There can be many reasons why men leave pregnant women. In order to definitely determine the reason, you need to know well the man’s initial intentions, his plans and attitude towards a particular woman, his type of character and the level of instilled responsibility. In almost any such situation, the main problem and bone of contention becomes the man’s unwillingness to take responsibility for the pregnant woman and the unborn child.
The birth of a child always involves large material and emotional costs. Sleepless nights, diapers, undershirts, mood swings of a pregnant wife and full responsibility for two family members, falling on the shoulders of a man. A child, no matter how strange it may sound, becomes a new stage and a difficult test in the life of future parents. The birth of a baby is often considered one of the stages of the crisis of family life.
In the modern world, open relationships have gained immense popularity. The moral framework has long been erased, and it is unlikely that anyone will be surprised by sexual relationships without obligations, civil marriage or other relationships between a man and a woman that have a free form.
Men run away, covering their tracks and disowning their future baby in every possible way, women cry into their pillows at night, not knowing what to do with their interesting situation. One part of society sympathizes with the poor abandoned girl, while the other half condemns the young lady for her irresponsibility and carelessness.
But blaming or condemning someone in this case is pointless, because, as a rule, both are to blame in such a situation, even despite the fact that each situation is unique in itself. Relationships between two people always fall apart due to the fault of each partner.
What are men to blame for or the reasons for their leaving?!
The first reason why men often leave their pregnant wives or brides is their selfishness or narcissism. Having learned about pregnancy, such men begin to realize that they will have to radically change their usual lifestyle, change all their habits, tastes in food, daily routine, sacrifice the theme or other amenities for the sake of the baby. Men are horrified by these thoughts and decide to leave. Thus, they relieve themselves of responsibility for the child’s life, because in fact they simply leave, without forcing the woman to get rid of the baby, which is so burdensome to the man, while they maintain their usual way of life.
The second reason is the man’s immaturity. As they say: “There is a time for everything,” this saying also applies in the case of the birth of a child; it is not for nothing that parents often tell newlyweds that it is too early to have a child; their warnings relate not only to the lack of material and emotional resources, but also to psychological characteristics men and women. If a man is not mature enough psychologically and emotionally to become a father, then he cannot perceive a woman’s pregnancy as a natural and pleasant process. A wife with a belly does not seem sexy and attractive to him; in his eyes, she loses all her feminine charm. Men do not feel tenderness from the fact that the baby is growing, developing and moving inside. In some cases, men subconsciously become disgusted with hugging, kissing and even touching a woman with a belly.
The third reason, and the most standard one, is the responsibility that men are not ready or simply do not want to take on. The stronger sex is actually much weaker emotionally than it seems, and responsibility for a child frightens and forces a man to run away. He is afraid of not being able to cope, which means humiliating himself and his manhood.
The fourth reason may be a man’s lack of trust in his woman. If earlier in their relationship there was betrayal or infidelity of the spouse. Then the future father may suspect that the baby has nothing to do with him and leave the pregnant woman.
The fifth reason is often the terrible character and appearance of a woman. Sometimes a man is left in the final stages. Due to hormonal changes in a woman’s body during pregnancy, women often become simply unbearable; excessive tearfulness, bitchiness and constant hysterics drive men crazy. Often in later stages, women begin to look bad, suffer from hair loss, and are unable to take proper care of themselves due to swelling. For men, oddly enough, all this can also become a reason to leave.
The sixth and one of the most common reasons for a man to leave is considered to be an unwanted and unplanned pregnancy, in other words, the fruit of casual or frivolous relationships. In such cases, the man simply does not want a child, he does not need it and he believes that he has the right to refuse it.
The seventh reason is the fear of not being able to cope. Pregnancy sometimes requires additional expenses for a woman’s health, often not foreseen initially, plus to all this, many women, due to their health, stop working early, because of this, all financial issues fall on the shoulders of the man, and he leaves, simply tired and scared that he wouldn't be able to cope.
The eighth and no less common reason is the lack of their own housing, men do not want to live with their pregnant wife and her parents, and men are also not satisfied with communal or rented apartments.
In ninth place can be attributed - condemnation of friends or close relatives is also often a reason for leaving; if the mother is not happy with the future bride, then the man easily leaves subconsciously thinking that the responsibility falls on the shoulders of his mother, because this decision was 80% accepted at her suggestion.
