Are there people in the world who want to feel bad? Any living creature strives to feel good, at least to survive. Man is no exception. Therefore, to one degree or another, all people think positively, that is, they want good things for themselves. Even a suicide does this because he believes that it will be better for him. Everyone has different dreams and desires. Everyone strives for something in life, even when they are just lying on the couch, at least to be left alone. Why not desire?! Why do most wishes not come true, why do dreams crumble and hopes die?
Tell me, why should they come true at all? Just because you want it so much or the teacher at the next psychological training told you that in order for a wish to come true you have to really want it and you will succeed. And whoever doesn’t want it, everyone wants it. But only a few succeed. It turns out when desires coincide with a person’s Karma. It seems to me that the basis of this gigantic misconception lies in people’s excessive, unfounded confidence in their capabilities and abilities. We can observe this in everyday life, when people take on any task without having either the ability or the necessary knowledge. As a result, there are a huge number of amateurs in all areas of life, from plumbers to state leaders. Therefore, the idea of “positive thinking” fell on the fertile soil of the desire to get results quickly and effortlessly. After all, you just have to want it and that’s it.
In fact, Karma stands between people's desires and their implementation in life. The fact is that our life is a reflection of our consciousness, which in turn is formed by Sanskars or the matrix with the help of which Karma is recorded in it. This means that in life people will see not a reflection of their desires, but a reflection of their Karma, which in the vast majority of cases is very different from desires and hopes. It’s like if we put a disc with the movie “Avatar” into the player, but we want to see “Titanic”, isn’t it funny? Rave! But unfortunately, almost everyone does this in life. A simple example - who wants to be sick, old, poor, unhappy, lonely, and so on? What in practice?
We live in Kali Yuga, or rather even in Kali Yuga Sandhi, or in simple terms in the last final part of it. This period in the history of human civilization is characterized by the fact that the minimum amount of negative Karma in people is 75%. Try to realize your desires with such a force of resistance. This requires super abilities and enormous willpower, called Sankalpa Shakti in Yoga. The vast majority of people simply don’t have it. But this is not enough, the main thing is the opportunity to change your Karma, and this requires special knowledge. I always give this example: anyone knows that in order to fix a simple computer, special knowledge is required. But every person believes that he is able to change his life for the better, simply because he wants to. But the life of an ordinary person is trillions of times more complex than all computers combined, and in order to change it, even more so, special knowledge is needed. But knowledge is on a completely different level. People study various sciences: chemistry, physics, mathematics, but no one anywhere studies the most important science, the science of how to live in this life. After all, even a simple electric kettle has an instruction manual, but people don’t have such instructions for life. So everyone tries, whatever they can, using the random method. Hence the result. Fortunately, such a science exists and has existed for millions of years and it is called Sanatana Dharma. It contains all the secret, divine knowledge about life and ways of changing Karma, including.
The fact that Karma stands between a person’s desires and their possibility of fulfillment is very good. Why? Imagine for a second what would happen if all people’s wishes came true. Yes, there would simply be no one left on earth. He wished for you to die, but he took it right there and fulfilled your wish. What would have happened on earth then is even scary to think about. In addition, people often no longer want tomorrow what they wanted yesterday. This is another reason why people's wishes do not come true. Karma is the universal fuse and regulator.
Real positive changes in life are possible only with Divine help because this is the only way to change a person’s Karma. If God is with you, then what do you fear, and if not with you, then what do you hope for. This is why Sanatana Dharma exists. An attempt to change life without God is doomed to failure, and if changes occur, then either one problem will replace another, or it will be “they wanted the best, but ......”. No wonder the Bible says: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”
People are designed that way that they always want something. The simplest wish, for example, is for everything to be fine. Health, work, family, home, money, leisure and other human joys. But unfortunately, not everyone’s affairs turn out the way they want. Conflicts in the family and at work, health problems, lack of money and other unhappy factors poison our lives.
There are many desires, and most of them cannot be realized for a variety of reasons. Of course, we succeed in doing something, but often with great effort and so slowly that we get tired of waiting.
Why is everything not the way you want? The answer to this and most other questions can be obtained by considering
Why does a person come to earth?
