic, not magic, not religion, it is the same proven exercise for your mind as physical exercise is for the body. Only meditation, unfortunately, is not so popular in our culture, which is a pity...
Managing emotions isn't just about stopping them. It is also necessary to maintain a state in which strong negative emotions simply do not arise or, if they do appear, they can be controlled by the mind. This is the state of calm, sober mind and peace that meditation gives you.
2 meditation sessions a day, over time, will teach you to manage your feelings much better, not to give in to passions and not to fall in love with vices. Try it and you will understand what I'm talking about. And most importantly, meditation will help you disengage from the constant emotional veil that envelops your mind and prevents you from taking a sober look at yourself and your life. This is the difficulty that I spoke about at the beginning. Regular meditation practice will help you cope with this task.
There is a whole article about this on my website and you can read it by following the link. I highly recommend doing this! This will make it much easier for you to achieve the task of finding harmony and balance with your inner world. Without this it will be very difficult!
What to do when emotions overcome?
Let's assume that you are overtaken by violent emotions that are difficult to cope with. What to do in such situations?
- Realize that you are under the pressure of emotions, so you need to take action and not mess things up.
- Calm down, relax (relaxing will help), remember that your actions now may be irrational due to the feelings overwhelming you, so postpone making decisions and conversations for another time. Calm down first. Try to soberly analyze the situation. Take responsibility for your feelings. Define this emotion within a general class (Ego, weakness, thirst for pleasure) or in a more specific form (pride, laziness, shyness, etc.).
- Depending on the situation, either do the opposite of what your current state forces you to do. Or just ignore him, act as if he doesn't exist. Or simply take proactive measures so as not to do unnecessary nonsense (regarding this, I gave an example about the feeling of falling in love, at the beginning of the article: let it become a pleasant emotion, and not turn into an uncontrollable state that will push you to make decisions that you will later regret ).
- Drive away all thoughts born of this emotion, do not bury your head in them. Even if you have successfully dealt with the initial emotional outburst, that is not all: you will still continue to be overcome by thoughts that bring your mind back to this experience. Forbid yourself to think about it: every time thoughts about a feeling come, drive them away. (for example, you were rude in a traffic jam, you don’t need to ruin your mood because of random rudeness, forbid yourself to think about all the injustice of this situation (stop the mental flow “he’s so and so to me, because he’s wrong...”), because this is stupid. Take a break to music or other thoughts)
Try to analyze your emotions. What caused them? Do you really need these experiences or are they just getting in the way? Is it so smart to get angry over trifles, envy, gloat, be lazy and be despondent? Do you really need to constantly prove something to someone, try to be the best everywhere (which is impossible), strive to get as much pleasure as possible, be lazy and grieve? What will your life be like in the absence of these passions?
How will the lives of those close to you change when they stop being the target of your negative feelings? What will happen to your life if no one has malicious intentions towards you? Well, the latter is no longer entirely in your control (but only “not entirely”, I’m writing this article, which will be read by many people, which means I can do something about it ;-)), but you can still train yourself not to react to the surrounding negativity, let people who are filled with it keep it to themselves, instead of won't give it to you.
Don't put off this analysis until later. Train yourself to think and talk about your experiences from a position of reason and common sense. Every time, after a strong experience, think about whether you need it, what it gave you and what it took away, who it harmed, how it made you behave. Realize how much your emotions limit you, how they control you and force you to do things that you would never do in your right mind.
This is where I will end this long article about how to control your emotions. I wish you success in this matter. I hope all the material on my site will help you with this.
There are days when you are sleep deprived, depressed, exhausted from unbearable stress, and to such an extent that you feel like you are about to lose all patience and break down. However, don't despair! Check out eight simple, effective ways to help you cope with negative emotions and find your inner zen.
1. Realize that your emotions are completely natural.
As a child, you probably learned more than once that expressing negative emotions is not socially acceptable behavior. “Big girls don’t cry”, “Cry and I’ll give you a roll” - remember? “The reality is that emotional expression is purely physiological,” says Jude Bijou, family therapist, educator, and author of the scientific paper Reconstructing Relationships for a Better Life. – “At the heart of all negative emotions are the “three pillars” - anger, sadness and fear. Their manifestation is a completely normal practice, even for absolutely healthy people.”
2. In any situation, you can apply “Plan B”
"Tantrums, meltdowns, and even brother fights are inevitable," says Nicole Napper, a licensed professional clinical counselor and author of Moms Who Drink and Fight: True Stories of How My Kids Love Me Even When I'm Abusing Me. mind." “But if you take everything into account and plan for the future, you can prepare in advance for such difficult situations. For example, here are some ideas: put your capricious baby in the bath and let him scream and make trouble until he is completely exhausted. Or go to the park, take a walk, relax, listen to the birds singing until your “obsession” runs out on its own.”
3. Set expectations based on reality
If you are trying to be an ideal mother and strictly follow all the recommendations coming from different sides, then the only thing that awaits you is disappointment. Instead of following all the outside advice, rethink your situation and take the actions that are currently relevant for your family.