What are women to blame for, and what actions of theirs prompt a man to leave?!
Women are no less to blame for their loneliness. Among the main reasons for women’s guilt in such situations are:
- Excessive nervousness. Many women consider it acceptable to scream, become depressed and mock their husbands, blaming everything on their interesting position. Women should try to pull themselves together and remember that men are very vulnerable creatures, and this period is no less difficult for them than for the weaker sex.
- One of the most common mistakes women make is to plan everything themselves. Men often openly say that they are not ready for children, but girls take all this as excuses and try by all means to get pregnant secretly from the man. The saying can be applied to such a case: “What you fought for, that’s what you ran into.” As a result, the girl remains pregnant, and the man, as before, declares that he is not ready for children and everyone goes his own way.
- Girls should also remember that men love with their eyes, which means they should try their best to look good during pregnancy and not let themselves down, citing their position.
- Pregnancy is often the cause of a casual relationship, sometimes such a relationship occurs in a drunken state, in which case a woman should treat her partner more responsibly, in this case we are talking about the consequences for her health and future.
It is worth remembering that the maternal instinct in a woman is inherent in nature; she will want and love her child in any case. Men do not have such an instinct. And they do not have an innate desire for children; a man wants a child only when he meets the woman he loves, or after 30, when, looking back at the children of his peers, he realizes that he has not fulfilled his main purpose - he has not produced an heir.
The birth of a child is considered one of the stages of the crisis of family life, and only truly loving and understanding couples can withstand it with dignity. When planning a child, consider all the pros and cons, your readiness to become parents, financial, psychological and emotional readiness.
You have a beautiful and faithful wife, you love her very much and are literally ready to carry her in your arms. Besides, one fine day your beloved tells you: “Darling, there will soon be three of us.” You are absolutely happy! It seems to you that you are ready to live your whole life with this woman, the mother of your unborn child, and you don’t need anyone else but her.
Suddenly... one day you meet HER and realize that you “fell in love like a boy for the first time” - to the point of madness. This could be a complete stranger, a school crush, or even a neighbor next door, with whom you “suddenly” never even said a word before. One thing is absolutely clear to you - my wife is pregnant, and I fell in love with someone else! What to do? What's the best way to proceed?
Well, buddy, the situation is not easy, and if you are reading this article, it means that you have not been able to sort out your feelings yourself. Then let’s try to “settle” this story together - just remember that the decisions are yours to make in any case, we can only help with advice.
Pregnant wife or “other” – which one do I still love?
Let's say right away that the situation when your wife is pregnant and you are pregnant does not mean the end of the world. But that’s not about that now. Have you heard the proverb “If you chase two hares, you won’t catch either”? Or “You can’t sit on two stools”? Heard? So, both of these proverbs apply to your current situation. Why? Because it is impossible to love two women at once (love for a mother or sister, of course, does not count - these are different feelings). Impossible! Even if you are sure otherwise. And in any case, you will have to choose between your wife and your new love. Just remember that family (wife and your future child) is synonymous with home warmth, reliability, and comfort. And your new love (we will discuss with you whether it really is love) is passion, freedom, romantic adventures... Which of these is more valuable to you? Decide youself.
Maybe it's just a passing fad?
Since such thoughts appeared in your head, it means that you yourself are not sure that your feelings for the new woman are genuine. Or maybe you feel like you don't love your wife anymore? After all, after several years of relationship, passion has faded, you no longer want to devote all your time to each other, quarrels and scandals are not uncommon. But at the beginning of the relationship with my current wife, everything was completely different... just like now with my new girlfriend! So! Stop! Here we come to an important thought that may help you make a choice. The whole point is that love is a thing that changes miraculously over time, but nevertheless does not cease to be it (provided that it was love in the full sense of the word).
Starting with falling in love, flirting and passion, for those who know how to keep it, love grows into something more. And this “more” is difficult to describe in one word. You can only feel it.
But this is all a lyrical digression, let’s return to the analysis of your situation. So, your relationship with your new girlfriend reminds you of the first meetings with your wife. Well, it looks like you, as people say, haven't had enough time. And there is nothing wrong with this, we don’t know how old you were or why you got married. Maybe you even had to do it against your will. And when choosing a new love, do you want to experience something that you have never experienced before? Just remember that, most likely, after some time this passion will pass, and the new relationship will become more ordinary and boring. This, of course, does not always happen! Some people actually meet their true love not the first time, and then they realize that all previous relationships were just a semblance of it.