Do we really come into this world to suffer? Some religious systems claim that this is so. You can earn heaven by suffering. But not everyone suffers, although any religion claims that we are all equal before God. And the “starting conditions” at birth are different for everyone. You can be born into a wealthy family and not have problems all your life. Or you can be born sick and never see your parents. Some are healthy, some are beautiful, some are lucky. But not me. Why?
Such “inequality” can be explained if we accept as possible that a person comes to this earth more than once. The immortal part of a person - his soul, after the death of his physical shell, after some time he moves into another body. Therefore, the conditions in which a person was born today (family, health, etc.) are determined by the circumstances of his past life. This phenomenon is called reincarnation. We hope that if there are convinced atheists among the readers of Z&S, they will generously forgive us for these reasonings.
However, 80% of people at birth have conditionally equal “starting opportunities” and, potentially, they can achieve for themselves everything that can be had in this life. They can, but they don’t achieve it. Why?
The fact is that every person, coming into this world, has certain obligations and requirements are presented to him that he must comply with. Who makes these demands? Nature, Higher powers, God, Creator, Absolute - call it what you want. If a person lives according to the rules established from above, then he achieves everything he wants. In principle, our planet is precisely a paradise, because here you have the opportunity to enjoy everything you want: beautiful nature, food, love, creativity, communication, creation. But, unfortunately, people do not know the rules that they must follow if they want to live well. As a result, they violate them and life becomes torture. This means that in order to get rid of problems, you need to learn these rules of behavior in life and follow them.
From here we can draw the following conclusion: a person comes into this world to try everything that is here: creativity and work, fame and wealth, love and sex, entertainment and travel. Of course, at the same time, he should not violate the rules of conduct in life that are established by the Higher Powers.
What rules should we follow?
I’m 40 years old and everything in my life didn’t turn out exactly the way I wanted, I feel like in an ancient Greek tragedy, in it the hero always wants one thing and the result is the opposite, my family considers me a failure, a defective product, crazy, I feel that way myself , my only child today said that it’s my own fault that my life is not what I want, what can I do about the fact that these are the circumstances, it’s as if I always wanted the best, but it turned out worse than ever. I want everything to be somehow different, but I don’t see a way out, there are no prerequisites. I just don’t want to live anymore, I feel that all my attempts to change something are fruitless. and then what, poverty, complete uselessness to anyone and a cheap coffin. this is all
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Alexandra, age: 40 / 01/13/2013
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Alexandra, write what went wrong, why you call yourself that. Other people are fine, God will be their judge, but why are you spreading rot on yourself? As if there are people in the world who succeed in everything as they planned. Well, that's all. And always. Wizards are simple. They rule the whole world... Come on, some kind of nonsense... If you yourself, Alexandra, know that you wanted something, did everything in your power - and this something did not happen due to circumstances beyond your control - why are you scolding yourself? You are not omnipotent, you are not the Lord God. You can’t scold yourself for the way the world works, where we depend on a lot of different things...
Nelly, age: ** / 01/14/2013
You know, Alexandra, I don’t like to be a hypocrite and I don’t want to look like that blind man who leads the blind. It's clear from the letter that you
in despair, but we must not be afraid to somehow admit mistakes, we are all not saints. You know, the mistake of me and those around me is often that we spend our energy in the wrong places. Well, look, you are doing soul-searching, maybe there are problems in the past, but there is no need to pick an abscess, we live now and do something now. Happiness is it not in oboak, but often next to us.
Strength must be spent on spiritual life, not only on material life, there will be peace in the soul and it will become easier in the family, at work and man
a good one will appear. We are men looking for a positive, cheerful woman, so don’t be upset, do something little by little
Mikhail, age: 27 / 01/14/2013
Sasha, are you sure that most people’s lives turn out exactly the way they would like? But they don’t want to die.