4. Don't sit idly by
Do you have to stay at home with your children because the day turned out to be cloudy and rainy? In this case, try to involve children in any activity, occasionally taking breaks of 20 minutes to read a magazine, take a bath or call a friend. “Anyway, do something. If an activity supports you and makes you feel more comfortable, do it without hesitation,” advises Nicole Napper.
5. Laugh and use your sense of humor
According to a recent study conducted at the University of Oxford, laughter triggers an additional release of endorphins, thereby significantly improving mood. Sometimes it even helps relieve pain. “It’s quite normal to have fun from the heart in a difficult or even hopeless situation,” says Napper. “But to continue to “wind up” yourself is the same as setting yourself up for complete defeat.”
6. Let off some steam
Have you already realized that counting to 10 and taking deep breaths don’t help you cope with your emotions at all? Then get rid of destructive energy through physical means - stomp your feet, slam doors, hit the mattress with your fists, or simply yell “Uhh!” If you are sad and sad, allow yourself to cry. Instead of aggravating your fear, trying by all means to control and keep it within yourself, shake your whole body, tremble, moan, climb into a closet or under the table in fear - anything, just don’t pretend that you feel good and calm. What, there are a lot of children around? Then go to another room or explain to them that you are a little upset at the moment, but that it will pass in a couple of minutes.
7. Accept everything as it comes
It is difficult to discipline your child if you yourself are boiling like a teapot. It’s better to try to accept his behavior as it is (even if it’s difficult at the moment). This will give you at least some chance of communication, and you will carefully transfer the child’s emotional state “to a different track.” Focus your thinking on acceptance rather than unreasonable expectations.
8. Ask for help
According to the Gallup-Healthways Well-Being Index, a research group based on the so-called Well-Being Index, 28% of stay-at-home mothers and 17% of working mothers say they are constantly depressed. If you feel that you cannot cope with your negative emotions on your own, seek help from your family, friends or professionals.
Good day everyone, dear readers of my blog! Our actions, behavior, relationships with others, achievements and, in general, the quality of life depend on the feelings that we experience and on the way in which we express them. They happen to us all the time, and it is very important not to ignore them, but to be able to live with them. Therefore, in this article I want to talk to you about how to learn to cope with your emotions.
What do we need them for?
There is such a thing as emotional intelligence. And in life it is much more important than IQ, because a high level of emotional culture contributes to the development and advancement of a person. And then, a person, even with a low level of intelligence, will be able to achieve incredible success in his activities and will be able to build close and healthy relationships with others.
A person’s life is varied, and during the day he experiences a whole range of feelings. Unfortunately, not always aware or tracking. Feelings are usually divided into positive and negative. But in fact, they are absolutely all necessary and useful for us, even anger. The question is different, namely their saturation.
For example, let’s take joy, a seemingly pleasant feeling, but if it turns out to be excessive for our psyche, it will lead to the same consequences as during normal stress. Or a feeling of shame, which seems to be unpleasant and undesirable for living, but if we did not experience it, we would not control our behavior, and then we would walk down the street naked, allow obscenity, and so on.
Table
Consequences of unawareness
1. Explosion
If a person does not know how to recognize his feelings and cope with them, this can provoke an emotional explosion. To begin with, I’ll give an example: imagine that borscht is being cooked on the stove, and women housewives know that periodically it is necessary to open the lid slightly and let out steam. What happens if we cover the pan and don’t give it a chance to boil? That's right, at one moment the lid will fly off and there will be an explosion. The entire contents will spill onto the stove, floor, and may well burn. It's the same with a person.
Some, due to various circumstances, hide and suppress their feelings without giving them a way out. But at one moment the slightest stress can provoke a huge wave, and then everything accumulated will break out. This is actually very destructive and dangerous, both for such a person and for those around him.
2.Psychosomatics
8.Creativity
It is imperative to give an outlet to any energy so that it does not turn out to be destructive and toxic. There is even a direction in psychotherapy called art therapy. It involves drawing, sculpting, carving and many other ways that help you become aware of yourself and free yourself from tension, fear, and other things. Because, for example, in the process of drawing, you give your subconscious the opportunity to reach you so that you hear and understand it.
Therefore, we can also receive some vital answers by allowing our hand to move with a brush or pencil on the paper. It is easy to free yourself, for example, from anger and fear by giving them the opportunity to give them shape, and then destroying the drawing, tearing it up or throwing it away.
Awareness Technique
If you don't understand what's happening to you or what exactly you're feeling, try doing an exercise called the Sedona method. To do this, you need to choose a time and space where and when you cannot be distracted or disturbed. Gather your thoughts, realize that you need these answers, so you should be sincere with yourself. Take a piece of paper and a pen and write down the answers to the following questions that come to mind:
- What's happening to me now? What I feel? Use the table that I gave at the beginning of the article, because very often we make the mistake of calling desires for any actions emotions, for example: “I feel like I want to hit him” - then this is anger, aggression...
- Do I agree, am I ready to accept this?
- Can I let go?
- And the last question: “Do I want to let this go?”
Conclusion
That's all, dear readers! I wish you to live this interesting life to the fullest, allowing yourself to be different and being able to get out of difficult situations with dignity and without harm to your health. Don’t forget to subscribe to blog updates, so you won’t miss the most interesting news in the world of self-development. Bye bye.
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