Therefore, we urge you to finally sort out your feelings. If life with your real wife has become completely unbearable, you are tired of endless bickering and quarrels - leave. A child, of course, will “tie” you to your family for a while, but without drastic changes it will be difficult to save your family. What if, after short dates with your new passion, you rush home to your wife, who is waiting for you with dinner? Then maybe it’s time to give up on romantic adventures and understand that you have always loved only your wife? And you will have a baby soon! In a word, carefully evaluate everything and make a choice.
I don't love my wife, but I don't want to leave my child
So that's why you still haven't separated from your wife? You are afraid to look like a traitor in the eyes of your own child, who is about to appear. Hmm... it's complicated. Listen, how desired was this pregnancy? Perhaps your wife, tired of omissions and suspicions, became pregnant on purpose, quite rightly reasoning that if not her, then the child would definitely keep you. Yes, do you really think so? And you seem to be glad to break off relations with your wife, but the child has nothing to do with it. It’s not his fault that his parents’ lives didn’t work out. But living with an unloved woman, waking up every day knowing that somewhere out there you left the one and only... is unbearable. The choice, again, is up to you.
In our opinion, if there was no love in the family from the beginning (everyone knows that the reason for going to the registry office is not always love), then the appearance of a child will not save it. Moreover, children feel when they are unwanted and when their parents’ relationship is not working. So is there any point in torturing yourself and others? Or should I try to start all over again? Listen to what your heart and your mind tell you, and you will find the right solution.
It seems to me that I have fallen in love, but my pregnant wife is waiting at home. I do not know what to do…
Completely confused, buddy? Behind you are weeks of sleepless nights, hundreds of changed thoughts (among which the key one is “My wife is pregnant, and I fell in love with someone else!”), and you still don’t know what to do and how best to act. Of course, arranging a tripartite meeting in this situation (you, wife, mistress) is far from the best option, everything can end badly, and you will be left with nothing, like in a fairy tale. A good option is to have a frank conversation with your wife - tell her everything as it is. If she really loves you, she will certainly understand and forgive. Or maybe he won’t forgive! It is difficult to predict the development of events; it all depends on the person. Therefore, if you are not sure about your wife’s reaction or simply don’t want to tell her about your new relationship, contact a professional psychologist - he will help you find a way out of this seemingly hopeless situation.
My wife is pregnant, I fell in love with someone else. Let's sum it up
Perhaps it’s time to end our extremely difficult conversation today. We hope we managed to clarify your situation at least a little and push you to make the right decisions. But first I would like to summarize the main results:
- Understand for yourself what you want and desire.
- Don't rush into making decisions.
- Deal with your feelings.
- Contact a psychologist if you are completely confused.
- Remember that this is your life and only you can decide what it will be like and with whom you will spend it.
Listen to your heart and it will help you find the right solution. Good luck!
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Pregnancy enters your dreams in two main ways. The first is dreams about yourself during pregnancy, the second is that your real pregnancy is an IMPACT EVENT and sets its specific content.
Anyone can become pregnant in a dream: this possibility is not limited by either gender or age barriers.
Generally speaking, pregnancy serves as a symbol of creativity, puberty or wealth. However, there are many situations that require additional interpretation.
If you are a young woman dreaming of pregnancy, but at the same time having no real intention of becoming pregnant, such a dream may indicate that you are in the stage of primary transition to a new stage of introspection.
One of the ARCHETYPES according to JUNG is the archetype of a parent with a prevailing instinct for preserving the family.
Seeing yourself involved in an activity in this position means observing your exit from the CHILD stage and transition to the adult level.
If you are sexually active, but have no intention of getting pregnant, such a dream can be a harmonious accompaniment to your monthly cycle.
In connection with such a dream, ALARMS like “what if” may arise, which require comprehension and resolution.
A man who sees himself pregnant in a dream is often in a situation where his masculinity or participation in population reproduction is in question.
Such doubts often come to mind for men who see themselves as less active in this regard than they would like to be.
The dream acts as compensation, highlighting the creative side of their PERSONALITY.
Pregnant men not only give birth to children, but also something that somehow justifies their mission in this world.
The fact of pregnancy in real life can lead to various events in dreams.
By their nature, these events can be anything from the most brutal to the ridiculous.