You still haven’t explained why exactly life isn’t turning out the way you wanted. After all, you can try to change some things in life. Your life is in your hands. For example, my life, my personal life, also didn’t work out for a long time. But I didn’t give up and looked for my destiny, mainly through the Internet, because in my opinion it’s convenient. It took me about 6 years to search, but ultimately I found my destiny there. Do you know how many times I wanted to give up and stopped believing that I would have a family, but I didn’t give up and got what I wanted. As they say, the one who knocks, the door will be opened. Don't give up, knock!
Oksana, age: 32 / 01/14/2013
Yes, it hurts and you want to die, but since you asked the question to the Universe, then be patient and you will receive an answer. I asked a question to the Higher Powers about my purpose in life. I considered myself a complete failure, just like you. For two years I asked for an answer, I was very worried and tormented. And they gave me the answer. It turned out that I was very successful in fulfilling my purpose, although socially...there were failures. Now I am happy and calm, and material things will follow. I can’t write everything, but the topic is very interesting. Put a specific question to the Higher Powers and get ready to receive an answer. Good luck.
Tala, age: 40 / 01/14/2013
40 years is a great age to start a new life from scratch! Change profession, city, occupation. Buck up, darling, and go for it!
Agnia Lvovna, age: 72 / 01/14/2013
Alexandra, I apologize, maybe my story is inappropriate, it’s up to you to decide whether to read it or not. The important thing I want to advise you is in the last paragraph.
I had terrible depression, I prayed for death, everything was disgusting, there was no support, no one understood, I hated life, everything didn’t work out the way I wanted, “friends” mocked me, judged me. I went to a psychologist - 0 progress, I ran out of money for a psychologist, thank God. Because his treatment method pushed me more towards suicide - he taught me forgiveness and fought my aggression. The decision came by chance. I was in a theater once, and a thought flashed through me that I heard and knew, but this time it was as clear as ever: “All life is a Game.” I put on a mask, chose for myself the Role that I needed: a self-confident, self-sufficient person, unshakable and able to defend himself with words.” In response to all the attacks from friends and relatives that they say I have everything6 in one place, I also “hit” them in the most painful places - angry and rude, but why don’t they think that it hurts me, it hurts terribly, yes, I’m weak, Well, is this a reason to drive me crazy? You can judge. But this is my life and territory!!
There were hysterical breakdowns, the thought was to give up everything, I was sick, that I remained a failure. I performed rituals that I read on websites, threw away all old things, photographs, closed the door to my old life - I understood perfectly well that I was sick, but this is my medicine and it helped me.
In my new life: “I am confident, I can do everything, I am my own Master,” this is how I positioned myself in front of everyone. I have never judged myself for my mistakes and mistakes, I need to learn this, because it is an internal reflex - block it, block this depressing self-criticism.
I began to study the language, communicate with foreigners who study Russian, of all ages and genders, thereby improving my language skills. My social circle has changed, there are fewer acquaintances, but they were like my Mask, I fed energy from them!! None of them ever condemned me, all criticism was objective, I am grateful to them for that!! They, as it turned out, also cry, and sometimes engage in self-flagellation, not everything is as wonderful as it seems, it’s like that for everyone, YOU NEED TO BE ABLE TO PAINLESSLY perceive reality.
It was terribly difficult for me, terrible pain, mental pain - probably the worst in this world, you can’t get rid of it by drinking painkillers, it’s like “walking barefoot on hot coals.” I did everything through force and to spite everyone.
I can’t say that I’m very happy now, but this is not the state of fear, horror and hopelessness.
I’m trying to change my own consciousness, to direct everything towards the positive - it doesn’t work, Maybe you can do it!! ??
I CAN ONLY TELL YOU THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS I learned in my lesson:
Who gave them the right to JUDGE YOU? On what basis are they putting you on trial? Have they been in your shoes, have they lived your life, have they experienced your pain? Do they have a fire burning in their chests and consuming pain? This is what only “pathetic little people” do, who amuse their pride at the expense of your failures. Wouldn’t you lend a helping hand to a fallen person? or will you pass by shouting Loser?
Believe me, Suicide is an extra reason to prove that you are truly a Loser, you cannot arrange your life and the best way to give up everything and leave. Why do you need such a stigma? Most people don’t have the life they dream about, unfortunately this is how it turns out...