This is not surprising, since in real life pregnancy is a source of a whole range of sensations - from excitement to euphoria.
Other types of dreams that occur during pregnancy may relate to adultery, DEATH of a partner, chronic health problems, loss of pregnancy due to accident or miscarriage, birth defects in the child, twins, triplets, etc., as well as increased fertility, where conception and gestation occur more often and regardless of protection.
Dreams about infidelity or the death of a partner often arise as a response to feelings of insecurity due to changes in appearance or the frequency and nature of sexual relations during pregnancy.
Dreams about chronic health problems and defects in a child belong to the category of negative WILL-EXECUTION and are also a result of the anxiety experienced by women in this position.
Dreams of multiple births and repeated pregnancies are the most difficult.
Sometimes, at a certain stage, pregnancy overwhelms a woman. This is a consequence of concerns about the ability to properly cope with the role of MOTHER.
Multiple pregnancies may be a visual representation of these fears.
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Every day brings unexpected discoveries. Don't you think so? Today we discussed a very interesting question in my opinion. And they sounded something like this - but you, can you date a pregnant girl, knowing that the child is not yours and was conceived before you met? The question came as soon as I entered the room and... yes, I can.
Pregnancy is not a reason to refuse communication, new acquaintances, or starting a family.
What exactly is the problem? And although the question requires some clarification, regardless of the development of this acquaintance - yes. Moreover, I have girls whom I met while they were pregnant. For me, this is nothing more than the current state of the girl, and here you need to understand that I look at any acquaintance from the position that any person gets to know each other in the process of communication. And in this case, pregnancy is not a reason to refuse dating, communication, starting a family, etc. because everything is one in the process of communicating with a girl it will become clear whether it’s mine or not.
Therefore, to the question addressed to me, I answer: “Is it really possible to meet a pregnant woman”, I answer - it depends only on the girl. For me, it’s like a question: is it really possible to get acquainted if you have small breasts... with a short haircut... if you love the color yellow... if your eyes are different colors... - it only depends on how important all this is for the girl! If she thinks pregnancy might be a problem for dating, then it will be a problem. This is my understanding of this world, although I am more than sure that this attitude to the issue is very individual and I was interested in hearing the opinions of many and... this is what I heard.
| ... it seems to me that this is very individual and depends on what kind of upbringing or, more correctly, attitude to life is instilled in a man by his family... |
| ... no thanks! I’m completely different, and no matter how much I would like to live in a fairy tale, I won’t be able to do it in person... |
| ... I don’t see the point in such a relationship, the children should only be their own and there is no point in supporting someone else’s gene pool... |
| ... I would only be able to date a pregnant girl and maybe even be friends, but not start a family... |
| ... why not? Are pregnant women or those with a child also people, also people with their own selves and everything else? Where is the logic here? The main thing is not the pregnancy or the child, but the fact that she and I will find each other... |
| From a close example. My brother met a girl and asked her out on a date. There she said that she was pregnant, in her third month, she didn’t have a husband and didn’t want it, she just wanted “romantic nonsense”: a cafe, a movie, walks under the moonlight. In general, he was not afraid, and they began dating. And after 4 months they got married, now they already have two boys, both call him dad and don’t know that they have different fathers. Our parents adore both grandchildren. So anything is possible! |
| If not from me, then no, of course not! |
| Marrying a pregnant woman not from me... I could. If only we liked each other. Because it may well be that the girl of my dreams will appear before me pregnant. |
And here you can go on and on, how many men, so many opinions. Therefore, I made a selection of what has already been said on this topic. Study, get acquainted and decide for yourself what is yours and what is not. Below are the questions asked and answered by men and women.
A man and pregnancy?!
Men, are you ready to marry a pregnant woman?
In fact, the answer was much more, but the majority can be united and voiced like this - if a woman builds a relationship with the child and him from the very beginning, then men will immediately feel it and say no, we don’t need that. If, entrusting herself into the hands of a man, she also trusts her child, then everything turns out great.
Find a man while pregnant!?
Is it possible for a pregnant woman to find a man, how and where can this be done, share your experience or opinion.