Alexandra, I believe, I believe madly in you, you are the only one, the way you are, you have to fight through “I don’t want”, sometimes this is a very difficult path!! But when you get through it, it’s truly a victory over yourself, over your fears: the most difficult thing that can happen in life. And you, of course, can, we can do EVERYTHING, absolutely everything!!! This is a challenge, it is given only to the strong, you just don’t know about this potential in you.
I understand that everything is difficult, I still don’t have it the way I want, there is no warmth, comfort, family - but I’m struggling, I don’t believe in myself and that it will happen (my faith died a long time ago), BUT I make every effort to defy fate and everything!!!
With all my heart I wish you success and overcome this temporary illness!!
Alex, age: 35 / 01/14/2013
What kind of pessimism though! Tail with a pistol! When we came into this world, no one promised that it would be easy and fun. In the end, everything that does not kill us makes us stronger. There is no need to frantically look for a way out of a seemingly hopeless situation; try to be inactive and go with the flow, looking closely at the circumstances and hoping for the best - and everything will eventually return to normal. A person should not seek harmony with the outside world, because the world, by and large, does not care about him, he must find harmony with himself - and then the world will not seem so hostile to him. Live your life without proving anything to anyone, you know everything you need about yourself, but what do people think about you and your life - what difference does it make to you, you can’t please people, especially relatives - after all, we are connected with them by karmic ties, and As a rule, we are given to each other for a reason - either as a reward or as punishment for the purpose of education. In general, take a simpler approach to life, there’s not much of it left for a human lifetime, so why complicate everything if the end is determined to be a “coffin”, as you say, and whether it’s cheap or expensive, won’t it matter to us?
Not every person can say that he lives the way he wants, has found what he was looking for, and his life fully corresponds to his dreams. Often the gap between desired and actual is so great that it can lead a person to despair and deprive him of the desire to live further. In this article we will figure out how to live when everything is not the way you want, how to find the strength to move on and not give up.
It all depends on your perception
There is a wonderful theory that a person’s problems do not come from real circumstances, but from his attitude towards them. In fact, in most cases, we ourselves determine what is good and bad for us, and this may absolutely not correspond to the real state of affairs.
If we realize that the size of our problem usually depends on our perception, then life will become much easier. After all, someone can spoil the mood of an entire team at work due to the morning traffic jam, and someone can smile when they find walls painted by a child in a newly renovated apartment. Remember: if you turn failure into tragedy, its size increases accordingly. Well, complaints, tears, hysterics and nerves will definitely not change anything!
You can find happiness every day in the simplest things and enjoy life. Or you can spend your existence on eternal reasoning like “If only I had this...”, “When I can earn so much, then...”, etc. And if you don’t have it and don’t earn it?.. You no one will give you a chance to live your life again, use every moment to see it as a reason for joy. Let every pleasant little thing become the reason for your good mood for the whole day, and let every failure be perceived as an inevitability that has already happened. Of course, you should learn from mistakes, but you shouldn’t consider them as a harsh reality that prevents you from moving on with your life.
Decide on your desires
Many people ask the question: “How to live when everything is not the way you want?” Do they know exactly what they want? Write down your desires on a piece of paper, starting with the most cherished and ending with everyday little things. Each of them requires a separate analysis, so spend enough time on it to understand what you lack to implement it and what you do daily to achieve it.
Very often, many are surprised to discover that they do not contribute in any way to the realization of their desires. But, you must admit, it’s stupid to wait for a fairy with a magic wand to do it for you. Of course, who doesn’t want to wake up as a millionaire in bed with your loved one, afford to buy whatever your heart desires, and enjoy a carefree life by the ocean?
Okay, let’s say the dream is unlikely to come true so quickly, but living on some picturesque island is quite possible. Not enough money? Make money. How? Just like others who, in your opinion, are absolutely happy. Lead by example and follow your goals. A purposeless existence is a slow death. And remember: the stronger the desire, the more likely it is that it will come true.
Who is guilty?