What will happen if he finds out, even if you say that it’s from him and then it turns out that it’s not. Well, most likely a concussion. Vasya would generally kick him and hit him in the liver. And nothing good will happen at all
A guy I know got married like that (we studied together at college), but he loved this girl very much, and Don Juan left her pregnant. The timing of the abortion was screwed up, and they got married, they are still together, everything seems to be fine with them, he is raising that boy like his own, and they gave birth to their child two years ago. But I remember he chased after her from the first year, they dated, and she left him for that same Don Juan, and he loved her so much that he was ready to do anything to get her back. We were friends with her, so I know this whole story. But I don’t remember any more such cases. Only really in the movies.
When I was pregnant for a short period of time, a man met me, and from the very beginning I told about pregnancy, and as a result, after some time we submitted an application to the registry office. I don't see anything fantastic in this.
I'm not, definitely.
I got married when I was 5 months pregnant from another man. We didn’t intend to be together with the child’s father, it was just “farewell sex”, I found out that I was pregnant in the 2nd month, I didn’t have an abortion, I felt sorry for the baby. I met my future husband, on the 2nd date I told him everything, we fell in love at first sight, he proposed. I talked with the child's father, and together we decided that it would be better if he renounced all rights to the child. The son bears the surname and first name of his husband. The biological father now lives in America. But such cases are probably very rare. The husband treats the child as his own. We've been together for 15 years.
And I know when, while pregnant, a girl met and married another man. They have been married for 5 years now, they already have a child together. Her husband, by the way, is 10 years younger than her.
I even know two cases. In the first one, she wanted to cheat, but it didn’t work out; the groom’s parents raised a scandal and kicked the pregnant woman out in disgrace. In the second, it turned out well, even too well. Although in the latter case the woman is no mistake. The kind of people who pretend to be holy men, but in reality are just those little things.
I have never seen such cases in real life. Well, if only a pregnant woman accidentally meets some former young man who loved her unrequitedly all this time while she was dating others. In this case, the once rejected one becomes a happy husband and a happy dad, but he will never become a beloved husband. He loves, and she just took advantage of the opportunity.
My boyfriend left me when he found out I was pregnant. When I was 4 months old, I met a guy, seeing that he was serious, I immediately told him everything, because I didn’t want to fool his brain. Yes, and I’m not in a position to act out... I thought I wasn’t, I can’t lie, I have to tell the truth that I’m pregnant. The belly was not particularly visible yet... When he found out the truth, he hugged me and said, “your child is my child. I loved you from the first minute...” And we are together... he is happy, I am happy. Such cases happen... and not only in movies. But I despise my ex and don’t even remember him.
Now pregnant. No husband. Divorced because... "The tomatoes have wilted." I tried to meet men, at first there was no end to those interested, they almost confessed their love and promised mountains of gold. Then I honestly told them everything about myself. Bottom line: there were 6 such men, all but one, when they found out about my situation, they said that everything was normal and that they treated it adequately, but they never appeared in my life again and I myself didn’t look for any more meetings with them. There was only one who was really ready to get married and adopt a child, but I didn’t like him at all in appearance, so I gave him a hard time. I even tried to get my ex-man back, but he only agreed to sex, nothing more.
A colleague’s 18-year-old daughter became pregnant and she had been dating another man since the 5th month. My ex-husband married a pregnant woman.
I'm confused, I'm 20 years old, I'm four months pregnant. When my boyfriend found out that I was pregnant, he was very happy. But a few weeks later, everything changed. I ended up leaving him and he really didn't care. I’m left alone, but I really want to feel protected and have basic support.
For every “I know one such case,” there are a hundred cases where a man cannot be found. so the percentage of lucky women who are lucky is a few out of the masses. By the way, I noticed that pregnant women in the early stages (when it is not yet visible) enjoy increased attention from men. Apparently hormones have an effect. But the focus is purely on “playing around”, and not on becoming a husband and father.
I have a friend, he told me that he was traveling on a train on a business trip and met a girl. she was pregnant, he fell in love with her and got married and adopted a child. They lived for a certain number of years and divorced. Now he is married for the second time, but he did not give up that child.
I have heard many times that pregnant women attract increased attention from men. She separated from her man when she was 2 months old. She passed by alone all the time, no one looked, except maybe when they gave up space in the transport. And I really wanted sex. My pride didn’t allow me to go to my ex, and I was scared to look for a random lover on my own - what if something happens, I’m not only responsible for myself now. I met my husband only when my son was almost 3. Now I'm expecting a daughter from him. Pregnancy goes completely differently - the eyes sparkle happily, and men really hover around. But I don’t need anyone anymore.