Very often, when we don’t live the way we want, we tend to blame the whole world, but not ourselves. As a rule, these are reflections in the spirit of “I was born in the wrong country,” “I should have lived in a different era,” “Not fate,” etc. We have to disappoint you: a time machine has not yet been invented. So it is not given to any of us to be born again in another place and at another time. But we have the power to build our lives according to our own scenario.
Believe me, the fact that you cannot live the way you want is not the fault of the country, the state, politicians, society or your loved ones. Of course, in specific issues, all this can act as a kind of obstacle to your actions. But as for life in general - never! The problem of the absence of the desired reality lies only in the person himself. And the sooner he understands this, the easier it will be for him to get rid of her.
What should I do?
Remember that a complete loss of interest in life, which you do not want or cannot fight, often leads to long-term depression. And it’s much more difficult to get out of this state than to try to find the meaning of life right now. If it is difficult for you to do this on your own, you should seek help from a psychologist: very often we are not able to identify the causes of difficult mental states ourselves. A specialist will help you reconsider this life position and come to harmony between desires and reality.
Do not forget that a person always creates his own happiness. As the famous saying goes: “If you want to be happy, be happy!”
In truth, what we talk about happens to us. And sometimes we talk a lot, and without thinking at all about the meaning of what was said. There are many smart books and different rules on how, when and what to talk about.
But these are the rules... They are boring and we follow them only sometimes - when it is very important for us to follow them. The situations for applying these rules are different, but they stress us out quite a lot. And therefore, in everyday life we easily deviate from these rules.
It seems to us that we are simply living at this time. Just talking with a friend or girlfriend, just throwing out emotions, just talking about nothing. And sometimes we also know how to simply “show off” or simply “play to the public.”
And all this time, it turns out, we are putting together our own lives. From carelessly thrown words, from fragments of negativity or denial of the obvious. And we also build it, life, from sincere joy, from smiles and warm glances... But now we are not talking about them. Now we are talking about the words with which we cover our lives, turning it from a beautiful holiday carpet into 
tattered patchwork quilt.
From the most recent dialogues
“The kind of men I need simply don’t exist. They don’t exist! They haven’t been born yet.”--- This woman has been alone for a long time. She wants to get married, but the chances of starting a new family are equal... you yourself understand what they are equal to.
“Oh, now such women have gone. What kind of relationship can you have with them? They are predators and only want to take, or rather, snatch. That’s why I only focus on sex with them. And only with those who do not behave like predators.”--- This is said by a man who has had a lot of trouble with predators and is now licking his emotional wounds with casual sex. Can you imagine how “lucky” his women will be?
“What are you talking about! What kind of money do I have?! To have money, you have to become a criminal. But all I want is some kind of roof over my head and a little food. I don’t want anything else.”--- Of course, this man is no stranger to guile. In fact, deep down, he dreams of status and a new car, and he dreams of an apartment in a prestigious area at night. But this is how things work out for him - he survives on petty earnings and continues to “become poor.”
“Clients? Oh, of course, I have them. But they are such misers that you won’t get any income. I’m tired of throwing pearls in front of them. You spread yourself out on the floor in front of them, and they, the bastards, take money away from your competitors.”--- These are the revelations of one business woman who dreams of big profits in her business and hates her clients. Comments also suggest themselves.
But there are even more terrible sayings...
“May your children not give you bread in your old age!”--- This phrase, said by a mother to her 10-year-old son, once simply shocked me. When I began to explain to her that her words were tantamount to cursing her own child, the lady was perplexed. Unfortunately, the words came back to the mother - the son grew up, left for another country and the mother was forgotten.
Be careful with your words. Everything you say can become part of your life without you noticing.
Want to test yourself? Try to record your conversation (preferably more than one) when you talk about how you are doing or about your plans, or evaluate what is happening. Listen to it after recording and write down what definitions you give, what mood you have in the conversation. You will be able to learn a lot about yourself after this exercise and about the reasons for the events in your life.
The situation is not as sad as it might seem. To change it, it is enough to replace the wording with positive ones, watch your words and maintain a positive attitude. This is very easy to do if you start changing your life in the company of a friend or girlfriend. You can help each other by watching the wording and giving the agreed upon signs.
In your own words, paint a beautiful picture of your own life. May she please you and give you happiness!