Clever woman. She became pregnant in order to fix it, but she was sent. Now he is looking for a sucker to sell the child to him, because... I couldn’t sit on anyone’s neck, I made a child empty, and I’m not used to supporting myself (I don’t want to).
One of my friends got pregnant out of stupidity from a man who left her, barely learning about it, she decided to keep the child, and then in the eighth month she accidentally met a guy she had met several years ago, I don’t know for sure there was great love there or what, but that guy accepted the child, and now proudly tells everyone that he has a son.
You know, it seems to me that a pregnant woman should think, first of all, about the child, and not about men. This is somehow not good.
Just no need for nonsense. There are no sane men who want to meet a pregnant woman and have her as a lifelong friend.
I am now 4 months pregnant... I broke up with my boyfriend because I didn’t love and I simply couldn’t imagine that I would live with someone I didn’t love... so I decided to be alone... I, of course, really dream of meeting a person who whom I will love, but I think that this is not real... who would fall in love with a pregnant woman...
Is a new relationship possible during pregnancy?
It so happened that I entered pregnancy without a husband and even without a boyfriend. I understand that now seems to be not the most suitable period for developing a new relationship, but yesterday I was in a cafe, met a young man, quite pleasant, and exchanged phone numbers. I don’t know, I’m not even sure that he will call, but I’ve already started to think that perhaps there was no need to meet anyone at all, because now it’s inappropriate. But on the other hand, just because I’m pregnant, I haven’t stopped being a woman, with my own desires, etc.
I sincerely did not understand what girls see in divorced people, and even in men with children. But, as they say, don’t swear off prison or money. And love is also evil... And naturally I would like it more if my future baby and I were the first in our dad’s life, but no, no, I haven’t even thought about it for a long time. I draw attention to the word “love”, because if not love, then I am categorical. But I believe that something real can happen. Therefore, I believe that in no case should you run away from a relationship (the main thing is not to be guided by the thought that there are still 30 weeks ahead without sex), but do not start it with a lie. As the girls already said, if he gets scared, he’ll go to the garden. But when there is love, then the man doesn’t care, even if the girl is pregnant and has a couple more children waiting at home. Because they love us not for our children or their absence. I once asked my husband what would happen if I had children. To which he responded something like this: “What do children have to do with it? I love you, I need you." I remember the beginning of our romance and I am 100% sure that if I had been pregnant with someone else’s child, our story would have developed exactly the same way as it is developing now.
Yes! This is possible, but each case is individual. Being pregnant, I broke up with my boyfriend and, one might say, put an end to my personal life until the baby was born and grew up a little. There was not even a thought in my head about the possibility of dating a man. I thought that this only happens in movies, when a kind of “prince on a black horse” falls in love and marries a pregnant woman from another man. I was very worried because I understood. that it would be extremely difficult for me alone, but I was really looking forward to this child. But fate gave me a surprise! I met a man and fell madly in love with him. How many thoughts flashed through my head then! I even determined that I had to survive this test with dignity and remain alone. I confessed everything to him on the second date. after all, I understood. that there is no point in remaining silent. The further you go, the worse it is for yourself. To say that he was shocked is to say nothing! :) But now we are together and incredibly happy :) Everything happens in life!
It’s just that men, it seems to me, are not eager to meet pregnant women. I judge by my friends. There were a couple of cases, everything was fine with getting to know the girls, but when they found out that she had a child, they immediately said that it was better not to communicate with her, because a woman with a child has only one thought - getting married. This is such a stupid stereotype. It turns out that if you have a child, then you cannot have an affair; you need to immediately think about marriage, because the child needs a father. But in general, I don’t want to get married myself, and men probably don’t want to think about it from the first date either. In general, I want a relationship as a relationship, so as not to think about whether I will marry him or not. So that all development takes its course. It’s all somehow complicated... I don’t know, I’ve been thinking about it for the last few days. My ex-boyfriend seemed so kind, sympathetic, caring to me. But he didn’t even want his own child, then where can I look for someone who will put up with someone else’s? In general, I’m not afraid of loneliness, it’s just that now the need for love and affection has become especially acute in me, maybe I know the hormones, that I shouldn’t get upset and stress myself out once again - it’s harmful for the child, but I can’t help it.
To close someone's mouth, you need to open your soul... We dated a man for about 10 years, the relationship was not formalized solely due to the absence of a child. Friends had children, someone gave birth for the second time, and we simply rejoiced at someone else’s happiness! Somehow misfortune caused us to fall out and took us to different cities... Six months later he returned, I was already 5 months away from the other. I told you everything. He proposed to me. We got married! Now, 2 years later, the other one is watching me in the park with the baby, tormenting me with calls, and my husband is helping a young mother in a foreign city, who gave birth to his daughter (our children are 1 day apart)!!! And there was no love or joy left, and the happiness we dreamed of together turned into pain. Here's a movie for you!!! And I don’t know how to live further...
Well, it’s just that if you suddenly meet a handsome prince and don’t tell him about your pregnancy, he might simply reject you later because you started the relationship with a lie! Millions of men marry mothers with children, and not just one, but three. It's up to you to decide, but build relationships on lies, and even with sex... Of course, most people do not want to find a pregnant bride, but most women also dream of a prince, and not of a divorced man with children. However, there are a lot of such marriages. Dreams are one thing, but love and life are another!
I’ll just give you an example: Heidi Klum met Seal when she was 4 months pregnant. They discovered such love that they still adore each other and give birth to children. They can’t stop and call each other treasures. Everything in life is possible! What if it’s about a child and relationships! My mommy got married for the second time when I was five years old. I call the second dad dad. They have been living together for a long time, and I cannot imagine a better father for myself! And how he wants grandchildren! It happens that the new dad is hundreds of times better than the biological one.
Here we have a family in our yard: my mother became pregnant at the age of 18 and her parents did not take her home, she even lived with us for six months with her newborn son, because she had nowhere to go and my mother took her to us. So during these six months she managed to meet her single neighbor, he literally persuaded her to get married in a month and they got married and after a while their daughter was born. So this is what I mean: I remember kind people hinting to the boy that his father was not his own, to which the boy, who is now 22 years old, said that he did not care about this issue, he knew only one father and did not trust anyone, and this was his real family and beloved father. I look at him now - even in his behavior he is exactly the same as his adoptive father. So the “bombs” do not necessarily explode, especially if the child has seen the same father since birth.
And I'm pregnant. I've been tired of living as a common-law husband for a long time. In total they lived for 10 years. Then I finally decided that enough was enough, there was simply nothing left. He didn’t expect it at all, was shocked and still hopes that everything will work out. And then it turned out that she was pregnant. And now I’m sick of it, I don’t know what to do. Thinking about the child and bringing my husband back, but he just doesn’t touch me in any way... but if I don’t do this, it will be bad for the child too.
I got married with a belly, as you say. For a short time. But my husband knew it!!! I deliberately proposed marriage, I did not hide anything from him and did not deceive him, but on the contrary, I told my story and asked him to think about it. You know, he assured me of his love, swore, cried... sought... I gave in. Yes, largely because there was nowhere to go. I didn't want to be alone. I didn’t want discussions, etc. We got married. He called the child his own. In front of people. The certificate records him as the father... We have been married for 2 years. He calls his son “my son”... He takes part in his upbringing as best he can. You ask about the attitude - I can say it in two ways... this is how you look at it - both good and bad... It helps. Treats with kindness. But there are moments when it seems to me that he looks at his son and sees his biological father. My little son is nothing like my husband at all... But this is my speculation. Maybe even conscience... But this is our secret. Which no one knows about. My husband never reproached me; on the contrary, if you think about it this way, it’s a normal family, he’s my helper and support. I appreciate him very much.
The child's father and I separated when I was 3 months old. I was desperate, I had no plans to meet or date anyone until the child was born and grew up. But a month later I met a guy, he fell in love with me and I fell in love with him. 2 weeks after we met, I told everything as it is. He was shocked, but didn't quit. We continued to meet. Everything is fine with us, he met me from the maternity hospital. And I'm very happy with him.
I have a neighbor, she’s 17 years old, she was pregnant, naturally the guy faded away. And she and her belly found the best guy, and now they are expecting a child together! He protects her so much, he gets up to see the child at night and considers her his daughter. Here is a Man with a capital M! And mine, an adult of 36 years old, is from an orphanage, and his attitude is swine! Either I love or I don’t love, I won’t educate, I will prove paternity through the court and educate. So rather than such a dad, no one is better. We are 7 weeks old. And I really want a strong-willed man to support...